Signs he's cheated or thought of cheating?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been extra nice and attentive. He even started sending little I love you texts and calling twice a day (instead of once every other day) He is always saying I'm beautiful and telling me he can't wait to get back to me. Even going as far as smooches and kisses over the phone. In bed, its now all about me all of a sudden, he's Mr Passionate now. I love it, but its suspicious because in the last two years we have been together he has been Mr cool. Tells me he loves me only once in a call. No sweet texts or sappy phone calls and its never been about me. Something is up! I know some girl has been snooping around him lately. Could she have something to do with this?

[TexPlayboy]

It is possible that he has stepped out of bounds, but maybe he has come to appreciate you. More typical of cheaters behavior is that he would start acting jealous and suspicious of your activities. It is a mirrored behavior, assuming that you are doing what he is doing.

On the other hand, there is a story about George Burns and his life long companion and wife Grace. He was tempted into an affair and felt very guilty after it was over. He bought Grace a fancy silver Tea Set as a silent apology. Both knew he had screwed up, neither wanted to loose what they had, so she let it go, and forgave him. Years later when asked about it her comment was "It is a very lovely Tea Set".

My point is, if he cheated, he learned a valuable lesson and is not likely to do it again. Enjoy the attention and decide where you want the relationship to go. Then go there.

Good Luck,

James

[Guytalks]

If he was into that girl he would likely be less affectionate to you, not more. If you're only worrying about cheating, it's hard to know for certain. What is certain is that if you start to worry too much about that, you will start to be miserable and resentful to him. You might ruin a healthy relationship because of it while many women would die to be in your shoes.

Good luck to you and your man !

[Marianne44]

It could, and possibly only open his eyes to how much he really cares for you. Lets play devils advocate, have you been talking to another male, completely innocent , in his presence. I notice that little green envy bug come out, when I was at my BF's job and was talking to one of his co-workers, who by the way he sent to let me into the office, which is a secured place and one needs to be escorted into by staff...That is the reason for my asking.

[Asker]

LOL, I work in the trades. I talk to men all the time but its just work. Other then that its my girls. He knows my guy friends and he would laugh if he thought I was flirting or something like that. They are all much older with kids almost my age. I am happy in our relationship. I just find that everything about him has changed. I love the attention but its not my man. Know what I mean? And why all of a sudden after this girl has been hanging around, calling, texting and sending messages over FB

[Anonymous]

IMHO, you can never really know... but it's clearly having a positive effect as far as your relationship is concerned. One way to ruin it would be to go digging around looking for trouble where there might very well be none at all. Sometimes attentions from other people can make us appreciate what we have even more... weird, huh! We humans are very interesting, in that respect.

[Asker]

I wouldn't worry except this girl is snooping around and he's changed in bed. I am enjoying it for sure. In the past two years he gets nicer when he's done something wrong that I've caught him for. But he has never been this nice and attentive before. Its odd. But I'm not one to go digging threw his personal life to find out what he did wrong, usually it just spills out.

[Anonymous]

Just because he's nice doesn't automatically mean that he's cheating. Maybe he just realized being "Mr Cool" isn't good for the relationship and is being fully committed to the relationship by showing how he cares. Don't worry about it. Let if go and just enjoy it.

[Asker]

Im going to enjoy it forsure. Its just odd. I do love the attention but its almost not him. That makes no sense.

[destroyer]

It's hard for me to imagine someone that hasn't at least thought of cheating, it's only natural to desire what you don't have. The only thing that matters is that he remains with you in the end. Jealousy is a big turnoff and quite annoying. It sounds like you're complaining about extra affection from a guy you love, deal with it, lots of people are out there complaining about not having any affection given to them or ever have been in a relationship

[haijal]

The friendship with this other woman could have opened his eyes to how much he really loves you. She might have said something, and it made him think about what he has and doesn't want to lose it. Which in turn could make him more passionate about your relationship. Sounds like he is just sure that he wants you, and wants to make sure to keep you happy. You are happier now right? My point lol.

[kimberlymyra]

I agree. He might have been tempted but it made him realize what he had when she wasn't so great and wants to keep you.

[Anonymous]

talk to him