Why is this happily married man at work crushing so hard on me? What is the end goal of all this?

[Anonymous]

He seems happily married. I don't know know him too well, but I can see that he's been crushing hard on me for more than 6 months. I didn't do anything to encourage him. I just stayed professional. He doesn't cross any lines, he just does boyish things that people with crushes do. All the body language stuff, bright smile when he sees me, gets really flustered, shyness despite being a charming extrovert, etc. I don't think he's looking for just sex, he doesn't have that look or push for anything. He just has this crazy crush that is starting to look more serious to me now.

I am not sure what he hopes to get out of these interactions? Could any guy/girl tell me what they think? I am not one to pursue a married man, so I have been simply polite. Lately, I have been wondering about his motivations. Objectively, as a person looking to get married, I want to understand if this guy is having a mid-life crisis or if this is something all married people face. Had he not been married, he would have been a great catch for me, but I don't want to hurt anyone. His wife is about two decades older than me and I am about a decade younger than him, but I am not in my 20s (30s here) so it's not like he's just fishing with a very young woman.

[Guy13]

That's dangerous the way Human Resources is structured these days. Treat like the fellow professional employrr or manager otr whatever that he obviously is not. "I'm not your Work Wife"... Something along those lines. Don't believe in opposite sex Bestie and the whole work husband/wife thing MAY be good idea to bring up. YOU know the vibe better than I. Good luck with "LoverBOY"...

[Chad345]

How happy can his marriage be if he's looking elsewhere?

[Asker]

I don’t know. Makes me wonder if even happily married men look outside

[Anonymous]

Lol lol

[Asker]

could you give your take

[Opinion Owner]

I could be way off here but you sound as though you like the attention you’re getting from him. That you know why he’s acting this way. You want people to validate you as far as some man actually interested in you.

[Asker]

I am not denying that the attention is nice. I am a human who likes it and resists doing something that would hurt another by it. what I want to know is his motivation when he’s married

[Opinion Owner]

His motivation should matter he’s married. At least not to you it shouldn’t matter. But in answer to your question either sex on the side, you as a side chick, maybe he just wants to be flirtatious cause it stirs up feelings he has t felt in a long time. Or he may just leave his wife one day to chase after you.