I've been in a LDR for about 4 years (senior year of high school through college). My boyfriend and I only see each other during breaks, and although the relationship is still going smoothly, I'm wondering whether we should continue to be in a LDR with no end in sight.
My dream for life after graduation has been to go to Europe to get my Masters degree (the only school to offer this specific degree is in Europe) and to work there for several years. My boyfriend is planning to take a gap year to do research probably on the East Coast, before applying to med school.
It seems like if we both go after our career goals, we would be looking at at least another 5 years apart (probably longer). My boyfriend will have to complete med school and his residency so he'll be very busy in the coming years. Likewise, I'll be occupied with my classes and work. We can't compromise on location since a foreign medical degree won't have the same weight here in the US, and I can't do my program in the states.
It's bothering me that we will both be entering a new stage of life in different cities, meeting different people, and having new experiences. I'm not concerned about cheating, but I feel like the demands of a long distance relationship may hinder us both from fully growing as people.
it's difficult to foresee us living in the same state, let alone the same country, for years.
I really value our relationship and I deeply love my boyfriend but I don't see it being practical if we are never going to be in the same place together. When I brought up the topic to my boyfriend, he says he wants to stay together, but I feel like he isn't seeing the obstacles that will make things so much harder than they've been in college (time zone differences, much busier schedules, more difficult and expensive to see each other in person) Should I follow my head or my heart?
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? Any advice is welcome. Thank you!!
My dream for life after graduation has been to go to Europe to get my Masters degree (the only school to offer this specific degree is in Europe) and to work there for several years. My boyfriend is planning to take a gap year to do research probably on the East Coast, before applying to med school.
It seems like if we both go after our career goals, we would be looking at at least another 5 years apart (probably longer). My boyfriend will have to complete med school and his residency so he'll be very busy in the coming years. Likewise, I'll be occupied with my classes and work. We can't compromise on location since a foreign medical degree won't have the same weight here in the US, and I can't do my program in the states.
It's bothering me that we will both be entering a new stage of life in different cities, meeting different people, and having new experiences. I'm not concerned about cheating, but I feel like the demands of a long distance relationship may hinder us both from fully growing as people.
it's difficult to foresee us living in the same state, let alone the same country, for years.
I really value our relationship and I deeply love my boyfriend but I don't see it being practical if we are never going to be in the same place together. When I brought up the topic to my boyfriend, he says he wants to stay together, but I feel like he isn't seeing the obstacles that will make things so much harder than they've been in college (time zone differences, much busier schedules, more difficult and expensive to see each other in person) Should I follow my head or my heart?
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? Any advice is welcome. Thank you!!
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