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Which matters more to you? The destination or the journey you take to get there.

This saying may mean different things to different people.

It can mean that stopping to smell the roses and and enjoy your way to your goals is important.

It can also mean that the little things you do on your journey add up to get you to your destination.

On the other hand, it can also mean that all of life is a journey that never ends. There's only the illusion of there being a destination to reach.

What does it mean to you, and how do you feel about this saying?

I'm inspired by the philosophical alternatives it inspires for different perspectives on what life really means, what we are all doing here, and how we go about it. When I first heard it, what I do in each moment became more important than rushing towards the next goal. No more missing out on all of the little things.

I packed the kids in my car and took a spontaneous trip to join a Rainbow Family Gathering and just breathe, live, relax, and enjoy the here and now.

I no longer had end goals for working out, just learning to enjoy the act of working out and viewing fitness as a side effect of that rather than a goal. Fitness suddenly became a fun habit rather than a chore.

I focused on just enjoying the simplest natural foods rather than dieting. Having a massive bowl of fresh fruits and veggies for breakfast and lunch without any obsession. Just enjoying the taste and look of something healthy for me. Again, my health and fitness became side effects rather than stress ridden goals.

On road trips it became much more common to pause many times along the way. On vacations, winging it on a daily basis became normal.

Big career goals and pushing to work harder and harder became things that either happen or don't based on our own personal enjoyment with our work.

So I have an issue...
2 guys in my life have already ended things with me based on the issue of "maturity"
My ex-boyfriend (23) and a guy I dated briefly afterward (23).

-My ex-boyfriend and I were on and off for a while b/c of his commitment issues + he was unsure of me. He would end things and come back to me multiple times because "there were things he liked about me and things he didn't like" One of the things he didn't like was that I was younger, still in school, and didn't have as much life experience
-The guy I dated briefly went out with me for 4 dates. Later on, he confessed he didn't see us dating because "maturity-wise him and I were at different spots" He even gave an example of immaturity based on my part with the first time we kissed which was was "awkward and weird"

I am a 21-year old female that works two jobs, is in college full time, is saving up for an apartment for the end of the year, and I already have my career goals in mind.
I didn't date in high school because I wanted to focus on school and I also didn't even think guys liked me + I had very low self-esteem for dating
I just started seriously dating around 2 years ago... do you think because I dated later on in life that guys that are older think I'm immature? Do I just need more experience with dating?

I feel like for a 21-year-old female, I know myself pretty well. I'm loyal, sweet, caring. supportive, open-minded, creative, have hobbies and am social
However, I can also be emotional, sensitive, shy, passive-aggressive, needy, and sometimes lazy.

Is there something wrong with me or am I just picking wrong guys? Or maybe it's both...

Disclaimer: I DO NOT. I’m asking this bc i find it peculiar many people have this mind set & are bothered by someone providing pertinent data as if it is a decision. With so many playing games. I think honesty is refreshing.

Being upfront about personal relationship goals on the second date seems very early for some, for others it is just being efficient and not wasting time. Yea you can develop feelings for the person and perhaps give up stuff important to you, but I think many people don’t want to fall into that trap - which I understand.

I can see both approaches having merit. Being open free and seeing how things go not worrying about the future until you know how you feel is one technique tho probably best suited to 15-26 year olds or people for whom relationships are not a priority. Life keeps moving and while you’re seeing “how things go” with someone you may end up not wanting to be with bc turns out tho you fell in love, you want very different things— other people are meeting people they settle with who might’ve been a really good fit for you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Being upfront knowing what you want sure saves a lot of hassle - tho not everyone reacts well. & perhaps what you want changes. I think with major things like sex or marriage it’s crucial to be on the same page. I understand bringing it up as early as possible it is very unlikely to change. You may agree to compromise, but it may be to the point either or both are miserable.

If a guy doesn’t tell me what’s important to him up front, that’s fine as long as it doesn’t Interfere with my ability to make an informed decision. Likewise, If he tells me straight up on say date two or three, that’s fine too —unless his actions betray his words. Then he’s not being upfront he’s being shifty.

But to be upfront, I would not see that as needy or desperate & I CERTAINLY not as indicative of having made up his mind about ME. 😂