Anyone going through some stuff?

[Ironco]

I've not had a good summer and fall. Had a lot of death and people leaving me this year.

I'm doing ok, but at times I feel alone.

I've lost a lot of my close people to me, now I have to move forward alone again. I have noticed the younger crowd has been embracing me. I appreciate that, but I'm not a spring chicken anymore, I miss talking with people my own age

Can others relate?

[sage2021]

I'm not one of the ones from the younger crowd, but then I'm a lot older than you. So, I believe that I can relate to you. I hope so.
I am still grieving my boyfriend who passed away suddenly two years ago. We were living together.
I live alone and have lived alone most of my life.

My family members have passed away one by one.
I recently lost one of my best childhood friends less than a month ago. We've kept in touch since we met when we were 14 years old.


My son, who I have only seen a handful of times in the past 10 years. He has learning disabilities and is a heart ❤️ patient, so he lives away from me and lives with another family.

What's so sad for me is that I cherish my friendships. And I love to send out Christmas cards every year still. The problem I am having this year, is that there are only a few people on my Christmas card list, because they've all passed away. So, no Thanksgiving dinner for me and Christmas will be spent alone as well.

I believe that the recent change in the weather going into the Fall and winter only makes me feel worse.

Sure, I could say that you need to go out and make new friends but I won't say that to you because that's not the point. You miss the one's who you built memories with - family and friends alike.

If it's any comfort to you, I am walking in your shoes and have an inkling of what you are experiencing. Your world has changed and there you are with a broken heart.

We have to make it through though because we don't have any other choice. But it's not easy by all means.

I wish you well as time goes on. All we can do is make the best of it.

[Crimsyjo]

Yes. Mainly since I decided I want srx, fun and a relationship. But I can't fund a relationship wanting guy so that leaves me with casual sex and fun. Which is fun. But 2 years of this is losing its spark when most of my connections are not consistent or reliable. Although I have only been sleeping with the same circle of guys for a year. So nobody new for ages. But I've had tastes of the connection I really want. I had a boyfriend for 3 months last year. Definitely good reasons to break up. But there was good parts beyond sex I miss. And now my best friend who was supposed to be my friends with benefits and we used to have sex but now he won't but we kiss and cuddle. So I'm forced to have sex elsewhere for my physical needs that he gets angry about. But we argued months about it with me saying I only wanted to be with him. I dont know. Complicated huh? Cos I'm spending all this platonic time with him which makes it harder for me to find someone who will be willing to give me the whole package and accept my loyalty. And I don't understand men at all? Why it's not just simple and uncomplicated?

[DJB72]

If you're actually only a year older than me - I'm 53 - then we're in our prime!

Yeah, shit happens. All the damn time. The key for me is to focus on the end goal, not the current location. Seasons change.

[Ironco]

This is true

[Anonymous]

Not like that, but my life sucks anyway, especially for the last few years.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO

[Genie23]

I think I do. I’ve been going through a lot lately too, and I’ve lost some people in my life over the years... But I think my father feels it even more. He’s lost so many of his friends and former colleagues over the last couple of decades. It’s scary and heartbreaking to even imagine losing so many people you grew up with or have known for most of your life. Suddenly, there aren’t many people left who truly ‘get’ you or who can reminisce about the good old days and understand your journey.

I’ve seen him try to build new connections, but it’s hard especially younger folks just can’t always relate on that deeper level. He mentions his friends and family often who passed away. I could only try to understand, but I know that only people around his age can truly feel the depth of what he’s going through.

[Genie23]

I also want to mention that he's in his early 70s.

[Amy10223]

I have lost a lot of mown family members. My mother about 10 years ago, my aunt (only one surviving and favorite one) about 6 years ago, my oldest brother and sibling 3 years ago. All my favorite relatives. I miss them very much and although I am not depressed, I was depressed when my older brother passed on. He was my favorite sibling and made me laugh a lot. Too combat with this loss, I have developed hobbies and interests, and they keeps me busy in a good way. Not only this, but it's relaxing. Death is a part of life. And it's said that when you do die, you go back to where you came from.

[DishLady]

Yup. But some folks keep everyone at a “safe distance” so it’s impossible to have heart-to-hearts that are meaningful. The younger crowd embraces but there’s a cold side to that generation too… there’s some things they “get” that we don’t and vice versa.

[Ironco]

I feel they listen and feel sorry for a old guy, yet when the conversation is over, they move on with life. That's understandable, but it's still nice to connect with people.
If that makes sense?

[DishLady]

Shallow temporary interactions aren’t “connections” in my book. They don’t do real connections anymore… it’s all tentative and on-the-spot, then they wonder why the whole generation has anxiety issues. Pfft.

[RandomGirl42]

Hi, not your age but wanted to say I really hope you find what it is you are looking for. Everyone deserves love and happiness. 😊

[Ironco]

Thanks, I appreciate your response

[Cidknee]

Yep! It's been hell for 3.5 years now.