Why do people get angry at unattractive older men dating attractive young women?

[Anonymous]

I just dont get it. There's one thing if a guy deliberately leaves his wife for a younger woman.
But if a guy is in his 60s and gets divorced, why on earth should he be forced to date a unattractive women his own age if he can find himself a gorgeous 20 year old?

He isn't obligated to date someone his age or someone he's not attracted to

[Anonymous]

It's because everyone projects what they think a person deserves in life and this projection is often influence by what the media tells us on who is deserving and who is not. We see a black guy for example driving a nice car and many whites and non-black get upset because to them blacks are lowest in totem pole in society and don't deserve that; its why black get pulled over so much and accuse of stealing a car.

We see an unattractive older guy who does not appear to be balling with an attractive young women and we project our own idea of who that girl should be with which usually is an attractive young and/or rich guy.

This projection also goes so far in school and jobs. Attractive people move up higher in work, have more help in school and get hired for jobs faster because people want them to succeeded. Less attractive people get less help and many people already have set up that this person is shit and not going to make much of their life.

Same thing when it comes to short guys and tall guys. Research shows tall guys make more than short guys. Why? It's because people want tall guys to succeed and be successful in life because they see them as leaders while short men are seen as followers. People project their own view of the world onto others and sadly that view becomes common place among everyone thanks to media influencing us on who should get good things in life and who should be treated badly.

[MadeInAmerica]

Most people are not angry with the guy. They are angry with the women because most of them are doing it more for the money and security then for love.

[nalaa]

I get angry with the guy. In some situations anyway like in what I described where guy go to poor countries to have sex and relationship with young women in need. It's abusive first of all, it lacks human decency and it makes me ashamed of my country (men).

And then of course there cases where is clearly in it for the money and everyone knows it but he goes around bragging about how women want men in their 60s. That's just annoying I guess

[nalaa]

First of all, it's not normal. Most people don't feel good about seeing a couple with a large age difference kissing and stuff. It inherently seems wrong to most of us because it is. Nature intended for us to mate with people of similar age and fertility. You know yourself are you attracted to women in their 60s? I'm guessing not really well girls feel the same. Fertility is attractive at 60 you're way past your peak. Which brings me to point two:

For the most part that doesn't happen naturally. It's either he is rich or famous or he went to poorer country like I don't know let's say Thailand specifically to find a young girl that needs money and would hence bear to be with him for the money. And that kind sex tourism is not ok

[Asker]

In other words, if a guy is 60 and becomes single, he should be forced to date women his own age eventough he might not be attracted to them

[nalaa]

I'm not giving dating advice here I'm saying that what you shouldn't do is to be a sex tourist or otherwise be with someone who just want your for money.

Come on 99% can not and never will be able to land a girl in her 20s or even 30s naturally. There's always either money or abuse involved. Or hey why not both

[Asker]

You're just saying it because you are disgusted by how older men look. Guess what, then I can say I am disgusted by woman who have small breasts and think there's no way a flat chested girl can land a hot guy naturally. So from now on when I see a flat chested girl with a handsome guy I will say its either money or abuse

[nalaa]

I wouldn't say disgusted I would say not attracted. And guess most people aren't attracted to people who could be their grandparents. Most people are attracted to young and healthy people. You're attractive when you're young and you're wise when you're old. It's just how the world works

You might think a girl with small breast is gross but it's certainly not the general consensus. And even if it was, her and an attractive guy her age would still have the opportunity to have a normal life together.
But yes I would agree it would be rare to happen organically in that case. But it's not reality and even if it was it's a different situation.

I mean come on, do you have sister? How do you feel about her dating a guy in his 60s? And if you had daughters how would you feel about them doing that?
Of course now you're gonna say you'd think it's great but realistically most men don't want this for their loved ones because they inherently realize it's wrong

[Asker]

You're right, I wouldn't be comfortable with my own daughter dating a 60 year old.
But still, I dont get angry when I see some random 20 year old with a 60 year old guy. Because he went for what he found attractive. Are you telling when you're 60 and you become a single, you have a fat, balding guy your age interested in you and at the same time a muscular, handsome, tall 20 year old guy interested you would go with the old one?

[nalaa]

The point is that the tall 20 year old guy wouldn't be interested in me. Not really anyways.

As I said, most men don't get that choice organically. In fact most men aren't even rich so they can't get it that way either, the only way they can get it is by going to a struggling country which puts them into a position to take advantage of the situation of girls there, which yes I think is disgusting and wrong and in fact should be illegal

And yes maybe there is one in a million of those relationships that happened organically but it's far far from the norm, so do you blame people for judging what IS the norm?

[Anonymous]

Becuase he comes across as a disgusting, immature perverted, dirty old man who is to fucked up in the head and the girl come across as a dirty little gold digger or someone who has serious mental/daddy issues.

[SarahsSummer]

I love older men as much as the next girl but being 20 and with a 60 yo guy is super creepy!

[Asker]

I think its super creepy the idea of me being with a girl with small boobs or who has an unattractive face but I dont get angry when I see a girl like that with another guy, regardless of how that guy looks.
Again, I think if a guy is 60 and single he is not obligated to date a women his own age. We all have the right to go for what we find attractive (within the rules of the law ofc)

[SarahsSummer]

I sincerely hope you are just bad at making analogies.

[Anonymous]

social biases, very similar to racism in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Old guys are gross.

[BubbleBoy69]

Is this guy gross? He is 40 years old

https://i.imgur.com/Gvi0RVv.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/5JZZcmb.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/MzB6Gr9.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/H1q9ahk.jpg

[Opinion Owner]

@BubbleBoy69 your average 40 years old doesn't look like that.

[cupidkisses]

they must be jealous lol

[Bandit74]

Jealousy