My boyfriend pressured me into sex?

[Anonymous]

So I’m visiting family with my boyfriend. I have two toddlers and I drove down from Missouri to Florida for him. We were visiting his sisters house and her daughter was playing with mine. He wanted to go upstairs and “shower” because we haven’t had a chance to have sex yet. I’m not super open with my sexual life and I guess his sister didn’t care but I felt weird about it and I wanted to respect their house and not expect them to watch my daughters while I did that. I texted him saying I wasn’t super comfortable and he instantly got moody. He said later he was just sexually frustrated. I honestly didn’t look like I was wanting to. I felt like if I kept saying I wasn’t wanting to he would get more annoyed. I went upstairs with him, and I was distant and he seemed like he just wanted what he wanted. I gave in eventually but now I just feel distant from him..

[jayhams]

At the end of the day in that situation it was your choice. It's hard to say based on what you said if he is a selfish pig or if he let the excitement/anticipation of the moment get the best of him. I would definitely be open about it and explain everything to him.

[Jackblue]

Well, unfortunately nagging is part of relationships, women want men to do more housework and take them out to fancy places, men want women to have sex with them more, unless he got violent with you this is arguably something that can be talked out. It may have felt like you were neglecting your kids, but it is inevitable that you will be apart from them at times, besides kids even young ones want time apart from their parents too. Do your kids enjoy time with his sister?

[FilmGuy93]

He was being a bit selfish in that moment. You need to be more firm and insistant about your boundaries in the future.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I would not do the mistake he did. He may not see it because he is not thinking from your angle/perspective. But as a third person, I can say he was thinking for himself, at least for this instant.

I feel you need to be assertive and state the facts to get his head straight. Next time.

[Asker]

Well he doesn’t give me oral or appreciate my body so it doesn’t help that it’s never for me too..

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I am a virgin, hence I am sorry I do not know how oral or even sex in general feels. But from an emotional standpoint, appreciation is a must. You need to talk to him about this.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I mean how one does not appreciate his/her partner's body while having sex? You are literally in the body.
And you have kids too. He needs to consider all of this. It is very important for your mental health.

[Asker]

I’m conflicted if we should continue our relationship but I do love him and I’ve met all his family and my kids met his family. But he’s done a lot of small things that I don’t like.. that are selfish and I feel like I shouldn’t have to tell the person I love to appreciate my body if they don’t..

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Are your kids from him?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Please do not take the tension of upsetting his family members or anything. They will soon forget you, I can assure you. People move on. People are much more practical than you think.
Just think of your well-being and your kids' future.

Try to mend his ways, talk to him. Hire a therapist. Do whatever you can. Also, do not try to keep it under wraps. If something is wrong between a couple, exposing it to the world makes the repair faster. Of course your problem is a bit difficult to share. But you can find ways to ask.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I am sorry if I asked the wrong question. I just wanted to know if your kids are emotionally attached to him. And to what degree. Nothing else.

[bamesjond0069]

I mean if you don't take care of him, don't expect him to take care of you. I don't know how people don't get this basic stuff. Smh. Like I'm going to take a girl on dates or remember anniversary or something if we don't have sex. Yeah right. Fuck that.

[Asker]

You sound like a douchebag because I suck more dick than any female you’ve probably ever met so that’s not the problem. Toolbag lmao

[bamesjond0069]

I mean if he's crazy horny then clearly you don't suck much dick.

[Asker]

I’m not going to argue considering you don’t know our current situation, but regardless if someone is saying no you should respect that. And if he’s crazy horny he could wait until we aren’t at his sisters house with my children there

[TheorionMage]

"Quid Pro Quo"... in 'friends with benefits' especially if NEITHER of you
are considering a long term relationship

[BJP21]

Thats a big time appropriation problem. Id sit down with him there's a time and place for that kind of activity, and yes, you should respect their house even if your sister is ok with it. I wouldn't be pressured into doing anything in my opinion.

[JamesDiaz11]

Guys have sexual needs- I'm not saying that was the best place for it, but there's only so many times in a row you can expect him to find sex elsewhere.

[Tyrael]

You need to just stick to your guns in future. I'd talk to him about this and make him understand how it made you feel and that it can't happen again.

[Berethor]

Yea, and men tend to be more sexual than women, you should know it by now.

[notwoke]

well, its' called compromise. Sometimes you give in and sometimes he does. This is an important thing to balance in a relatonaship. No one died

[Anonymous]

umm lets see you have a mouth don't you? you have a set of vocal chords i assume? so USE THEM and tell the pompous jackass NO MEANS NO and if he's to dumb to understand that then dump him or is that to hard for you to comprehend?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yep. Looks like that's what happened.

What's your question?

[Fuentes]

I mean he could have waited, but everyone is adults there.

[Nahid1707]

How long was the drive you did?😊

[Asker]

14 hours or more and I have to drive it back home

[Nahid1707]

Oh, you still haven’t returned home yet