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And quality ones, not just settling. 28F, I’m told I’m attractive but I’ve never had it easy dating. I’ve only ever used dating apps & while they’re trash to me, lots of people had success with them. I’ll add that im very reserved, seems like most good looking women can just go about their day & run into their next SO with no effort. I never get approached, can say I’ve never gotten approached by a man I’d actually want to date. On the dating apps getting matches were never the issue, it’s more fizzling out/ghosting/ the issues you deal with on the apps usually. It makes me question my attractiveness, over the years I’ve said eff it & have gotten better at dealing with it, I’ll never let a man question my confidence like that again bc I know there’s nothing wrong with me. Am I right or are good looking women actually putting in effort?

Even with no actual experience I still believe I fall under this category, I wonder if I need to manifest the law of attraction or something even though I do think that’s bs.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

When I’m on YouTube especially, I run into videos talking about how people should not be single because they will be lonely, depressed and that they will regret being life long singles and that the purpose of humanity is to marry and have kids.

They say women who are single are being lied to by feminism which is toxic because it tells women to focus on working hard and not on settling down and having a family.

Personally I feel like we all have a choice and also we all have different fates some of us were born to be single for the long haul, others were born to marry or having kids etc. Also, science has literally debunked the myth that single people are depressed and unhappy by proving that it is very possible to be happy and healthy as a single person.

Anyone can be happy it has nothing to do with your relationship status or if whether you have kids or not. Also if you listen to other people instead of doing what you want you’ll definitely be unhappy.

You will be happy though if you go after what you want in life and accept your fate with open arms and see the bright side of it be it single-hood, marriage or having kids. Because everything has a bright side in life, even though there are cons in every situation there are also pros in every situation.