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So my roommate’s bf’s best friend is super attractive and checks off a lot of my boxes personality & life desires wise. I very much want to pursue something with him, but I’m super nervous since I’m in my mid/late 20s & have only ever had 1 boyfriend (who I dated off & on for a few months at a time for a few years, v toxic), he’s 1.5 years younger than me & has only ever had 1 girlfriend (only dated her for a couple months), & we’re also in a friend group together. I have more hookup experience than him, but I don’t really have a lot of dating experience, especially not healthy dating experience. The few times I have dated in the past, I’ve been told that I’m too clingy or move too fast to be serious bc I’m very touchy when I like someone. My love language is physical touch & sex is how I express a lot of affection, & sex early on doesn’t mean I’m not trying to be serious, it means I’m interested in you. If I can’t express myself in that way, then we’re not compatible.

He invited me over to his place the other night to watch some tv, & I went over & we drank some wine. I was holding his hand, put my head on his shoulder, cuddled up next to him, etc. I was expecting him to make the next move if he was interested in doing so. I’m very nervous about making all the physical moves bc I’ve been told in the past that I’m too cuddly & too physical. Well, he has even less experience than me & I don’t think he really knows how or when to move it to the next level. Long story short, I ended up leaving the other night without so much as a kiss from him, despite me being very cuddly. He seemed receptive to me touching him and when I even asked if I was doing too much he told me no, he just didn’t make a move to move things forward.

Is he uninterested & just wanting the attention? Or does it seem like he’s nervous too?

I had annoyed him so he said he hated me, hated time with me, hated going out with me in public, hated sex with me it was just to keep me sweet

Then a few days later said he just said it. He loves time with me, he loves me and sex is the best he’s had

Then again same thing happened this week he said he didn’t want to see me anymore and he hated how I am in public and tried to lie and say he hadn’t started sex that week when he had. Said time together wasn’t bad but wasn’t good that week.

We’ve lived together for 9 months. In those 9 months we’ve spend 4 nights a week together and had sex 4 x per week. We always had a laugh, he told me he loved me daily. Phoned me daily at work for an hour when he had to drive cars about. Said he was excited for dates. He also started the sex 2 times per week. Some weeks there was more some less. He told me loads how happy he was with me etc.

He asked me a few times for dates and I asked him a few times too. I usually asked him for time together but he always did it. Or hed say find something to watch.

We’d have 5 perfect days a week then he’d go weird for 2 days a week.

Did he mean those things or was it just to hurt me?