He leaves early for work, but not regularly. Could he be cheating?

[Anonymous]

Ok, my husband and I just got married this past April, we have known each other for over two years. And up until two months ago we always did things together and he seemed fine. But then he kept distancing himself. He works third shift, from 9:30 to 5:30. Usually he leaves around ten to nine to get to work and get set up. But then he started to leave earlier and earlier, like around 8:15 or so.

And that seemed an awful long time to get his stuff set up. So I asked him if anything had changed at work and he said no. And just as suddenly as he started going to work early he stopped and started going at his usual time at ten to nine. And the thing that made me really anxious is that when ever he sees someone from work, he tells me to stay put and he will be right back.

And I also noticed that his sexual style in bed changed right around the time that he started going into work early. Now he is always wanting to bring someone else into the bedroom and that is just not like him.

[goldenlady]

Well, sorry you are going to through. I know the feeling all too well, my man has worked 3rd shift all our marriage life. Although I never found out if he was cheating, I did find out that he would go to strip bars not to my surprise thou. When I met him he had a colllection of playboy books. As a women I trust no man, so I came to expect this. I personally wouldn't not ask him, because they won't tell you the truth. from my experiences I would suggest you just play dumb and be very smart. Check the computer, your phone calls, check stubs, try to make friends with his friends and co workers. I made a quick friendship with an old friend of his and got the name of his ex in two emails. Check in the weirdest places for phone #, pics, letters, dvd's and more. I'd even climb into the attic and their is where I found his magazines. I clean and organize often and I found another magazine in a box where a dvd player came in that we were saving just in case. I look under the seats in the car for anything suspicious and in ash tries for cigars with lipstick on it. check bank statements for awkward withdraws or purchases. I can go on, but I can open more doors for you and not sure how much stress you are under already. Good Luck, whatever you do don't ever put your gard down, when it comes to men : )

[sillyflygirl]

Hmm, I don't really know, but if it was me I would wonder is he more into porn(deep), and

he got turned on to this at work(hence the stay back), and he just isn't comfortable enough

to tell you. True, sorry, it sounds unfortunate, but I would confront him and tell him that

his actions give negative feedbacks and it makes me uncomfortable and I can't believe

he would do this in a marriage. Good Luck!

[radical]

This happened to a friend of mine. and Finally he just sat his wife down and asked her what was going on, and if she's been cheating on him. maybe you should just come right out and ask him, sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel that way.

[pixiegirl]

you know you should ask him something like .

why do you wanna have someone else in bed

or something that you want to ask him and if he gets mad that you asked . sorry but he

might be cheating

can you follow him to work without him noticing or check up on him without him noticing?

just ask him

or you can check his computer I always find that the key answer

good luck