Why I Think Women and Men Can't Be "Just Friends" (Page 2)

[ScarletAngelic]

I disagree. It's really nice to have lots of friends of both gender. One of the perks of being a lesbian. I can easily be friends with both girls and guys. I just have to tell the guys I'm lesbian and 'hopefully' they'll just accept it and not try anything, as for the girls, I may fall for a few of them, but if they're straight, I won't try anything stupid and just stay their friends.

[ScarletAngelic]

Homosexuals are the exception I guess, that you forgot to mention XD

[PrincessPie]

I did write that lol, in first bit ;)
that it only applies to straight people otherwise you're correct lol as it doesn't make a difference.

[ScarletAngelic]

Well you did mention but it's easier for us to have friends of both sexes.

[lord_chilled]

I always say men and women can't be friends. Then some people get offended and say "of course we can ".

Proceed to see the same guy in the club later on, seeing his "friend" dancing with another guy, i go up to him and ask him would he rather dance with her?
And the guy says "yes" 🙈...

After a few more beers i ask him , "would you smash?"

Him: "yeah"

Well, then your not really her friend, are you?
"of course i can, just becuz i wanna f*ck her, doesn't mean i can't be her fwiend..."
😂😂😂😂😂

Guys (and some girls) get in their damn feelings over this sometimes.
You're not really friends, you are just limiting yourselves.
Male-female friendship is a delusion

[Coconut_Man]

Men and women CAN just be friends. Most people have friends of the opposite gender , and they have a very healthy platonic friendship. In saying that. There is this thing called "feelings" which can easily be develop between two individuals (of the opposite gender ) who spend a lot of time with each other and have shared interest/values. So, it's quite possible and common for one party to catch feelings for the other. Sometimes it can just be a crush that fades away in a couple of months. Other times the feelings run deep. So it's really up to the individual to keep his/her emotions in check or risk making a move resulting in the friendship being ruin if the feelings aren't mutual.

Your MYTAKE have a lot of valid points. Keep it up 👍👍

[Anonymous]

I think you are right to an extent. I've defiantly noticed guys go out of their way to befriend girls they're attracted to , though I'm pretty sure they do this subconsciously and don't notice that they have a pattern where they're befriending girls they're into.
I've also had a bad experience where I was friends with this guy and all was good and I never saw him as more than a friend then he started getting flirty and touchy and it was just weird and so out of place like? I didn't see it coming. but it is true that for the most part guys befriend girls they're attracted to , I get super pissed off when someone is like 'no they're just friends' yes , but at least one of them is attracted to the other. and for some reason it's usually the guy.

[Anonymous]

A person who never talks girls unless anyone is in need can't tell anything.
Always ask for help from friends (boys). I never understood what people mean by "flirting" in real life bcoz boolywood mainly focus on this stuff but it's unrealistic and I have stopped watching those stupid movies long ago.
Well I don't have any female friends. I never made female friends due to fear of getting judged which is the biggest fear among India men.
Every time I think about this, i don't​ like to think or tell anything about this stuff.
😑😑😑
All people seem to be crazy. They are overwhelmed with an illusion called "love". I feel this strongly whenever I visit this website.

[Hal2002]

Men and women can be just platonic friends, I have a few female friends that we are just friends and talk about anything.

When a woman leave to bathroom door cracked so she can talk to you while she does her business, your are friends and there is no chance of there every being anything sexual between you.

[Makaha]

I'd like to dispel the notion that guys and girls can't be just friends. I have a lot of genuine friends. I hang out with a lot of women too. Most of them are close to me and we've been friends for many years. A few of them have been in bed with me. There were periods when we've lusted for each other. We were friends first before we "truly tasted each other" and are back to being just friends again. Other male and female friends in our circle have similar stories to tell. So what's the big deal?

[Beautybynature]

Every guy hat has tried to befriend me.. has tried to sleep with me!
No.
And let's say you're an attractive woman, that is a definite no.
Men and women can't be friends!! anyone who says they can is delusional and ESPECIALLY if they are a man saying it!! lies
If it has a penis, it's probably shifty in some fashion so no.

[JDavid25]

But you ain't been around every guy though.. I'm sure there are guys who ain't attracted to you.. LOL.. & Who like a certain type of woman, or has a wife/girlfriend they absolutely love, and adore..

[TwinCKI]

Yeah, it is kind of hard just to stay friends with a girl. It is very easy to develop feelings for someone you spend a decent amount of time with plus the fact that most of your encounters with them will most likely be pleasant. Its kind of like a recipe for disaster but sometimes opposite sexes can be best friends and there is nothing wrong about that.

[ScarletAngelic]

I had to start telling guys I wasn't interested in the opposite gender right away, because so many times, when I start trying to become friends with a guy and forget to mention I'm not interested, I end up having to break his heart,. (I really hate having to do that it makes me feel bad)

[r4ngeF]

Absolutely true.
Its about time people see the truth...
There are so many concealed interests/intentions in every kind of relationship that is "platonic".
Ofc there are maybe once in a 100 years a couple that both the male and female are asexual, but thats very rare..

Great Take.

[TheDevilInside]

look, even if you wanna fuck your friend, doesn't mean you can't be only friends with that person. It's all in your head. It all depends on how good you are at compartmentalizing and understanding your own mind. Also, how mature you are and whether or not you know what you want and don't want.

[heyyyyy123]

I actually agree with you completely on this one, but I will come out and say that I think if all of these are untrue except that one person will probably always catch feelings. It is possible that the other person can grow to accept the fact that they are just friends and see it as a sister or brother relationship and the feelings fade. I've had a guy best friend where this very much happened. But in the end, it depends on the people and how strong their hormones work against them haha.

[l33tboot3r]

Yes, it's possible, however, if there's chemistry in the mix either from the girl or guy, then it's not possible. Once someone catches feels the relationship changes. I have first-hand experience with this as I was the one who caught feels. However, I got rejected and we're friends, but not that close as we used to be in a sense. But my argument is if there's no chemistry then it's possible.

[Anonymous]

Girls and guys will never be just friends. Honestly I don't think any woman would actually want to be treated the same way I treat my guy friends. Plus I literally can not help but feel inclined to be more gentle and nice with women, it has to be biological. My natural instinctual reaction to seeing a random guy getting punched and a random girl getting punched is entirely different.
I have many women in my life that probably consider me friends but in reality I hold myself back a lot with them. I notice other people do it too. Many of them don't even notice they do it because its just so natural to do.

So yea, i've never considered a girl a true friend. At most they were extra friendly acquaintances.

[TomatoBoy]

You are pretty on point. I think all relationships change and develop

My closest friend Samantha, we initially dated, realized we weren't compatible but ended up being really close. We are friends now.

Or a co worker of mine, we started off as coworkers, became friends, hooked up, began dating each other, broke up, and a year later reconnected and became really great friends

I dont recall every being completely platonic from beginning to end however

[MrMAC777]

This is a good myTake, it's a fact in most cases. Because if the girl said she was interested in a relationship or even just up for a screw, the guy would be all over it. That only applies if they are in the same "league" though. If one person is way less attractive, I think there is a mutual understanding of where everything stands.

[LegateLanius]

At least in my case, my female friends and I were never that close to have feelings for one another. We would hang out and such but never alone and not at each other's homes. I fell for only one female friend and that was in middle school. She moved so i never actually had the chance to do anything.

[Anonymous]

I pretty much agree. Every female friend I have either hooked up with or later found out that I could have had I been the one that was interested because they, only after getting into a relationship, admit that they had feelings for me. So, yeah I don't think women and men can be platonic friends.

[spiderweirdo]

The sad thing is... i love male friendships. But its awkward when he starts flirting out of the blue, and I'm like 😶

[PrincessPie]

Same here, what do you think, do you think men and women can ever JUST be friends from both sides?

[spiderweirdo]

Rarely they can. Unfortunately one usually develops feelings

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@spiderweirdo why can't both just develop feelings. Nature fucking sucks ;-;

[Uhhjsshshdh]

Let's say a guy and a girl are best friends, and the guy has a crush on her but she turns him down. According to what you're saying if the guy waits long enough, the girl will change her mind?

Asking for a friend.

[PrincessPie]

noo she probably won't change her mind lol, let your friend know im sorry.