What is your #1 most important goal in your life? Why is that your goal?

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For me, it’s meeting a woman I love, marrying her, and having a children. In other words, starting a family is my #1 most important goal. It’s my most important goal because at the end of the day, I could live with not accomplishing my career dreams, but I can’t live with never meeting a woman I love and marrying her, and never having children. I just can’t. Perhaps it’s biology and perhaps it’s how I was raised. If I couldn’t fulfill my career goals, it will be greatly disappointing and saddening, but I’ll just find some other goal (s) and purpose in life. I’ve always wanted to do the whole gamut of being a father, such as: taking my children to school, going grocery shopping with my wife, taking my children to sports practice, tucking them in bed, going on vacation with my family, etc. All of the traditional family stuff, stable and consistent.

TonyBologna25 · Accepted Answer

I feel like I’ve reached most of my life goals. I found myself a loyal woman who’s going to be my wife soon. She makes me incredibly happy everyday and I feel lucky have found her. We’re going to have kids. She wants to have four but I’m good with two lol. Hopefully I still can after all the shit I’ve taken. If not, we’re going to adopt. I’m financially well off and can support her and our future kids. I have my health. Both of my parents are still alive.

The only goal left is just to make more money and progress in my career so that I can leave wealth and financial stability behind for my family to carry on for many more generations after I go. My uncle passed away August 5th of this year and it was devastating to my family and I. Little did we know he was a rich man. He lived well below his means throughout the entirety of his life. He was a financial analyst for the federal government so we knew he was well off, but not to this extent. He left a great fortune to my sister and I and other family members. He saved all of this money and created all of these valuable assets to literally just pass it on to our family and loved ones after he goes. He could have had a ferrari and a huge house but he lived in a studio apartment and drove a 2001 honda accord. He did that for all of us and that’s honestly so honorable to me because his wealth has literally given me and all my family an entirely better life. So I just want to carry on those same values and be able to provide and take care of my family for many generations to come after I’m gone. I want to get them all ahead and give them the best life I can.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First finish my masters
Then PhD
Main goal after that get job that would let me travel the world for rest of my life, like all done remotely and/or through phone e-mail.
Would be nice to get woman mixed up together with all that, but I'm used to be alone and marriage and kids is not really would make me happy all noise and grumpy mummy with all that, topped up with over priced childcare. It would be too expensive to manage...

Inneedofusername · Accepted Answer

Having very strong and loving relationship with a man that I could die for. That is also one of the reasons why I don't want to have kids, and I want to illegaly sterilize myself abroad as soon as I will be able to. If my man truly loved me, he would never want me to go through something as destructive as pregnancy. There is no place for other people in my dream marriage. I would choose spending time with my husband over wiping some little shit any time.
My second most important goal is career. I want to travel and experience all the things that I can't know because I'm from quite poor family.

blubblubblub · Accepted Answer

I feel weird calling it a goal cos I'm not really working towards it right now and won't for a while, but I guess what I would want to achieve most by the end of my life is raising good kids. that's what i'll leave behind once im gone

BlueCoyote · Answer

I've got to say... I completely agree with you. I do value a good education and considering I spent years upon years going to school/uni, I want to get a good job. Eventually, however, family is what counts more for me. I am truly blessed to have found a woman that is simply amazing in every respect. It is the single best thing that has ever happened to me. Now, I would love to have some children with her (ideally, two). I know that having kids can be super exhausting and a huge pain in the ass at times but I believe there are also a lot of wonderful things to look forward to. I want to walk my kids to kindergarten, go swimming in the lake on hot summer days (take the grandparents right along ;-) ), have cozy weekend dinners together, go on vacations, teach them stuff about history or science, but also teach them about solidarity, about being kind and respectful with each other, sharing things, solving fights with words, go for winter strolls in the forest together, laugh about their hilarious, classic-children no filter moments and so many other things.

So, having kids is definitely a big dream for me. But more generally speaking, I'd say my biggest wish is simply to find happiness. In whatever way it comes. For instance I am struggling with a deteriorating health and I hope there will be a cure for it one day. A few days ago I said to my wife: "sometimes I feel so depressed I want to commit suicide... but what keeps me going is the hope that some time in the future, maybe when I'm 60 or 70, there will be a cure. I MUST experience that. I can't go before I get to experience that." And I mean... medical technology is constantly developing.
But then again, I also hope that I can find acceptance of my situation if no cure/improvement is in sight. That's why I said my wish is to find happiness in whatever way I can.

My all-time favorite quote is the famous serenity prayer (ironically so, considering I'm an atheist).
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference."

For me, this just sums up everything and it is a bit like a recipe to find happiness in life (for everyone, I'd argue).

Spawnface · Answer

Being a demogogue would be cool. I'm really not liking popular opinions and my veiw towards the average person insists that monkeys have more brain power. But more importantly I think there's a great unpercieved danger about people that escape their own understanding and if elimated or treated can help foster stronger relations between mankind and everything else. The main issue of this being the type of undetected superstition of the popular mind. Not in that people follow religion or likewise but people fundamentally think religously, without any serious critical thought.

Throughout my life I've been among the impoverished. I've come from canada's bottom group of people. In the sufferings I find most often is the illusion cast upon the value of a parent. Parents are among the most existentially critical proponents to the development of society. They have been admonished and sancified as holy, which they should be. However, every villian wears a mask and what typically happens is those of backrounds with severe child abuse are neglicted by the popular mind simply due to the worship of this veneer. In most cases victims of abuse are not allowed to speak about their ill fate because to condemn any parent is to condemn them all in the overly simplistic mind of the average person. Instead images and symbols are what create understanding, thus it is images and symbols which cause the archtypal parent to be uncontested and the abused child as being the problem. People only know of these issues so far as there has been a solid image implanted in their brain that is associated to discomfort. For instance not many people would have cared about the war happening in Syria if not for pictures of bloodied children and babies being displayed, even then it's to little accessibility.

So that may have been a bit long of an anwser but I thought I'd answer it with conviction.

Similarily, what may drive your desire of parenthood is due to the instinctual and instrinsic knowledge of value behind being a family. It's not capitolism, it's not socialism, it's not religion that causes successful lives, it's family. To raise a family properly is by far the most effective method of evolving our species into being better. Without a divine helping hand, one can miraclously undo all the worlds issues by this method alone. Because it's this in which fosters every other formula of success. So, it's the imagery here that compels behaviour.

Anonymous · Answer

My #1 goal is something that seems impossible from where I am in life right now but I'm not giving up just yet. My #1 goal is to make a mark on this world like the greatest people in history. Like Thomas Edison, Nikola Tesla, Isaac Newton, etc. I want to give this world a gift for which I'll be remembered for centuries. Who knows, if there is such a thing as reincarnation and my next life also begins in this world, maybe I'll read about myself in a school books, not even realizing that it was me.

So I want to introduce the world to the next stage in science. It could be a spiritual one. I know it sounds silly and but I want to know about the undiscovered side of science and share the knowledge with everyone. Maybe spirituality can give me knowledge about the universe and it'll point me in the right direction so that I know which part of the universe I should look at in order to establish contact with an alien civilization.

I'm very much aware how ridiculous all this seems and maybe I am living in a fantasy like most people would think, but it's a serious goal. And I feel like there's SO MUCH to know about the universe but here's humanity fighting over territory, money, power, religion, etc. Imagine how small these problems would become if we find out about otherworldly civilizations that are travelling between worlds or even galaxies, imagine knowledge and trade relations between galaxies! That's trade on an unimaginable level! Imagine how many false prophets in our world would be exposed if spirituality is accepted as a science and starts giving us more answers than religion ever did! Imagine the source of life itself not being just a speculation! Imagine how many problems would disappear from our world if people have bigger things to think about! Like distracting a child by giving him a toy so that he doesn't think about the pain of losing a tooth! Even if we find an alien race that's hostile, imagine how that threat will unite the population of our planet!

Of course, ALL of this to happen will take many lifetimes but even if I can just point science in this direction it'll at least be a start and I would feel a sense of accomplishment that way. 🙂

JudgmentDay · Answer

Can't really think of one other than simply just survive as long or rather "postpone" the inevitable for as long as I possibly could with whatever I got left. I just take it easy one day at a time. Perhaps I might turn out be one of the oldest person on the planet that is single for life and don't have any and don't want any kids, not that it matters nor is it of any actual "importance" to me. Oh well, "important", if anything is "important" at all to me then I'd actually deal with it, otherwise I don't even bother with any of it. Having enough to just get by is about as "important" as it ever will be to me. Having enough to just get by as in not having to starve, stuck out in the freezing cold, sleeping in the streets without a roof over my head, etc. All I need is to have enough to make it in my retirement years on my own, and I'm assuming I'll ever last that long. And if I have the free time and money, I'll go travel and check out other places on this planet, although I really don't have to nor need to do this. But I'm considering it, since I can't explore the entire universe and all of outer space, it's the only other alternative or option on the table that is available all because it's the only "realistic" and viable option.

The rest I have no idea and don't really find any of it to be of any "importance" at all to me.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I’d say retiring as early as I can. Life would be pretty sweet if I didn’t have to work, that’s a major hinderance to my life quality. I’m fortunate in that I’ll be inheriting a considerable amount of money soon, and then much more than that, hopefully not TOO soon, but likely in the next few years. I don’t know exactly how much, but I plan on investing the bulk of it, and that should hopefully give me a very comfortable retirement. So I have to consider the long term first, I can’t just get the check and quit my job. But as soon as I can afford it, I want to get my life back and start living for the experience of it all. I swear time went into fast forward when I started working full time, and I can’t keep doing this and then have 60 catch me surprise like 40 is about to, haha. So I have to get out of that hamster wheel ASAP, but only once the future is secure. There are just better ways to spend your days than slaving for another family’s fortune, or even for your own business if you’re lucky enough to at least be doing that. I just want to be able to wake up and take the days at my own pace, doing what I want to do, and maybe volunteering my time to some good cause like coaching kids’ sports or something.

Genie23 · Answer

It's my career right now. I would love to get married after a year or two and have kids. I want to adopt a child in 4-5 years. I know I can be a really good mum. I will give them love, support, good morals and everything only thing I need to work on is earning a high amount of income, so I meet all the requirements to adopt a child. So, my main goal is getting married and raising kids.

Dause · Answer

To create an artificial intelligence that integrates and guides research on a path towards ever developing understanding of the quantum world and below, as well as its applications and changes that can occur due to quantum changes on the macro scale. Then utilize that to develop various new technologies and ultimately utilize that knowledge to generate a "Wormhole" (though I hate that term, because it makes NO sense in terms of how things actually work in my opinion) Opening the door to a more literal space age where terraforming and gathering resources from other planets and solar systems is far more reasonable and beneficial.

ibodi · Answer

I dont know, I just want to keep current life but I am checking out the content.
Like as your dream, I think if I value it, others things are not important anymore but It is like people would get bored in the statue then develop it.
I am seeking always, I want to enter that where nirvana is.

Elizabeth22ilu · Answer

I have been involved in a non-profit NGO that aims at changing the life of the youth from disadvantage backgrounds for 3 years now and I am full-time student and works part time because I want to help my family financially... My #1 goal is to work hard and get to a position where I can financially support my mother and sister first and then my nieces and nephews. #2 getting married to someone that will love me and vice versa, challenge me and vice versa. #3 travel to different parts of the world.

Clo917 · Answer

Becoming successful is my main one. I want to get a job and build my way up to the top, or finish a novel series and become a famous published author. Second one is probably very unrealistic, but either way, I want to become successful and independent.

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

My goal is to be in a band. and simply be there for other people who ever need me.

Ellie-V · Answer

My most important goal is helping other people reach theirs. It’s my number one priority because it’s fulfilling to watch loved ones excel to their highest potential knowing you had a hand in their success.

Poormanscomedian · Answer

My goal is to get to 10,000 ounces of silver , do my lawn service for 50 years, start an Art Gallery / Jewelry store. I will probably sell my silver, gold, platinum, Palladium, Rhodium, Copper, lead, and Nickel, put it in dividend paying stocks. I also hope that social security is still available.

Selina_Kyle_ · Answer

Learn to play violin, become a professional one about it

timeflies10 · Answer

My #1 goal is to start a family, #2 is to finish college and become a large animal vet, #3 is to be happy and loved at the end of the day.

MemeSupreme · Answer

To be not be god dam so anxious all of the time. I deal with a lot of it everyday and it can be draining at times but it has gotten better the past year. Lately I've tried meditation and that shit is like low-key 👌

ChiTown33 · Answer

To be happy

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. Then they told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life -John Lennon

CandacePerry · Answer

Import is in a relationship as a loyal & respectful boyfriend & know what is wrong & right. Helping re-home cats.

Browneye57 · Answer

Cops are all about this. They really like structure.  Just find a girl that is like-minded and plan it together. You can do it if it's what you really want.

Anonymous · Answer

Money and power. What is really stupid is how someone could have the goal of family and that gives them the right to steal tons of money from other people to take care of themselves. Really if you can't afford to pay for your kids you should not be allowed to have them not get free stuff

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