Should I end my friendship with my friend who has an alcohol dependency?

[Anonymous]

My friend of 2 years has a serious alcohol dependency. Like she has a hernia/ulcer and still won’t give up the alcohol (she’s 30). I met her while studying a short course. She suffered a lot of loss young (mother and other family members). She’s never had a job or boyfriend or anything. I feel too guilty to end the friendship but we’re just not suited to each other because I don’t drink any alcohol and she keeps trying to persuade me to drink with her. I’m really sick of it. She wants to go out with me for my birthday soon but I don’t want it. Can someone please advise me how to go about this? I know what I want and need to do but I just need to stop feeling so bad for her when she’s not doing anything to help herself. Today I asked her would she ever give up the alcohol and she said no.

[btbc92]

What you need to understand is that you are not responsible for her adult choices. She is suffering and is already dealing with things that aren't healthy. She has to want to get help and you need to gently steer her in the direction of help. There are just some people you cannot help. But what can help is you going to a clinic and speak about this situation and where to get the resources for her to get help herself. Try to limit contact but still be a friend to her. You don't allow her to peer pressure you and you have to develop healthier boundaries. If you are the type easily influenced by others' choices, then it is best to just leave it alone and give it to God. Leave that in his hands and pray for her. Remember that she is stuck. She cannot just help herself because she has never known help. She has been ALONE all her life. How can she know what help is? Remember everybody has problems and those who you call friends may be hiding all kinds of problems and skeletons in the closet. Even you.

[Anonymous]

If you can’t handle it anymore and it’s taking a toll on you, I suggest putting some distance between you two.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

My cousin who battles addiction of her own does not stay in contact with this woman who is chronic alcohol and sometimes you need to tell them how you feel my cousin's problems are drug addiction but she is on methadone and xanax so she is addicted to prescription medications as well if she goes without xanax she could have seizures but this woman always goes to the bars and buys beer for home with people who are like this you need to move on without her and tell yourself that you can do it

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For MHO :)

[Sam_The_Savage]

Darling no one get addicted to alcohol by choice. .. you have give her reason to be happy in life than only she will stop alcohol.

[Pterodon]

Then tell her you will no longer be her friend and witness her self destruction