I’ve noticed most respectful young men approach women. Do only ugly older men approach now and what makes them think they’ll be accepted?

[Anonymous]

I am 19. I have some male friends my age all of them tell me they would never just approach a girl no matter how pretty but ever since I was in my young teens unattractive old men have had no issue coming up to, following, catcalling, staring, and honking at me. It is clear to men like that when a girl is young but somehow what feels like a large portion of men just don’t seem to care. They’ll try to stick their dick in anything with a pulse! Men complain about women not being more open but try to be more open when your whole life you’ve been drooled over by people who view you as a fleshlight.

I’ve seen guys my age approach other girls but it’s always the lowest quality of guy, the over confident pushy unintelligent players not good guys. They’re the type of guys good guys stay away from and judge from a a distance.

I don’t understand when guys on here say men don’t approach women anymore but the truth is the do and yes I do reject them all because they’re always inappropriate whether that been in age or approach usually both. Now even though I’m “of age” I still find those men disgusting because they didn’t care about how old I was at 15 and their approach is still just as disgusting as it was then. I can’t even imagine how they would expect for me or any other women to say yes to them! Maybe more respectable men have stopped approaching but as many men as other men seen to think.

[CuriousHubby]

You can thank online dating for this! Only the ugly approach or old... Cause they are desperate and have a need... Really they need self control and a brain. Due to media they think they are so special and deserve everything.

The handsome, respectful guys know it's a little taboo to approach now so they don't need to. They make friends and ask girls out. Not just go hey wanna get a drink? At worst they do online dating.

Sadly the internet and self hel screams just go for it ask her out and approach the girl! Be confident... Bad approach don't cat call be respectful!

Worst part is they know younger ladies are more open to guys. More maybe open to older relationships. Gross but very few girls like older and those stories travel and stick around so they try for more manipulateable younger girls.

So sorry for those useless losers! They give me a terrible and awful reputation.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I’ve noticed as well. Dating through friends of friends, hobbies, groups, casual conversation, getting to know someone first is much more common now and pretty much diminishes the creep factor because it’s someone you can trust. Some people still haven’t picked up on that yet though and prefer the uncomfortable route with people they think are easy targets. There are definitely some vulnerable 15-20 year old women though who get impressed by these men not realizing how sleazy they are. It’s far from the majority of men but they can be so disruptive and president at it feels like more then it is

[CuriousHubby]

Fully agree! Also this happens a lot as older adults too. Most focus on a career and are hopeless at dating usually making bad choices. Because they have no experience and never learned before trying to date alone.
Often at conferences they have a sleezy person they meet who is trash and they get feelings and head to the hotel room cause they are adults but they want a relationship while the other wants free sex and company.

[Serkee]

Young men have been trained not to approach women. They're not only rejected anymore if the women aren't interested, they're treated like creeps. The risk just isn't worth the reward anymore, unless you're a really attractive guy. Boys nowadays are taught that they're oppressors, and that any masculine behavior is toxic and misogynistic, including approaching wome unless they're clearly invited to do so. They feel like bad people just for being in the same room as women, even if they know that isn't the case. So of course now the young men who regularly approach women are the arrogant douches who don't care how women feel, the simps who respect wahmen so hard they think they're entitled to affection, and the rare ones who are able to tune out and ignore all the anti-man propaganda they've been fed their entire lives. Most other young guys are either too scared of rejection and ridicule to approach women or too jaded to bother. Of course dating apps only make the problem even worse.