Why are black women considered unattractive by society's standards?

Question

I am a black female and I constantly see articles and videos that bash black women for their looks. Seriously, it's not cool. This is why we are constantly trying to change ourselves, to have more Caucasian features so that we will be more desirable. Society paints our natural features as ugly and undesirable. Even black men don't want us, and they go for light-skinned and other races because of their softer features.

Why are we considered ugly and unattractive by so many? I liked to know what it is, because it's making so many black women insecure about themselves, that not even black men desire them because of how society sees us. Curly hair, and dark skin are not considered "beautiful" by these standards. It's not fair, and not right. Humans cannot help the way they look.

a video on YouTube bashes black women for having weaves. Why is that? Because we are trying to make ourselves more desired for men? For them to like us more? No matter what we do, we are not desired. It's not right, and it's sickening. 

So, what is it? Why are we considered the least attractive women? Why are we not desired? I'd really like to know this.

Someguy1978 · Accepted Answer

Well... For starters the women in the pic above is beautiful. I think there are a number of things that contribute to your question.., although I don't think that there all true. For starters light skinned or white women have been publicized for A LOT longer than anyone else in America since the birth of publications in this country. Only recently (last 10-15 years) have black women been publicized more and more. Another counter part to that is the unspoken but INCREDIBLY unpopular "in your face" way that black women and men talk themselves up and talk down "whites" in a humorous and not humorous manner. You don't like that, guess what- no on does. That will create subconscious backlash. (however I understand that both sides do this).
The next thing is going to be what someone finds appealing. You can't make someone become attracted to someone if there just not (although people CAN change). I don't exactly see black women banging down the doors of non-black men. That may be because they think they can't or that they'll get to easily denied. I also firmly believe that black women fear the backlash from the people in their lives if they go out and date a white guy. Oh yes, we're quite familiar with your term "white washed"... Seriously, how about you ponder that one next time your feeling on the outside of things.
Lastly, I have looked at ALL women a lot, in real everyday life and on the Internet. I think there are plenty of cute to beautiful black women... However I am attracted to less than I am. I don't find the average looking black women attractive compared to an average white women.
Also to be blunt and not to try to be hurtful... I personally do not find a lot of what black women's naked private areas look like compared to a white women or even the lighter races (Asian, Latina, ect).. I have seen a couple of dark naked women that I though looked ok, but the naked black women that I have found attractive are lighter and have light colored private areas... Sorry if this upsets you, it is what it is... But like all things private you can thank the Extremely Immoral internet for leaving NOTHING to the imagination.
In sure I could go on but there's no point. no matter how much someone can say they're not into someone, you could find one that they will be... And if you feel less attractive than the rest either deal with it, or do something about it. Either way STOP READING SHIT ABOUT YOU NOT LOOKING GOOD AND LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! ✌🏻️✌🏿

Watermelonoma · Accepted Answer

honestly, i find that black women can often be their own worst enemy/critic. The amount of black girls i see on here and outside who are absolutely obsessed about this light skin vs. dark skin thing is just crazy to me honestly. The simple fact is that a lot of people, not just black girls, like to use certain things as an excuse in order to take blame off themselves for not having a boyfriend or whatever else. Its very common for people to blame something that they can't change (like their pigmentation), and use it to shield themselves from internal scrutiny of the things about themselves that they CAN change, and probably should be changed. The times when i've found myself unattracted to a black girl is usually when they look upkept or just have a bad attitude in general. Black girls who are self aware dont really have that many problems finding men. Of coarse, every black girl you talk to will say they are self aware, as no one wants to look like a bimbo... but it is what it is.

And on the weave issue... I really dont get it with some black women on this issue really. This is usually a good determining factor for me to tell if a black girl is self aware... where she stands on this weave issue. See the thing is, no one really cares if a girl wants to wear a weave or not. But ask guys what they tend to have a preference for, 9 out of 10 prefer real over fake. Self aware black women understand that they can wear weaves as much as they like, but they don't have the expectation that it will attract more men to them. But like, the moment you bring this up you get the usual "DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO WITH MY HAIRZ @$*(!$!)@$"... okkk ooook calm down.. your hair is yours man. My personal preference has always been for black girls who use their natural hair in unique ways, but thats just me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I guess its not that that black women considered unattractive, Its just not a persons preference. The thing of unattractive-ness is looks / features and what i get sometimes skin tone. Well for the weave part the reason why they do get shit about it , it is because they go for hair types different to their own hair texture.

I am personally a curly haired dark-skinned black woman and I really don't have trouble of people finding me unattractive, sure they do get people saying stuff like " You'll look better with lighter skin blah blah" but I rarely have this issue, this issue is mostly within black people not liking my skin tone. Other than that I don't see issues.

Coffinspire · Accepted Answer

This is actually the first I've heard about it. I've only really heard about strong black women with lots of style. I mean there's always going to be people bashing each other, because people are douches like that, but I don't think it has anything to do with race. I got made fun of for being so pale and that I should go and get a tan, change my style and change my hair back to brown, and actually got called ugly a few times.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would assume it's due to stereotypes and our culture (which hasn't quite managed to shed the white=good black=bad idiocy from the past, regardless of what some people think). It's really a shame, because I see so many black women in regular life who are just absolutely stunning. It amazes me that so many other people don't see it.

amarahorrorstory · Accepted Answer

I know my picture is deceiving but I am black and I am not as light as my photo depicts. I'm not incredibly light but I'm lighter. My nose is wide and my lips are big and I used to feel like I wasn't pretty because of that. Now that I'm older I know that is not true so I don't let it bother me.

UnknownXYZ · Answer

I guess it started from the idea that white people (or people of lighter skin) were seen as closer to God. And God made white people in 'His image' and so white beauty was born. Black people and their features were seen as closer to animals and so were deemed unattractive and desirable. This continued throughout generations and centuries so was embedded into cultures throughout the globe especially in those countries which were colonised by the British Empire.

Now we live in a post-radicalised society where a lot of things in society are institutionally favouring people of lighter skin and we continue to see in made industries that incorporate beauty and attractiveness. I guess black women suffer more than men because the so-called 'animal' features of a man are perceived as masculine by women and so tendancy to be more attractive physically. But for a woman, it is seen as unattractive because it's not feminine since black women share similar features to black men.

This is an idea I wanted to entertain so I don't know if this is true or correct.

I remember watching a documentary called "White girl dipped in chocolate" and was about the reasons behind black women are able to make in modelling. They said that black women who are able to be models aren't perceived as 'black' by the agencies but more as a 'white girl who is dipped in chocolate.' They mean black women who has extremely caucasian features.

It just goes so show how white-washed our society is. Don't let it throw you down. There are many breakthroughs black women are making in terms of beauty. Maybe it's not enough to convinced you otherwise but you need to believe.

Anonymous · Answer

"It's not fair, and not right. Humans cannot help the way they look." This is true, but it attraction is not based on fairness. I have noticed that men tend to be attracted to whatever type of woman he thinks will treat him well, and black women have terrible reputations.

When there was a rumor that Russian women were feminine, untouched by feminism, and loved American men, there was a lot of guys that held Russian women as the most beautiful women in the world. Then they developed a reputation for mistreating men for green cards and the fell out of favor.

Asian women had a reputation for never dating outside their race and most guys weren't interested in dating Asian women. In fact I knew a lot of guys that thought they were ugly. Currently there is a rumor going around that Asian women are feminine untouched by feminism and love American guys. So there has been a huge upsurge in the number of guys being attracted to Asian women, when just a few years ago they weren't seen as very attractive. I know several men that have completely changed their opinion of Asian women over the past few years.

Black women have a terrible reputation. They are known for having an "I don't need no damn man!" attitude. This reputation may not be fairly deserved but it is how they are viewed. As a result they get much less respect from men, and without that respect they don't appear to be as attractive as women men do respect. They also have a reputation for only wanting to date black men, so other races don't really pay much attention to them since they aren't seen as a realistic option.

In order for black women to be seen as more attractive, their reputation as combative man haters has to change. As well as their reputation for refusing to date outside their race.

hypno-trip · Answer

Hot black girl! I think she is as gorgeous as a meteor strike.  To answer your question more seriously, Social conceptions have historical basis. Blacks in America and other white majority societies were usually taken there by force, Blacks originally from Africa where black is regarded as the standard beauty but they're taken to a white majority society where whites are more used to their own selves. So it's because whites are often not as used to seeing blacks that they're more used to considering themselves desirable. The cultures came from different places

Bandit74 · Answer

Beauty is objective (symetry, health, proportions) attraction is subjective (personal desire/preference)

To be she's beautiful and attractive but I generally find lighter skied girls more attractive. Not sure why, just do. I'm really pale so that could be why. My least favorite is orange girls tho :/

micheal727jovanie · Answer

Im not going to sugar coat it. Most black woman (USA) make a bad name for themselves most of them scream and cause a seen. I only met very few educated black woman. Some from the US others are from Africa. I like educated women that dont treat themselves like carbage. I dont hate all black woman in general i just hate the ignorant ones.

damionrain100 · Answer

The saddest part is that picture is still not attractive to me. I think it is because of the negative stigmas about black people portrayed in the media. Statistics show that black women are the least desirable for every race, including black men. You have competition from all types of women. It is mainly the media's fault.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it's never about how attractive they are physically , it all in the attitude. Many of them have a rotten go straight to hello personality , and they seem so proud of it. And to me that's just unacceptable by descent standards. They can be drop dead from a heart attack gorgeous and carry that persona , and I wouldn't as much as glance her way.

Grape-Soda · Answer

Poll after poll rate black women as the lowest sexual market value of any women across all ethnic groups. But before you get all angry and worked up remember this is a poll based off a GROUP and not based off each individual. There are plenty of beautiful desirable black women who are wanted by men off all racial groups. Black women in Western countries tend to be aggressive and have masculine traits and obese, none of these attributes are attractive to high value men.

Blackwatch8494 · Answer

um Beyonce? Even feaking Michelle Obama is considered attractive by many! (not me but that has to do with age not race) I really think there are a lot of beautiful black women. And mixed women. But I do like more exotic girls. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyways

KAZ-2Y5 · Answer

i think black women are very pretty. i am boycotting cosmopolitan magazine because of their not so subtle way of saying white girls are prettier. Thanks to Cosmopolitan magazine, black women bashing is all thanks to the media

itsallover · Answer

Because colonialism. White (or close to white) is right in this world. The further you are from the European standard of beauty the less attractive you become. The sad truth.

AshleyMD · Answer

It all depends what society you live in, in the society I live in they're a considered the most beautiful race a women can be to most guys.

justwannatalk · Answer

Their not. And I don't know if the photo was to prove your point or not, but that woman I smokin hot!

GlassHeart · Answer

Fuck what society thinks
Society hates on everybody just be yourself no matter what color/race you are
I don't give a damn if a guy doesn't like me for my skin color because I know someone is gonna adore me for who I am

PT1911 · Answer

Black women are attractive but 8/10 of the black women I've met have an extremely shitty self-righteous "I can do no wrong" attitude. That's why I'm turned of by them

baepink · Answer

I guess because they are different. usually people pick on the different one. Our differences are important. ibeing different doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.

I_am_repulsive · Answer

Whoever said that is an idiot. Every women has their own natural beauty.

SamuelB · Answer

I don't know what you're talking about. Girls kike Nikki Minaj and Beyonce are pretty big sex symbols in our society.

Ilovedrumming1337 · Answer

Hell no black women are stunning I have been attracted to some its just people now these days some are ignorant

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe this is only where you are from.. Where I live this is definitely not the case and I know plenty of black women who I find incredibly attractive.

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