Asian Women Hypocrisy at my college and White Guilt?

[Anonymous]

I am a white guy (german and french) and I go to a liberal arts college but I'm more center-left politically.

I prefer to date my own white race, even better if I could date my same ethnicity, german or french. I have no problems with Blacks, Asians, Latinos etc. My personal preference isn't based on hate and I hate that I even have to justify who I choose to date in the first place.

I got into an argument with this Asian woman, an Asian feminist at my school who accused me of being racist because I refuse to date Asian women. She assumes I have a problem with Asian women, which I don't. Then during the argument I eventually said "Ok so what do you want me to do, you want me to date an Asian girl to prove to you I'm not racist?" and then the Asian lady said "no, because if you specifically date Asians then you have yellow fever and that's sexist and racist and sexual cultural appropriation"

So let me get this straight...

If I refuse to date Asian women I'm racist, if I prefer to date Asian women it's yellow fever and therefore sexist and racist. So literally I have to be 100% natural about everything? You can't win with these people. It's like you have to be robots and aren't allowed to be a normal human being anymore.

Also, it's worth noting, it seems the Asian women/feminist who complain about yellow fever the most, seem to be the ones who most likely have WHITE fever themselves, but nobody talks about that. Literally, 99% of Asian women in my college exclusively date white guys, while most Latinos and Blacks date their own race, and yet I don't see anyone going around accusing Asian women of WHITE fever, no, only white men get accuse of such things. Honestly, I don't even care who these Asian feminist date, they should date whoever they want, I just don't like the hypocrisy.

What are your thoughts on this?

[TadCurious]

Your question reminds me of this excerpt from a recent article:

From: "The Age of Outrage"
By: Jonathan Haidt
Read more at: www.nationalreview.com/article/454964/age-outrage

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[H]ere’s the strategically brilliant move made by intersectionality: All of the binary dimensions of oppression are said to be interlocking and overlapping. America is said to be one giant matrix of oppression, and its victims cannot fight their battles separately. They must all come together to fight their common enemy, the group that sits at the top of the pyramid of oppression: the straight, white, cis-gendered, able-bodied Christian or Jewish or possibly atheist male. This is why a perceived slight against one victim group calls forth protest from all victim groups. This is why so many campus groups now align against Israel. Intersectionality is like NATO for social-justice activists. This means that on any campus where intersectionality thrives, conflict will be eternal, because no campus can eliminate all offense, all microaggressions, and all misunderstandings. This is why the use of shout-downs, intimidation, and even violence in response to words and ideas is most common at our most progressive universities, in the most progressive regions of the country. It’s schools such as Yale, Brown, and Middlebury in New England, and U. C. Berkeley, Evergreen, and Reed on the West Coast. Are those the places where oppression is worst, or are they the places where this new way of thinking is most widespread?

[Anonymous]

Hahaha I understand you!
I am white European too (not German and French) and I was accused of being racist once because i was asked if do I like Black Hispanic etc guys and I said I don't mind at all I am not racist at all BUT I am attracted to white European guys and I can't help it... what do I do date a black guy to prove it?
I also prefer my kids to have Caucasian features; I'm curious to know if is my kid going to have brown eyes blue eyes green eyes or blonde hair brown hair red hair... I think it's fine to like your own ethnicity or your own country and no you are not racist because that's what YOU like!
I strongly believe Asian girls do have the white fever, the white ugliest guy or the white older guy can be seen with an Asian chick next to them because they don't care as long as he is 'white'.

[Red88xxx]

Don't listen to them they're morons.

[Red88xxx]

You are so right by the way

[SabinaV]

I do not think there was something wrong with what you mentioned since it is your opinion. Everyone has them.

Althought it could have been taken the wrong way. It would be better not to share the opinion publicly as it may make others understand wrongly about the harmless opinion. Or better yet the next time expound even more further for people not to react the other way.

It is understandable you are surely more comfortable with your own ethnicity which most people do prefer for the less troubles, barriers.

[CollegeGradBiotch]

I think there's nothing wrong with wanting to date only people within your own race. I don't the ink its racist. Now, people who think peeps outside of their race are unnatractive? Yea that's racist. I think this girl may be taking out what could've potentially been a valid point on the wrong person. Sucks because that could've been a learning moment on both ends

[Asker]

I don't think other races are unattractive. For example, you are a black woman but I think you're really sexy and beautiful, the problem is I just feel more comfortable dating within my own race for cultural reasons. I don't date people just because I find them attractive, I want to connect with them in ways we are compatible, and personally I like to date within my own race for many reasons including cultural things, which is why I mentioned I would even prefer my own specific ethnicity on top of that like German or Italian. As far thinking a race is unattractive, I don't know what my opinion is on that, I know a white women who doesn't really find white men attractive and prefers darker skin men like black or latinos. But that doesn't apply to me because I have the ability to find all races attractive.

[Ghost_Woof]

It sounds to me like this girl had a crush on you and got mad when she found out she had no chance with you 😂😂😂

Don't even worry about it. All of the PC crap is getting waaaay ot of control and it's better to just never open your mouth in public because people will just nail you to the wall over anything you say... We all have a 1st amendment right to freedom of speech and I don't know where all these SJW's got the idea they can just bully someone for having their own opinion if it differs from their own...

[hellacray]

I'm curious how did that lady even find out that you prefer to date white women? Seems pretty personal and not something you would share with others.

Anyways I'm with you I think the whole feminist thing is just there to make noise. They whine about everything and they are such hypocrites.


So I'm with you that stupid lady needs to mind her own business.

[donttrytofindme]

Identity politics is a parody of itself. Don't take it seriously. They contradict themselves on everything.

[roshniharish]

I really think that you are not a racist am from india and being in India I prefer dating my people than any people because we are so much attached to country , people whatever let her talk

[Anonymous]

As an Asian myself i prefer white men over Asian men to be honest... but it doesn't mean im not attracted to Asian men... Its just that white men are more masculine looking and build up their bodies. i also find myself liking hunk Asian guys. So yeah i just go for the tanned and masculine guys no matter what the race he is. Back to your question, no i dont think you are a racist. eveyone has their own preferece. Its natural to like your race. Its instinct and natrural thing to liking the same race.

[Yuhming2034]

Good look with your future children who will probably look more Asian, and inherit your shorter Asian genes and smaller frame, your kids are going to be messed up knowing their own mother looks down on the natural frame and appearance of the average Asian male.

[SlavicAmericanGuy]

SJW people are just trouble-makers. They try to impose a some kind of catch 22 morals to other people while self indulge themselves.

[WalterRadio]

It isn't her being Asian that is the source of the circular logic and confusion, it is that she is a feminist liberal.

[Kyle219]

Asian women are typically obsessed with white men and most worship whites in general. She was probably offended that you weren't interested in Asian women, because in reality Asian women love being fetishized.

Quite pathetic actually.

[Onlythisone]

I would say it's probably because of the school you are going to but the guys at my work are the same way. Mexican guys:"She should learn Spanish and get a nice husband" white guys:" no you aren't teaching her Spanish" ... Me backing away slowly...

[Red88xxx]

The woman is a moron. Also she's probably a 3rd wave feminist. And I love all ethnicities as long as you don't think all ethnicities are hideous or anything there's nothing wrong with that. And how do you even both started talking?

[NerdInDenial]

Well for the record she just mad because Asian guys won’t date her. Date whom ever you want but if you want to last long at that college, you have to be like a chameleon. Just agree that she’s right and “nod” your head.

[N192K001]

Whether she was Asian or not, you were debating a FEMINIST while male. They can never allow you to win, regardless of what you say or do.

[Asker]

The Asian part is important because I don't see too many black women complain about Jungle fever, if anything most black women are happy to be appriciated for black beauty, most latinas don't complain about salsa fever, they appreciate it. It's mostly Asian women who love to complain about yellow fever and ironically most of them date white men.

[N192K001]

Dude, we are male. In Feminist eyes, we are 「the Patriarchy」 in the flesh. That's why if you resist and choose to never date Asian (A) women, you lose. But if you surrender and date A women as urged, you still lose. You can't win, arguing by their terms. They won't let you win. They frame their arguments that way. The sad thing is that both positions are rooted in very real concerns:

• A's in the U. S. and Asian-American (A-A) s barely make 5% of the U. S. population. That said, A-A women date white men, since they are the most common race of men in the U. S. And self-hating A women date them to be more widely accepted in U. S. mainstream society, as an attempt to shed-off the alien-ness experienced even by countless A's who have earned U. S. citizenship.

• Yellow fever (like sex-tourism to Asia) is common knowledge and is resented by many. Who wants to be dated while being seen/stereotyped as a mere exotic sex toy?

As a dual-citizen A-A, I cannot altogether disregard these concerns.

[Asker]

"Yellow fever (like sex-tourism to Asia) is common knowledge and is resented by many. Who wants to be dated while being seen/stereotyped as a mere exotic sex toy?"

Some people actually like that sort of shit, I thought feminist were all about women being free to sexually explore their bodies and to not be shamed for how they choose to express their kinks.

one example of this is some white college women sleep with black women to sexualize them and these same black women will sleep with the white woman to sexualize them, in that situation they are both being used as some race sex fetish toy for exotic interracial sex. But if they are 2 consenting adults who are pefectly ok with being used in that sort of way shouldn't feminist be ok with that anyways?

[Asker]

• A's in the U. S. and Asian-American (A-A) s barely make 5% of the U. S. population. That said, A-A women date white men, since they are the most common race of men in the U. S. And self-hating A women date them to be more widely accepted in U. S. mainstream society, as an attempt to shed-off the alien-ness experienced even by countless A's who have earned U. S. citizenship.

Well my college isn't majority white and yet they still date mostly white men. Also there has been studies on online dating like ok cupid and stuff where Asian women have a preference for white men (these websites literally ask you for racial preference)

[Asker]

"Who wants to be dated while being seen/stereotyped as a mere exotic sex toy?"

I guess it depends, if people are just hooking up why would it matter, hookups are going to be superficial anyways. Relationships are something else. You wound't want to be in a relationship with someone just because they thought you were attractive right? But in a hookup scenario it doesn't really matter

[Asker]

I'm not even hating on Asian women dating white men or prefering white men, it's their body, it's the double standard and the yellow fever myth is a double standard and highly exaggerated and also it contradicts slut shaming and kink shaming and consenting adults engaging in activities that make them happy.

[Asker]

Just because a person doesn't like to be sexualized in a certain way doesn't' make it wrong for others to be sexualized in that way in the people involved are consenting adults who like that sort of thing

[BipBipLeddus]

I think 3rd wave feminism belongs on the autism spectrum.

[BipBipLeddus]

For the record, I only date within my own race, with the exception of one white boy in junior high.

[LegateLanius]

Everyone has their preferences and this woman seems cuckoo.

[fay23]

I'd suggest you transfer to another school and get out while you can. There is no way you'd win

[Anonymous]

I don't think she is a feminist. She is using that as an excuse to cover up her pain. Asian girls believe all white guys like them. I think she was taken aback by your preference.

[arthurdayne]

it's the same with south Asian (indian) women. You see a lot of them showcasing their white boyfriend in social media

[rose-24]

I apologise on her behalf wtf why are some girls so dramatic not all Asians are like this I promise 😂 it’s so obvious she likes you why else would she care enough to argue with you

[Anonymous]

Never argue with an illogical person aka a Feminist.

[Anonymous]

Everybody has right to have their preferences.