Why does the modern woman need so much validation?

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This page is an amazing example of what I'm talking about but even in the broader sense. Today's woman is being told she's beautiful, amazing , a warrior , capable of anything, a goddess from EVERY ANGEL and it seems like for some it turns into an addition when in reality none of it is making them better people.

splashofyellow · Accepted Answer

Because some women think they're in direct competition with the never ending instagram models of the world. Nowadays we have a distorted idea of what's important, thinking our social media presence is everything. Social media certainly has a lot more influence now but I think that's leading people into morphing into clones of each other. And we seek validation to know that we've succeeded in that.

Seeking validation isn't a new thing, though. People have always turned to other people to validate their thoughts and appearance. Social media is just a new platform for this to happen. Now we don't just have to rely on our social circles to validate ourselves. We can reach out to the whole world and feel like an accepted part of the society.

princessfromjupiter · Accepted Answer

Because objectification and reduction of women to their adherence to the very narrow range of (western) beauty standards has reached a new peak with the emergence of social media & the sudden influx of competition with completely unrealistic ideals is fostering insecurities that need to be countered somehow, e. g. through validation — which in my opinion still relies way too heavily on general and superficial characteristics

IsraelJordan · Accepted Answer

Man these comments are wild 😄 I don't think the modern woman needs "so much validation". I think they just want respect, but yes you are right some do get addicted to praise and attention, but that isn't exclusive to women. We can't make generalizations based off of individuals, for every conceited/stuck up woman I've met, 5 humble, kind, intelligent, and all around amazing women have came along.

To be honest there's a lot more I can say about this subject but I'm too lazy to type on my phone, if you want to have a deeper convo feel free to message

AllThatSweetJazz · Accepted Answer

Girl power pressure. Endless bullshit about how you have to succeed because everyone supposedly thinks you can’t do it even though they’re all encouraging you because it’s the right thing to be seen doing, not because they actually care how well you do.

Don’t ever question that veryone hates you and wants to see you fail because everyone everywhere hates women. So don’t you dare fail or you’re ruining everything for women even more by proving all these theoretical people who supposedly hate women right.

( -_-)

ImSoSquishy · Answer

because the truth hurts, and everyone gets butt hurt when the truth is told. some people don't want to be the one to hurt another person's feelings so they tell them a white lie thinking it's good intention. but sometimes good intention can easily turn bad, as now they will be trapped in their little delusional bubble thinking they're a unique snowflake.

whether it's drawing, body shape/type, dancing, exercise form at gym, and etc., i want blunt and honest feedbacks and not some bs lie to make someone feel better, as i see it as the only way for improvement. if i draw ugly pictures/sketches, i want people to tell me "yo, bro, this shit is ugly!" and if possible let me know which area needs to be edited, line needs to be more straight, or if it'll be better with this or that pen, pencil, or color too. rather than omg it looks so beautiful, and seriously some people will actually become delusional with a bunch of white lies and think they're the best artist when they're not. then the moment they bring their artwork for a competition or whatever and they get made fun of, and that's just terrible.

Anonymous · Answer

Men need validation too just in different ways or similar.

I’ve googled stuff cause I have questions about my relationship. Even in the times that IM insecure, I have to make sure to make sure my boyfriend doesn’t feel any more under appreciated as I am. “Make sure you don’t accuse him.” I feel like I’ve got adjust myself too in order to please him. “If he’s ignoring you, something is wrong and you should step back” “if you say that, it’ll make him feel disrespected” it’s about compromise of course

Plus we just liked to be appreciated

That and some things are totally in regards to politics 🙄 I can’t help be annoyed when people are trying too hard. ya know like the whole “we are not equal.” Some films try too hard to make women seem too good or something. I love movies with women that have a strong character but some just over do it.

Plus people like to sympathize with those who are “hurt.”
My brother had an ex girlfriend. One day they reached a point when they weren’t dating but a friend of his asked him to the Sadie’s dance (where girls ask guys). Her ass posted it on her Facebook and told all he rinternet friends and A SWARM OF GODAMN PEOPLE MESSAGED AND HARASSED MY BEOTHER AND THAT CHICK. They all were saying she could do better, calling my brother ugly, making the girl feel guilty for asking him. Her sister messaged e me saying it was his fault and I should talk to him. I don’t like her till this day but always kinda act cool 🙄 they gave her validation pretty much.

Kiran04 · Answer

Because for all the preaching of "don't let society tell you what to do!" women spout, it was SOCIETY THAT TOLD THEM TO SPOUT THAT MEANINGLESS DRIVEL IN THE FIRST PLACE. The irony of that is absolutely gob-smacking. Women tell eachother "don't listen to what anyone thinks", but what they really mean is "only listen to what I think because I'm right, everyone else is wrong". And women eat that shit up like candy. They still end up enthralled to someone else's idea of beauty and class, only they've deluded themselves that they're not.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Because they are miserable. They have walked away from what they are biologically inclined to do and are trying to act like men instead of women. They feel miserable because of this because they are denying their basic instincts, so they need to justify it by claiming that they are oppressed or objectified etc. This is also why they are constantly demanding praise for every little thing even when they haven't done anything at all (which is why all the praise is generic and blanket comments rather then specific things a particular woman has done.) They are all "Beautiful/Warriors (the overwhelming majority of these women have never even had to struggle)/etc." even though they are not, because what matters is ignoring the deep seated melancholy that they feel so they have to constantly talk themselves up.

rjroy3 · Answer

Mostly conditioning and upbringing. Girls who have a good relationship with their father in general are more likely to not be validation seeking. If they've had all good relationships where no one cheated they're more likely to not need validation. If they're not in a field like modeling or acting where they are constantly trying to get people to like them for purposes of their living they're more likely to not need validation.

Everyone wants "some" validation on a micro scale, but there's definitely a spectrum. Like a girl doesn't give af about what a random bum on the street thinks of her. You have to meet a certain standard before she'll somewhat care. For some girls the bar is as low as a random guy who isn't completely bad looking. For other girls it's limited to guys they respect/love.

CharlieUnicorn · Answer

I think it's the negative side of a society increasingly abandoning norms wholesale, in that there's no longer any "blueprint" on when you qualify as a good man, woman or even adult, anchored in your society.

I enjoy that freedom and wouldn't want to go back to how it was before, but undoubtedly it also increases insecurity. Things like say, maintaining good looks and get validation on that increases in value then, as there's less other things to hold on to.

I think men and women both have that problem today but generally seem to turn to different coping mechanisms.

carlos1978 · Answer

It's the rotten excuse that passes for raising a kid these days. The ups and the Downs, the joys in the pains, and the fears and thrills are what define us as human beings. You make it soft for a child or protect them from the sting of failure like they do today and everybody gets a trophy somewhere along the line you have a human being that's less confident of themselves, that uses validation as a kind of a drug and they can feel good about themselves because other people think highly of them, or at least say they do, instead of actually having to do anything. Men and women are both guilty of this

Johnnie1000 · Answer

Because a women's role is less defined compared to the 50's and 60's. Girls and women had roles they knew would be accepted and to aim for. Now they are still trying to figure out what a slut is with the new norm of freedom of sex. Career options are greater but definitions of what is womanly is yet to be confirmed for many wanting to find a comfortable place to be proud of. Also the pressure on women not to be homemakers is great. Those who want to be a homemaker as their woman identity are looked down on. One of the difficult and worthy of careers is looked down on. More problem to know who your are will be accepted. My thoughts.

FreshOutaIdeas · Answer

It seems there's other guys on here that get it, I'm glad, more guys need to know what's up with 21st century woman... (and man).

Weak women seek validation because subconsciously they know they have very little else to offer men, other than their pussies. Everything that was traditionally feminine in times of old have been inverted, and everything wrong with the modern woman is celebrated in this Cultural Marxist social justice culture...

Anonymous · Answer

It's because deep down they know that at least 90% of all of that so called validation comes from simps... the opinion of simps may temporarily inflate a woman's ego, but they want validation from men.. not simps... and they know that only simps do that.

For example, this girl at work was approached and talked to by at least 6 different guys. Later she comes over and says ''why didn't you come and say hi to me?''

I replied..

''What about all of those other guys I just saw you talking to..''

She replied

''they don't matter''

I've seen other examples, online is the same.

NapKweenNinteyFive · Answer

I think it’s because women are competing against other women, reality stars, insta influencers and stuff doesn’t help. I don’t know if it’s because I've gotten older but appearance is literally the most important thing to us compared to the past.

Anonymous · Answer

Humans need validation. It’s simply how our brain works. People have seeked validation since the dawn of time, each in their own social circles and in their own way. One might think they aren’t like that when comparing themselves to people who do it more openly or more ‘desperately’, but at the end of the day we all do.

MarilynMansonsSlvt · Answer

Why does the modern man need so much validation? xx ~ Mrs Manson

SouthernGirl23 · Answer

I honestly dont know what the issue is. I've noticed this too with all the constant instagram twerking and the girls asking on here "do you like girls with this or that?" Like who cares love yourself

close2heaven · Answer

you'd actually have to ask the ones that think they need it. I have a feeling that there are more that don't, than those that do. it's just more popular to let those that feel they are more emotionally in need of it for whatever reason vs those that honestly don't because those people are perceived as boring... and nobody likes boring.

ManOnFire · Answer

This is exceedingly true. When you need a lot of validation and praise it's because you're weak and have no inner strength or resolve of your own. Glory is earned, and the strongest deserve it. Not your average 21 year-old constantly posting selfies on Snapchat and hooking up on Tinder while pretending to want an "emotional connection" with a guy.

marrybarry · Answer

Because she lost her major role in life (being mother and wife) due to aggressive feminism. I don't say women's rights are wrong contrary, it brought so many good to this world. But the moment women wanted to be as men and not just have same rights everything went wrong. We can never be the same as men and as much we try we become aware of it and therefore lose our confidance and seek constant validation to reassure as of our worth.

lilaqua · Answer

Why do modern men need so much validation? Need to constantly be in the centre of attention when the focus shifts away from them.

marish01 · Answer

Npwadays if you don't call LIBERAL American, European women queen, goddess, beautiful, badass, strong, independent and other adjectives and nouns that have absolutely nothing to do with those women then you are a mysoginistic pig

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is making them better people. They are more confident, assertive, and they give no fucks. That’s how women should be.

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

I never understood why people cry over musicians and celebrities like Rihanna, Beyoncé, and others and giving them that moniker title of “goddess”, or “queen”, it’s quite stupid. Even for girls/women I don’t know why they want so much validation. Hard working moms out there don’t get the credit and validation they deserve. I don’t want to compliment a girl just because she’s pretty, has a job and got a degree. She doesn’t need validation from me unless she’s my girlfriend.

vishna · Answer

mmm I think some people have always needed attention. Some of us are not constantly calling each other "queen" or anything else.

A-man-22 · Answer

I will get hate for this but modern Femininity is fragile.
Women like to compare themselves to one another.
Just follow these tips

You don't need a certain amount of followers or likes to be valid.

You don't need to be attractive to every single guy to be valid

You don't need to have expensive clothes or jewelry to be valid.

As long as your bodies healthy you size doesn't make you less valid

Syrian_survivor · Answer

I think it's a very big issue
Causing many women to think they're the most amazing thing ever so they don't even seek improvement, they don't change themselves for the better and stay proud with their flaws

Some girls aren't like that though, and they're gorgeous from the inside and more attractive than any other egotistical girl out there

Lance1965 · Answer

I don't know but it is out of control now. A lot of women have changed relationships into being about them and them only. I have heard so many women whine "I deserve to be happy" like they are pre-programmed to say it and note it is always "I" and never "WE."

Another one is "it is all about me." This is the mindset of many modern women.

beyoncee · Answer

HUMANS need validation because it (sadly) reassures our value in this society

WhitePanther88 · Answer

Women have always needed validation. In the past a good slap on the ass on her way to the kitchen was enough

Anonymous · Answer

I think many of the responses here are missing the point, which in my opinion is, why does society feel women need to be validated so much? I think the answer is that society feels women are fragile and weak and need a helping hand, while men do not, which is a very outdated view.

DM_ME_PUPPERS · Answer

It’s what happens when you let women talk. All we care about is ourselves.

Toldol2 · Answer

Because the urgent and important things to do take over and we barely have time to nurture self-love

Miumiu98 · Answer

Lack of parenting. Too many girls reading useless junk (like magazines/blogs/etc). Hanging out with the wrong crowd.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Your critique is structured kind of weird.  Women need validation? I guess you mean from men.  So being a man, what can women do to make sure they meet with your approval? :D

Anonymous · Answer

Meanwhile men ln gag are posting "how do I look " , "rate me" and "would you date me- am i attractive" just as much as women 🤣

Engageme · Answer

It's the change of times. Just like men need validation. We get it so readily now with social media.

Astoriana · Answer

Literally everyone needs validation. Anyone who thinks they don’t is kidding themselves. It’s why people seek out like-minded individuals - they want their views and self-image validated.

Anonymous · Answer

Because she doesn't want to grow up and accept that in order for her to feel good about herself and accept herself she needs to look at herself as an individual and stop comparing and basing her self worth on what other people think.

Aenetoo · Answer

You're describing every woman in Minnesota for the last hundred years.

Wolframium · Answer

Well…everyone needs that. Because of how our stupid ass brain is wired. And guess what. There is nothing you can do about it. So just enjoy the ride.

winterfox10 · Answer

The idea is that women feel like they are being held down, so the constant positive reinforcement will help them achieve more. It doesn't seem to work though...

azzntittiz · Answer

So you don't think I'm a beautiful princess?

Kaneki05 · Answer

So it is wrong to call a beautiful girl beautiful well that's a new one.

TadCurious · Answer

So when you say "This page is an amazing example" which page are you talking about?

TheTallguy993 · Answer

Because most women are ugly as shit compared to those goddesses put on display.

JesseTheMan · Answer

Most modern people want validation. I just want money so I can chill and laugh at people desperate for validation.

Muhammad1999 · Answer

Maybe because men at older times were cruel to women and women had very less rights, now they want a revenge.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

Most women end being home maids because they dont want to brake their nails hard working.

Cask23 · Answer

Social media has trained them to be even bigger attention whores.

esotericstory · Answer

Western women no longer want to be good mothers so they seek accomplishment elsewhere.

Mrchocolate1818 · Answer

We men need validation as well it's good women are getting it but we men are always left to hang

Anonymous · Answer

women today are stupid  no they are not more mature or smarter blah blah blah  they are extremely stupid

Paris13 · Answer

I like to be Appreciated. xx

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's for motivation?

Aynsof · Answer

You find this exclusive to modern women?

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Because of the Internet.

Nieko · Answer

Leftists simple as that

TheAceholeSupreme666 · Answer

It's an instant gratification ego stroke.

swipka88 · Answer

human needs validation, nice to said

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Because of Instagram

Anonymous · Answer

Insecurity

DracoLuciusMalfoy · Answer

Filthy muggles.

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