Is going dancing a good first date?

[Citizen_Snips]

I don't mean club dancing either. I mean ballroom kind of dancing. I had to learn various ballroom dances when I was younger, and I'm still pretty good. Is it an appropriate first date or should I go with the standard dinner and a movie date?

Ladies, are y'all interested in ballroom dancing? Would that leave a good impression?

[caelis]

I ballroom dance and salsa so I have some experience in what you are talking about. If it is something the girl has never done, I would wait to do that on a later date. While it is different and sets you apart, it can also feel intimidating to a first-timer. Within partner dancing, as I'm sure you know, the male has the lead, since you have the experience as well, it sets a dynamic that balanced heavily on your end. If you do not already have a trust basis of some type this can lead to her feeling defensive, self-conscious, and judged.

Personally, I would save this date for a later time. Perhaps have it as a pairing, having a previous or later date where you are in the hot seat, experiencing something that she is pretty good at.

Best of luck!

Ps. The standard dinner and movie first date sucks. I hate it and veto every time a guy suggests it. Not only is it the standard, it is a bad first date where the movie you pick dictates the tone of the date(plus you have to sit and not talk for at least two hours, when, if I like the guy, I'm still dying to find out more about him). Do something where you can actively engage in conversation and have fun. Two best first dates I ever had: playing miniature golf and having hot dogs, or , Picnic in the park playing on swings afterwards

[Citizen_Snips]

That's completely understandable. I want to make it to be as comfortable as possible for the both of us, so I'll hold off on the dancing.

I like the suggestions you gave. I never really wanted the dinner and a movie date anyway. My mind just goes blank when thinking about the first date for whatever reason. Thanks for answering. You've been helpful.

[Anonymous]

I think it might depend on the girl, but for me: yes, please! a nice break from the traditional.

[Citizen_Snips]

That's good to hear. Have you danced like this before? Like sonic said, most girls haven't experienced it, so they would be apprehensive about it. I would have to show her the basics, and then she would just follow my lead. I asked some of the girls I know, and they said it would be romantic to them. I think they may be biased though.

[Opinion Owner]

I've had basic (and I mean BASIC lol) salsa lessons before, so I'm by no means a professional. There's definitely something about a guy taking the lead, though, that's very romantic and attractive!

[sonic241928]

I'm not a girl, but since nobody else answered so far...sure, some girls might be into it. But be prepared that not many girls have experience with that, or might be intimidated. It's probably better to go low key and low-pressure for the first date, like a simple coffee date, museum exhibit, a walk in the park, etc. The emphasis is on getting to know each other, so you don't want it to seem too formal and formulaic (a potential problem with "dinner and a movie"--try to do something a little more original). Just be simple, but innovative. I'd say the dancing might be good around the 3rd or 4th date, if the girl is really into you and is the type to try things out. Best of luck.

[Citizen_Snips]

Yeah, I thought I'd be coming on too strong if I asked them to dance. I'm a bit shy, so I would be nervous on a more normal date. However, on the dance floor, I exude confidence. Thanks for answering.