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I’ve had a crush on her for a few months so I just wanted people to know she’s mine

She’s really upset That I told people. I was going to ask her to be my girlfriend but should I still ask?

Would she probably say yes if I didn’t tell anyone we hooked up? Did I ruin my chances to be her boyfriend at all

I ruined a good opportunity several years ago with a woman who could of been my wife. I didn’t cheat but I didn’t appreciate and reciprocate the love/respect she gave me. It was a complicated situation but I failed to communicate effectively. I owned up to being in the wrong when she broke up with me.

But it’s almost been 10 years now and I have had other gfs and flings. Nothing has come close to what I once had with this woman. No one understood me like she did.

However I’ve seen plenty of other shitty women I’ve past known manage to successfully get married and have kids. Who knows if their husbands are their dream men but something must of worked for them to settle down. But it doesn’t seem like men get as many second chances as women do when we screw up a good opportunity.

It was the only time in my entire life I made a mistake like that. She actually did something to deeply hurt me after ever split. That’s a whole another story but bad karma does exist I already got it back seven fold and got it back hard.

But why I do feel like I have had bad lingering karma ever since? Or is it that men in general have fewer options?

I remember being attracted to a co-worker who was single, not dating, and I knew she was interested in dating. We were fairly good friends due to havng worked together for 3-4 years and we had many common interests.

I asked her for a date and I heard a classic line that guys hear from women: "But I wouldn't want to take a chance on ruining our friendship." I thought that it was a bull shit excuse and she just didn't have the guts to say she wasn't interested, not physically attracted, or whatever. Why would that be a REAL reason not to date? Most people say that they want to be best friends with their romantic partner, so starting out with friendship means you are halfway there already!

Have you ever asked a friend for a date? Been rejected? Started dating? How did it work out?