Why is it sexist to call a girl 'darling'/'honey'/etc but not a guy?

[Anonymous]

At work I get called 'honey', 'darling', 'sweetie' etc all the time by female customers. Should I be offended and accuse them of sexism?

Yes it is offensive and objectifying

No. Sexism against men is OK

[kaylaS91]

lol what, I didn't realize that's sexist. Some people will be butt-hut over anything because they're bored af. I call my boyfriend boo/bae all the time (really because he calls me bae specifically because he knows how much it grinds my gears, but that's beside the point).

He never gets offended. It's a fucking pet-name... People need to start treating sexism as an actual issue, not just calling people on it because they happen to be PMSing.
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[WhatTheHellAmy]

the giiiiiiiiffffffffff XD

[kaylaS91]

@WhatTheHellAmy
lol pretty accurate eh? :P

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Yeah XD

[xHoneyxBeex]

As far as I'm concerned, that's not sexist at all. I never feel offended when people call me those names. It's actually very common to say those things where I'm from, to both males and females. I've never heard anyone complain of it being "sexist."

[CHARismatic110]

I don't consider that sexist. I don't take offense to being called those names. Does everything get a "sexist" label slapped on it these days or what?

[gray_sailor]

Historically, only men have used these terms of endearment to suggest that a woman is less than capable of doing her job. Since the women who came before them did not have sexist intent, the actions of the women you encounter are assumed to be similarly non-offensive. Since other men HAVE used these words with dismissive, sexual or sexist intent, these words are effectively removed from professional language (for all men).

[AleDeEurope]

It's not generally sexist, but it depends on the tone. Many guys call girls that kind of names in a sexual way, that's why it's offensive.
If those girls also call you that with a sexual connotation, then yeah, you could say they're being offensive or inappropriate, but girls don't usually say those words in that way, this can be an exception, but you're the only on who can verify that.

[Maik567]

Both guys and girls get called stuff like that in certain scenarios, I really dont think it has anything to do with sexism, but just the general way we treat people.

And why would you get offended, pretty much everytime someone has called me a sweetie/darling/honey like that it has been innocent and in good intentions. Just fucking relax.

[jessicorn]

uh i hate it when guys call me that. like the fuck dude. who do you think you are. i'm not your girlfriend or sth.
i dont think of it as sexist, but more like sexual harassment.

[sinful1620]

I don't agree with it because it's wildly hypocritical, but feminists changed the definition of sexism to exclude men. That way they get to justify their man-hating.

[thedevilwithin]

It's not sexist to call someone that. Who told you that?

[Shayan_Mortazavi]

Probably some crazy feminist

[thedevilwithin]

Well whoever it was is an idiot and don't listen to them anymore.

[suki248]

Do you live in the South of the US? If so, it is just how women speak. Especially older ladies.

[farscryer0]

Bro, I think you are missing something "interesting" in your search for social justice issues.

[Fortres]

Lmfao "should I be offended"
are you offended? Politely ask that they don't call you that.

[Shayan_Mortazavi]

It's not sexist to call that to either gender. Men or women.

[Cowboy6666]

I won't mind if GAG girls call me their darling 😊😏

[JackTyler]

That doesn't sound sexist at all, regardless of the gender.

[Sparks118]

I dont think so, because honey, darling and sweetie aren't sexist words. Its all in how theyre used.

[Mesonfielde]

That doesn't sound like sexism to me.

[Jessicocoa]

Those aren't sexist words.

[Intraluminal]

I don't know honey - is it?