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I’ve had to break things off down two women in the recent years (one was a marriage was possibility) and still deep down respect them. That is I didn’t blame them for my decision and it was agonizingly difficult decision to make. They were decent women and did nothing fundamentally wrong (e. g. cheating, abuse, lying about major issues)

But I think hard before major decisions and I knew there would be likely major trouble with both women in the future. So I knew they would be heartbroken but I did everything respectfully as possible. I did everything face to face while making eye contact and telling them they didn’t do anything wrong as a person. Told I respected them and I meant it. But it was the decision I had to make.

But I never had woman give me anything remotely close to that kind of respect when I got dumped. Instead I was once told straight to my face by a girl who I casually dated (and considered making it more serious) that “When I like someone I well tell them”. She decided to break it off with me and inferred she never told me she “liked me”. She then had f*cking nerve to ask if we could still be “friends”. I told her fuck no of course.

I also was (initially) respectfully dumped by another girl who a few weeks later literally told me “tough luck you’re an ex” when I informed her about a serious health issue I had at the time.

I’ve also had another girl completely ghost me after almost dating for a year after a minor argument (the relationship was getting rocky but still).

Obviously 99% of the time you will never actually “like” anyone you break up with. Rare exception is some sort of kind of tragic romance where you break up with person you “like” because you are pledged to marry someone else.

However you can respect someone you break up with if they never did anything to intentional harm you (abuse, cheating, etc). But from my experience women usually equate likeability with respect.

Lawful Marriage - A relationship, possibly of love and romance or arrangement, bound by legal/religious/spiritual means. (possible wedding involved)

Lawless Marriage - A romantic, loving relationship bound by spiritual means or subjective means but never legal means. (possible wedding involved)

Spiritual, in this case, simply meaning an emotionally and intellectually chosen commitment

If you have a 3rd option pls give it below...⬇️

Lawless - not regulated by or based on law
Lawful - recognized by law

As we know today the online dating is a disaster, both genders hate it with a passion. I can see that dating has been that way since long time but previously the barrier of entry is less for men, the consequence of ghosting is high as well as your date and you will have mutual friends.

But still dating itself is unstable, it is like treating relationship like test driving and pick and choose. Hearts are broken left, right and centre we can see tha most of 90s and 2000s movies are based on heartbreaks, cheating, romanticising romance, etc...

No fault divorce strained it further and now most people are in live in relationship.

I think dating fucked up the world as a whole. There is no sanctity in it, only hedonistic pleasure