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I saw this happen a lot when I was younger. Admittedly I would sometimes get jealous/frustrated when an attractive woman choose a lesser attractive man over me just because he was “really funny”. And these men were also mediocre at other aspects in their lives (work, hobbies, etc.). Some of them were bums and/or scum bags.

Then I got older/mature and I shifted my position to “well I have to give credit where credit’s due”. If I saw an average looking guy pull a hot woman then I had a “good for you man” attitude. If I saw an attractive woman date some abusive asshole then I had “well you are going to get what you signed up for” attitude as well. And when these women got burned I refused to give them a shoulder to cry if they had the nerve to come crying to me about it.

But now I believe men are being judged more harshly by women on their looks more then ever before. Our digitized society has pushed it with social media and dating apps. But they some of them are just as judgmental as guys used to be (or worse). The only exception would be if the guy has money and/or fame.

Okay ladies, say there is this guy who is young, respectful, loving, caring, honest, sweet, affectionate, smart, and decent honest good man who is a smooth talkin kind of guy and has the mindset of the loves perception of what it is supposed to be and perceived to be as “True Love” to have a long lasting relationship with you for eternity for marriage to love you, protect you, honor you, respect you, care for your thoughts and feelings, and only desires a relationship with you.

Now to get in depth of a smooth talkin guy, he tends to come with the most unique words to say that would knock you off your feet and stands out on his own as a rarest of his own breed and kind apart from his peers his own age than the typical guy approach women like “damn, you sexy or you look good type shit, can I get your instagram or number” or what’s good shawty, you got a man… if you do have a man, he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t care and say I’ll take you from him or whatever, you know dudes like that I seen on YouTube who are young dudes in their early 20s or 19 whatever talking like that when a girl clearly is taken and not interested at all.

But this guy I’m speaking of wouldn’t talk or approach a woman like that, he tends to ask how a lady is doing, what is her name, compliment her genuinely, and wants to get to know her genuinely for who she is and learn about her as a person if only she’d be willing or gains an interest in allowing him to in exchange of her wanting to get to know him as well. He wants to know her for who she is inside and not for her body or appearance. He is the kind of guy who prefer the old school kind of love when he holds the door for his lady, write her love letters, bring her favorites flowers or roses 🌹, and having a picnic 🧺 with her in the park.

I have anxiety about my looks, and then I regularly notice women are either staring at me in general and when I make direct eye contact they smile. But I'm too scared to approach them because maybe it's because they think I look strange as I'm 191cm 6'3" tall and I feel my posture isn't the best... Would that be why they are staring?

Or the other bizarre thing I notice; is women young and old and I mean from approximately what I assume is 18+ y. o to 60 y. o staring at me, but not my face.. they stare at my crotch area.. as I can see them looking at me but not at my face initially, and if I catch them staring there they either go red and seem really embarrassed, with a few younger girls who were serving me forgetting to charge me for my purchases... And therefore seem really embarrassed and fumbling around... Or they will be staring down there and then when they realise I've noticed them staring they will look up and smile directly to my face or smile but go slightly red and embarrassed...

I'm so anxious and worried I'm some tall weird looking guy and that's why they are staring at me and my face or bizarrely at my Crotch area and getting embarrassed like they forgot what they were doing and bright red in the face, or slightly red and smiling directly at me...

I don't approach women anymore as i did a few times in my life and they acted like I had no right to be approaching them as I'm not good enough for them...

Instead a few of the times I've noticed women staring at my lower region and didn't get embarrassed but smiled, well they approached me and initiated the flirting...

What is going on with me... ?

Are they approving me because they pitty me... 😞

As I'm often told online that I'm "very unattractive" so a nice way to say I'm ugly, and I'm not their type... So why would they stare and approach me?

I feel so defeated and honestly think even looking for anyone that would be attracted to me is utterly useless 😔