Abuse, not the victim's fault!

[fallen101]

Today we live in a society where abuse is becoming a more and more common thing. Especially abuse in children. Children the vulnerable ones. The ones that can be manipulated easily. Abuse has many forms, physical, emotional, verbal and worst of all sexual abuse.

Sexual abuse has become so common that 1 in 3 women have been sexually abused before the age of 15. Any abuse in any shape or form is traumatic and unfortunate. Many believe that abuse is somewhat the victims faults.

The victim’s fault? How could it possibly be? Imagine this:

“A three-year-old child is being sexually abused by her step father. This girl who knows nothing about the world around her. She doesn’t even have any control of any part of her life, from what she wears to what she eats is chosen by her parents. How can she be the reason behind her abuse?

This abuse continues into her teenage years, where now she is learning about her body and how everything works. She also starts to realise that what has been happening for years is wrong. These realisations lead her into depression, anxiety, self-harm and made her feel socially isolated. She felt she had nowhere to go and she started believing that she deserved this.”

This is just a story, but this is the life of thousands of girls. These girls with broken hearts need help, need a ear to listen to listen and a shoulder to cry on. It is not their fault/

[Anpu23]

There's another part of this story that you miss, if you take personal responsibility away from the victim (and yes I am a victim of a horrible rape) then you are telling that their is nothing that you can learn from this. That it was not my fault that I got into a car with two strangers, BS of course it was. How can you learn from your mistakes if you are told "there was nothing you could've done"? Of course it was ultimately the sick F's who do these things that the blame rests on, but to remove any personal responsibility is to remove any ability to prevent it from happening again. Good my take, and I will agree that sometimes there is nothing that you can do to prevent horrible things from happening, but sometimes there are. Let's help empower victims rather then removing any hope of it not happening again.

[fallen101]

I absolutely agree with you. and Thank you.

[Anpu23]

You are welcome

[Stacyzee]

I agree it's never the victim's fault.

Victim's are targeted by predators.

If anyone blames a victim, they are contributing to the abuse.
<3 Good article.

[fallen101]

Thank you :)
Your articles are really good too.

[Stacyzee]

Thanks :)