Contamination ocd; intimacy restrictions?

[Anonymous]

i like to save myself from a soon to fail relationship so i don’t go through the pain of losing someone who didn’t believe when i said im not a big fan on touching and avoid kissing like the plague. being physical isn’t my thing and never has been and the thought of putting my mouth anywhere on a human body or even a straw someone has touched disgusts me even though i don’t want it too. i think it’s sad i’ll never be fully in the moment with someone you love like the romance movies show without feeling scared of the germs all around me making me anxious and ruin my fun time. i have gotten better though, i can now hold hands for a while until it’s sweaty then i run off to scrub my hands raw. baby steps

[SueShe]

Your way of thinking is not wrong at all.

Sorry to say that but people are pigs when it comes to the basic body hygiene. This fact not only applies to one specific gender but unfortunately to both of them.

How many times have I witnessed a woman going to the bathroom, doing her business and then simply walk out without the most basic hand washing?

Also, people expect their partner (s) to touch their genitals with the mouth when being intimate. This is such a dangerous thing to do and yet, if you don't lower yourself to do it, you can rest assured that the relation is short living.

Don't change your approach to hygiene. You can be sure about yours but never about the other people's own hygiene.

[EmmaMary]

Because this is a lifelong condition with no actual cure, perhaps you might consider joining a Convent and becoming a Nun.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the A1 BC.

[caring__1]

You have 3 options. You can stay as you are and not get into any relationships for the rest of your life. You can get in relationships as you are and experience constant doubt and conflict. You can find a therapist who can help you eliminate your phobia before considering any relationship. Don't put the cart before the horse. If you want a relationship, first deal with any issue that might complicate the relationship.

[Summeroflove]

You know. This is how you are and there isn’t anything wrong with you. You just need a partner who is like you.


You know with soulmates. Many people seem to forget they need to find that one special person. Maybe when you find him maybe it will change later down the road and maybe it won’t.


Whichever it is. I wish you the best.

[20yearsolder]

It's very sad that if you stay the way you are you'll never experience intimacy the way it was intended. I would suggest you speak with a counselor, they can help you navigate through your OCD.. honestly it would be worth your time and effort so that you don't have to live your life afraid of germs or touching someone or having them touch you

[ironmidget]

There are many people who are this way. They are asexual. They crave companionship but not sexual intimacy.

[driven159]

you need to keep working at it and get some help to find out what is going inside you head

[Iron_Man]

Focus on work not that

[Asker]

that’s another thing, i don’t work since i can't hold a job due to my germ anxiety. fun life i live

[In_Trance]

Whats your question?

[Asker]

how many licks does it take 2 get 2 the center of a tootsie pop?