My boyfriend likes cosplay models on Facebook?

[_artgirl]

My boyfriend 'likes' a couple of pages in Facebook for cosplay models, and occasionally likes their pictures (mostly the semi naked ones where they have their boobs on display)
He 'likes' my pictures too, and gives me a lot of compliments both via text and in person, and I know he's obviously with me and not them, but it still bugs me sometimes.
It's like part of me thinks that he's wishing his girlfriend (me) looked/acted more like them, even though another part of me thinks this is silly of me and a little bit unreasonable, because he's probably just 'liking' the pictures because they're of people dressed as characters from his favourite video games.
Much as I try to reason with myself, it still gets me down sometimes.

I'd love someone to give me some perspective on this from a guys point of view, and any tips for calming myself down and not worrying about it. I don't want to have to ask/tell him not to 'like' these pages, I'd just like to be able to relax about it!

[NoDoubt]

No, no way!!! Not right!!! I've been in your SAME boat before!!! This guy your with isn't a man. If he were he wouldn't even think about looking at those pictures because the only pictures he'd really want to look at are those of you!!! Like if he were wanting to learn about the female body and there were picture demonstrations or something then that's a lot more understandable but liking those pictures and following those pages? It does a number to a girl's self esteem. I'd talk to him about it. I know you don't want to and I know you think you're just being silly, but trust me, you are not! You deserve someone who will only want to look at you and treat you with the upmost respect. I'd sit him down in person and say, "I feel uncomfortable with you following those pages and looking at those pictures. It makes me feel like I am not enough for you. I love you and I trust you and I know looking at those things isn't cheating, but when you do look at them, it hurts my heart and makes me feel like you have because it makes me put myself down and feel like I am not enough for you." If he comforts you and says, "okay, I will stop" then that's great and you should stay with him and work it out! But if he isn't understanding and he says something like, "well I follow those pages because I like how they dress and I'm not going to unfollow them. You are beautiful you know that, and you know I love YOU, so there's no problem with me looking at those things" then he's not a man, he's a child and you should leave for someone who will respect you a lot more and will feel lucky to have you!!! Trust me!! Do not make the same mistake that I did and wait for him to break your heart more!!! If he does not respect your wishes and feelings, leave him!!!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend really loves Hentai. The women look ridiculously pale and robust. The exact opposite of what I look like. I know he prefers women with large breasts. There's nothing I can tell you that could help but just know that you're not the only girlfriend out there who feels inadequate. You can't change the way he feels about those women. You could either let it eat at you or try cosplaying for him.

[wyndt]

This has really got me thinking. As a guy I know how easy it is to let my eyes wander, and I can understand how you would feel you weren't good enough.

You are correct in saying they could be favourite characters, or that he simply likes them. Either way, it's still someone else he is looking at.

My mum has in her pantry a calendar full of pictures of oily fire-fighters, abs and muscles reminiscent of Greek gods. I'm sure she likes the look of them, by the sounds she makes when she turns the pages I'm positive she does. I'm sure if she was dating someone she wouldn't think anything less of them. Hopefully you boyfriend is the same.

At the end of the day though, if you are feeling uncomfortable with this, you have a perfect right to want to discuss this with him. I really hope this helps.

[ChallengerBanks]

You can either complain about it, which will just annoy him and coerce him to divide you from certain parts of his life,

or

You can turn this into an advantage and become one of the cosplay girls that he likes so much and take him to a manga/comicon/cosplay convention, which will make him never want to leave you.

Many perceived threats to a relationship aren't threats at all, but opportunities.

[sylviazulema1234]

I agree with NoDoubt... I had the exact scenario happen to me. I told him crying that I didn't feel like I was good enough for him if he kept on following slutty cosplay models. I told him that him looking at slutty pictures of girls is disrespecting our relationship. He said he would filter the slutty ones out. I had to tell him 3 times, but he only filtered about half of them. This and an accumulation of other things like choosing to let porn, instagram models, extra friendly gamer girls, and league of legends consume his time led to the break-up. Mind you this was from ages 23-26... Choose an actual MAN... not a Man-child that has his priorities straight... where personal growth, family, career, and a healthy relationship is his priority.

[Anonymous]

He's probably not just liking them because of the character, it's likely - at least in part - to do with their attractiveness... and that's totally fine! Chill. You could do sexy cosplays yourself, he would appreciate it and he would still want to give likes to the attractive cosplayers on FB. Maybe you could say it bothers you and he might stop clicking like, but does that really change anything? He still wants to like the cosplayers. Being a relationship doesn't mean not being attracted to other people, it just doesn't. Sorry if I sound crass but - deal with it.

[Blondiee2014]

It's the same as you like the look of male models. It's just eye candy and fantasy nothing more.
Those models look nice but they are not you, and you is 'HIS' real candy.
Don't worry about it it's nothing.

[BertMacklinFBI]

don't take social media seriously. people who overthink every single thing on social media seriously fuck up their relationships. its most likely nothing to him.

[grahamcracka]

it's probably nothing but a hobby to him. but it's completely separate from you and he just does it for him but it will never replace you. it's just another source of entertainment to him like a cartoon or video game

[Sexualchrist]

I think you're taking social media too seriously. So he presses a button and gives them a virtual thumbs up, that's what you do on Facebook.