Do guys still want traditional women?

[Anonymous]

I think it's safe to call me traditional? I want to take care of the house, kids, and my husband. I enjoy cooking for my partner and doing special things for him or the both of us. I do want to have my own job like owning a small business and my husband have the main income and I just help when and where needed. The guys I've dated have always appreciated it but I just wonder, do guys really want that? I don't think there is anything wrong with men taking the lead, they're supposed to I believe. What do you guys think?

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+1 y

I'm a person that's very open minded. I just feel like it should all be discussed as a couple. I don't have to have kids and things like that but I just feel like the traditional role of a man taking the lead is best so long as he was brought up to do so. otherwise, we'd both fall. but I would def not have a problem with me taking the lead too.

[rjroy3]

Most guys want a more traditional girl in terms of the roles in the relationship. So if you mean Traditional only in the sense of that relationship dynamic, then yes guys generally want that.

When I think traditional however I also tend to think sexually more conservative which is meh to me. So if you mean "The Traditional Girl", then not so much. But if you just mean the supportive relationship dynamic. Again yea. Most guys want that.

I've yet to meet a guy who wouldn't be happier with a woman who was at home, dinner waiting, helping him relax, kissing him, having sex and nursing him back to stasis so that he can go attack the day again tomorrow. Over having a woman who was also out working all day and wants to split up all of the chores at the house, after he's gotten home from a full day of work as well. Now he's not SUPPOSED to want that or even talk about it, because who is he to tell a woman what to do. But he'd actually be happier with that in reality.

Nothing against the working wife situation. That's pretty much the home I was raised in and I respect a woman who has a hard work ethic largely because of that. My mama is a badass. Both my parents worked. But as far as the relationship dynamic between man and woman, when my mom was home more, when my dad got better paying jobs and she didn't have to work as much. Things were better in general for both of them and my dad was happier for sure.

I think it makes little sense to argue a man wouldn't prefer a situation where his woman is in a more supporting role to him. Because it's just not true lol. Now not all guys can afford to have that, because cost of living and most families pretty much require both parents working. But if he made enough money and had the option? I'd say 90% of guys would choose the trophy housewife situation, over having his wife work full time alongside him.

[Asker]

yes, I was referring to the dynamic of the relationship

[stuntbrain]

Don't let feminist lies determine your worth, there are plenty of guys who will appreciate you.

[stuntbrain]

You are the "normal" one, not the outsider they portray you as.

[stuntbrain]

The fact is that women are far superior to men in a variety of ways, don't let them shame you for what you enjoy.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yeah many guys want that because they want a relationship with someone dependent on them and one where they hold the power to say if something is important or not. Sure, sometimes it can be good to have one person with the financial buying power, but once things go sour and the relationship satisfaction is put on your shoulders, your feelings start meaning less and less especially when compared to his "long day at work" that he ends up taking our on you. No one intends to do it, it just happens and you'll resent it. Relationships should be equal effort but someone obviously has something more important in their life "ie real job" than your happiness takes a backseat. if you always put him first it'll be some messed up love triangle with you pining for him, him pining for work. It's not wrong to want to take care of someone you love, but it's a lot easier to find yourself in very bad situations when someone else controls the money. Money = mobility, opportunity, as well as comfort and status.

[Asker]

I understand what you're saying, but that same thing happens when things are 50/50 too..

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yeah, but the difference is if things are 50/50, you have your own savings and can move out knowing that you can support yourself, you don't have to call your friend to pick you up and crash on her couch because you have no money and you are too ashamed to tell your parents. And then, you can only stay on the couch for so long, and if your work experience is sparse, you're going to have a hard time getting a job. There are always power dynamics in relationships, but money is how "traditional" societies used to keep women from being independent. Just because it is socially acceptable for women to do it all (which is unrealistic), no access to/ no own money at all is not a good place to find yourself

[Asker]

did you read all that I said in the description?

[MlleCake]

From a feminist perspective, I support you and your future partner to create the life you want together.

I also want you to understand, that is only one of many traditional ways people have raised families or conducted their adult lives. Caring for a home was once a great deal more work than it is now too.

Some men have a leadership personality, some don't. Some women do, some don't. Some relationships don't have a leader. Sometimes a relationship is two men or two women (or more). It's good when the right people match each other and make things work.

But if that is the life you will find fulfilling, I hope you are able to make that happen. I think children benefit a lot from having a parent home more.

[MlleCake]

I got a thumbs down for saying - be happy and live your life. I love GAG.

[albataroaz]

I dont categorise women as traditional or modern.
The point boys lool for traditional girls is not so true
In my point of view they look for a girl who can balance both the sides really well. who knows how to handle family, chores and who on the other side likes to go out for parties and have fun.

[MzAsh]

I think a lot of men think they want a trad wife, until they learn that he better be making high income to support the whole family. If you have your own income, that’s not really being a traditional woman.

[rjroy3]

Want and can afford are two different things. Like plenty of guys want a Lamborghini. Not every guy can actually afford a lambo lol. Doesn't mean he wants it, until he has to pay for it. He just can't pay for it lol

[madhatters4]

what you described is fine with me except i think the finances of the house should not be put entirely on a male as in the our modern times it is less and less realistic that a family can survive with a sole primary earner. i don't want to feel like the burden of financial survival is on my back... it is one of those things that leads to higher male suicide rates

[madhatters4]

not to say that i would be against my wife being a stay at home mom or have a job that paid less if my job was enough to make ends meet... but i don't really it being the expectation

[devilman666]

Most women want the man to lead, and expect him to take his traditional role as a provider and care taker, but far less seem willing to deal with their traditional role of supporting their husband. As long as your business doesn't get in the way of your home duties then it should be fine.

Yes, I do think men want traditional women, not all men, but a good portion. If you walk into your boyfriends house, clean it up, cook him something, and then give him a great blowjob, why wouldn't he want that?

[Bjorn526]

Not sure you have to categorize, how you explained your interests, into “traditional” or “non-traditional” because the only thing you mentioned, that could of possibly been identified as “traditional” is wanting to have kids really.
I think it’s sad that women may feel like the desire to have kids and a husband is “traditional” because what is that saying?
Does that mean women feel the only way they can be “progressive” is to be non-married and not have kids?
Society has really failed and totally brainwashed women, If that is how they feel... don’t listen to academics and feminists, unless you know they are happy

[rjroy3]

Pretty sure she's referring to traditional husband/wife gender roles in the house. Like dad works, mom stays home to keep up the house, raise the kids and cook dinner. That's straight up traditional. A ton of Progressive women would scream at you for saying you wanted a woman who would do/wanted that as well.

[Bjorn526]

I never said I what I personally wanted

[rjroy3]

Never said you did.

[Bjorn526]

Ok. Sometimes it’s difficult to understand “you” being used in a general way, or a “personal” way. My bad.
Still, I don’t feel anything had been dissected, as being traditional or not, what I feel, wrongfully so, is the focus on what appears to be traditional... meaning raising kids T home while married. I think that is a problem, delusional and placing admiration to women who haven’t earned admiration, and diverting that admiration to women who haven’t earned admiration

[Bjorn526]

I mean, why are we admiring women, who claim to be so progressive, who think, simply being independent from traditional roles, as they see it, as a strength, when so much credit is owed to mothers who are owed so much credit, regardless of the current social climate

[rjroy3]

I perhaps could have been more clear by throwing an "if" in there to punctuate the point. It was an assumed if this, then that statement. Meh all good

But yea, she didn't really break it down entirely. I'm just confident that's what she meant based on what was said and her follow up.

[Bjorn526]

I think I responded directly to the question. If “want” means “respect” and “to admire” and all those can’t be separated, as they are all part of the same picture of wanting a woman. They can’t be separated, unless it just means a fling, but anyone asking this question isn’t trying to understand what motivates a guy, based on an impulsive sexual one time fling. She wants to know about if a guy is attracted to a girl if she wants a more traditional life; stay at home with kids and a husband who supports her, she wants to know if that is attractive or not.
The answer: it totally depends on her, whom she is interested in, how it is portrayed, etc

[Anonymous]

Not me, sorry... most guys of my age (at least the ones I know) aren’t very attracted to women who only do that.

Personally I want a woman who is ambitious and strong. And also depends entirely on herself and her strength. I love intelligent women who are educated and are hard workers (as in, going out to make a career for herself).

Me and many men feel this way. But on GAG I see more traditional men than modern men. So if there are more men on this site who prefer traditional women, it would make sense

[Asker]

if a woman depends entirely on herself, what are you there for? where do you fit and where are you needed or wanted in her life?

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t like that you’re implying that all men are there for is to provide and give.

I’m there because I fell in love with my girlfriend’s strength and independence. She’s very smart and we have fascinating conversations. We also go out and split the bill most of the time. Other times I pay and other times she does (especially on my birthday or on my promotions).

What I’m saying is that both should take an equal role on everything. If I do the dishes, she should wash the clothes. If I cook, she should clean the floors. Stuff like that.

[Asker]

I'm not implying anything, you just took it that way because I asked what your purpose was. it was a genuine question, I'm sorry if I offended you. I'm not opposed to that type of relationship I used to have one but they quickly turned into me paying for everything and then another turned into me being "too independent". so I was curious.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, I’m sorry. I misinterpreted that, my bad.

Yes, I see that mostly on couples who have a man with sexist or traditional views. Mostly when a man accuses a woman of being “too independent”, most of the time it is because he still believes that men should have the bread winner role, and that women shouldn’t be self reliant.

But I disagree with those men. I grew up in a gender neutral environment where my sisters and me were considered absolutely equal. My sisters were told to be strong, and I was told the same. I guess that influenced on my upbringing and I love that I grew up that way; otherwise I would’ve viewed women more like “possessions” rather than “citizens”

[AynonOMouse]

I need to be the one to make decisions for things that are important to me, but I still want the woman to work as much as I do and contribute financially to the family. I also want to have at least as much time with the kids as she gets to have.
I don't want to be one of those men that works too much and never gets to go to his kid's school events, doesn't even know who they are friends with, and they don't come to him for advice because he is never around and they don't like or care about him as much as the mother because he doesn't spend time with them.
Chores around the home (inside and outside stuff) can be divided on a points system where each person takes turns choosing chores. Then every 3 to 6 months redo it so nobody is stuck forever doing the same things.

[Anonymous]

Most of us no longer believe that women like you exist in reality. And honestly, I wouldn't believe you; you're too good to be true. I'd never be able to trust you; you'd have to have ulterior motives, like waiting until you had the children you wanted, before initiating your divorce for that golden alimony paycheck which had been your true motive and top priority all along, and leaving me with nothing. Tradition always gets killed off in the name of 'progress', and of profit; either eradicated entirely, like the tradition of "til death do us part", or reduced to nothing but hollow, commercialized husks of what they once were, like the traditions of Christmas and of marriage itself. Until, in the end, they just aren't worth anything any more.

[Asker]

I understand why you would think that. A few people often ruin it for everyone. a lot of people are easily influenced these days, causing controversy and just general fake authenticity. but women who share my view do exist and stick to it, and actually carry it through.

[Hiram]

Remember if you let a man take the lead you have to feel like your opinion is appreciated. Do you have the talent to always make him believe that the decision that was made was his? You have to be able to interfere when you see the decisions that are made are not correct. It is good that you think about him but what about you what if you feel like you want a career also with you with a career then you can help out a lot better if God forbid something happens. You can be all that if you can handle a career and all those other things you mentioned. I don't know if I'm making myself clear but I hope it helps.

[ScaryCool]

Yes there are men like that out there. Really as long as you sound you're happy with it, I'm sure a lot of guys would have no problem with it. I think really id find myself asking every once in a while if you're alright with how things are cause I wouldn't want someone being stuck stating at home if they decided they want more/different in the relationship.

[TheBigSoftie]

Well, I feel this way. I feel that men taking care of most of the stuff is a good thing, because in return, he is making you feel spoiled, loved, and adored, especially if he treats you like a princess.
However, I believe that you and a man should split finances 50/50, or at least have your male partner file as Head of the Household. You would still pay bills, just not as many, and that would give you an opportunity to save money for your small business.
So there ya have it.

[cth96190]

Traditional men want traditional women.
When I was your age, you were the sort of woman I wanted, but did not find.
I would suggest that you get in touch with red-pilled dating coach DeAnna Lorraine and ask her to hook you up. You can find her on YouTube.

[SidKnee]

Ahhhhh I feel bad. That grandpa got conned into red pill; scams you. Shitty people scamming old people godamn

[cth96190]

Red pilling is not a scam. 😡

[SidKnee]

It's a pyramid scheme

[zickzack91]

I prefer an independant wife. For me its a turn off if my wife does the traditional role. You also have to consider that it is also not easy for the family if only one person is working. What if the gets ill and can't work anymore. If that happens the woman has no experience and that results in low salary if she has to work. So its also a point of securing the standard of life.

[Halohatch]

It really depends on the guy. Some guys are comfortable taking that role as the breadwinner, the baconbringer. But some guys are not comfortable being the main breadwinner, and would prefer to either take the position you prefer as the household caretaker, or strike a balance. It's really just best to understand who you are with and discuss with them what they want.

[passinby]

I travel a lot and have opportunity to find pockets of traditional ways irl. Much of it is happening behind the scenes. But you are never going to find many reasonable answers on this libtard site to your question. Yes they are out there irl.

[HelloMyNameizChris]

I dont know about most men these days but I personally would love a traditional house wife. To me house wives and working, leading husbands are is still and will forever be a great system. there's defenitly nothing wrong with the system and its actually exactly would males and females have evolves into doing over the thousands of years. I'd say go for it!

[azzntittiz]

Men do not know what they want, but if that's all you really want I don't see what's stopping you from finding a man. Even if they end up being ungrateful, many men are ready to marry girls like you, trust me.

[Armourdillo]

Yea it's tough to know what I want because I do get along with people of different personalities. Girls seem to know what they want in sight.

[RKD31]

Traditional women is a need to the society. She is the backbone of a family. Good parenting comes from a caring mother. A good wife a man can rely on. A home which is handled with care. Man is bound to work due to dominance.

[TinaSP]

Traditional women for me is the ones who were born without a dick. These things you commented are made by any woman who works hard too. So are you really lazy or just looking for a sucker to marry?

[Asker]

no, I'm just someone who's been in a lot of different situations and now I've realized what I want. rude 🙃

[TinaSP]

didn't mean to be rude. Sorry

[motownplayer2000]

Your entitled to what you like. I want a woman that's ambitious. Doesn't give a fuck about traditions and society norms. As long as she works as hard as I do and is independent that's a turn on for me

[motownplayer2000]

If men, want that kind of relationship over a relationship with true equality and progress. Then they do not value success and do not want a strong relationship or woman. Strong women push all those blind traditions aside, break ceilings and become successful in careers, innovation, and finance. For too, long we have kept beautiful minds of genius women under wraps because men can't handle a woman that's smarter than them, with fragile egos. And women buy into that... not very smart on either part. The most successful societies are the ones where all minds are driven to thrive at the highest level capable. can't do that in the traditional mindset.

[anon4us]

By the nine hells women why aren't there more simple girls like you out there the little things are so special and I find domestic women to be the most attractive of all 😊

[phlipjohn]

Some men still do. Some men respect you more for being tradition. I know I am one of those men. I appreciate it when my significant other has dinner ready and everything else when I come home from work. And I'm one to show appreciation. Unfortunately I haven't found the proper woman who is willing to do so.