Should I give my toxic friend explanation on why I want to end the friendship?

[desidoll]

Okay so I just decided to cut off this woman I used to befriend with, because she’s a narcissist. She hurt me in so many ways that I eventually become resentful and sick of her behavior. Things that she did to me:

1. Letting me to pay the bill at the restaurants and only paid back after a couple of months. (Multiple times)

2. Made comment on my body whether I lose or gain.

3. Pointing on my flaw like whenever I get acne or blemish.

4. Copied whatever I do on social media from hairstyle, clothing and shoes that I wear.

5. Upset whenever I receive good news.

6. Get furious when men give me more attention.

7. Showed up at my place without informing me on weekends just to eat for free.

8. Made up stories/lies to match mine so she could look as cool.

I have been distancing myself from her for a week now and she got crazily panicked. She keeps spamming and demanding me for an explanation. I know people like this hate being confronted so I haven’t told her anything yet.

[AngryCarl2]

Since you're not going to be able to change her behaviour there's nothing to be gained by pointing it out to her. Just continue to distance yourself and hopefully she will eventually calm down.

[AngryCarl2]

Thanks for MHO!

[the_sinner]

If you’re really exhausted with her you can skip the explanations and just move on. Sometimes it might be the best feeling to just cutoff someone and obliviate them from our lives.

[Vinnygraphix]

Honestly yes and no here is why I would lean to a yes and I will give you another reason why No.

It is understandable that you might feel obligated to give your toxic friend a reason for ending your friendship. However, it's important to remember that you don't owe them an explanation if it makes you uncomfortable or puts you in a vulnerable position.

If you do decide to give them a reason, it's important to communicate it clearly and calmly, without blaming or attacking them. You could simply explain that the friendship is not healthy for you and that you need to prioritize your own well-being.

Ultimately, the decision to give a reason is up to you and what you feel is best for your own emotional and mental health. Remember that it's okay to prioritize yourself and set boundaries, even if it means ending a friendship.

[Anonymous]

i just went through this with a friend. Literally asked them why they're being so toxic and they were shocked. Yours sounds like a worse situation though. But yeah, communication is always a good way to go, rather than just cutting people out of your life with no explanation as to why. :o

[HateyouxD]

Why did you just explain my mom and few of my frienenmys. Girl I've kicked them all to the curb and now I'm happier

[MrNameless]

Totally. She sounds awful. You don't need someone who manipulates you, lies and gets jealous when good things happen to you.

[Grond21]

Use healthy boundaries such that if the friendship ends it's her who is cutting you off and not vice versa. Although if it gets bad enough you have full prerogative to walk away

[SnowedIn]

No. Don't waste your time. They are not going to listen.

[Finchie40]

Yes, she doesn’t sound like a good friend what so ever , end the toxicity

[Guanfei]

Of course you should. The same way you tell your guy why you break up with him, it's just communication, and that way you can't be the villain because you have reasons.

[Still-alive]

I say tell her. Then if she continues to get pissy or upset about it Blowing up your phone you may block her.

[Alex8736]

block any and all contact and don't give a reason because they feel everyone is wrong and they are always right

[Iron_Man]

Why can’t you give her one final warning and see if she changes?

[BJP21]

No explanation needed cut that off immediately.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, even though he’s a Jack ass, she might learn something.

[Jerre]

I would tell her everything that bothers you

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[Bklynbadboy12]

No you don't need to give her an explanation. Just cut her toxic ass off and move on with your life

[Guardian45]

Ya, I delete toxic people from my Life!

[CubaPirate]

Don't bother she's not worth it