Growing up, I felt ugly because of my monolid eyes, yellow skin, flat nose, and dark irises... Society second-handedly made fun of our appearances in media. In addition, kids in my school constantly bullied me for my 'small Asian eyes'. So as a child, I wished I was born white. For a period of time, I despised being born Korean... Thankfully, I got over this when I discovered the beauty of being unique from society's ideals. However, I still find that there are times that our race is made fun of due to our appearance. Yes, it has gotten better, but may I know the reason behind this idea? Is it because of America's bad history with Japan and China? Is it because we're different? Is it because our faces are often associated with villains in Old Hollywood?
Girl you kidding me? East Asian women are gorg!! I had a lot of interaction with Chinese people when I learned Mandarin and Chinese ladies (and gents) are all so youthful and attractive, I almost envy them. When I stood beside my Chinese teachers they looked 14 in their 30's and I looked 30 at age 14. East Asian men are some of the most attractive types to me. Forget the stereotypes, there are some really hot East Asian dudes out there.
Regarding bullying, always remember that being bullied is never about you. And certainly being bullied for your appearance doesn't make you ugly. Lemme tell you the real life story of an Indian girl. She moved to America in her teenage years and studied in a school there. Boys in her school bullied her for her looks and they especially made fun of her legs because they had white dry patches. This girl won the title of Miss World in 2000. I'm talking about Priyanka Chopra. Now guys all over the world are drooling over her 'exotic beauty'.
I know it's extra hard for a Korean to embrace their natural looks thanks to South Koreans getting so much plastic surgery, facial tapes and skin whitening creams to completely change their appearances. So the whole world is used to seeing an altered image of East Asian women and when that becomes normalized, ordinary/natural faces are no longer deemed as beautiful anymore. It's a plastic world.
I won't try to tell you here to be confident or whatever, confidence doesn't come overnight like that. I recommend you to do some research on how the Korean beauty standards and Western beauty standards have come to become the way that they are right now. How this the plastic surgery epidemic began? Why are lighter skin tones more admired in the East and tan skin admired in the West? Why I'm suggesting you to learn them is because, once you will have that knowledge and you will become more aware of your surroundings, you will also learn how temporary beauty standards are, they all die just how we all are gonna die someday. It will make it easier for you to REJECT these absurd societal standards and you'll be more comfortable and confident in yourself. Let people think whatever they want, YOU know that there is nothing wrong with you and that should be more than enough.
I know, EXACTLY how you feel. My mother is Chinese and my father is English. I look the most like my mother, the only looks I share with my father his height and his gigantic eyebrows. Other than that I look very Asian.
I was always very insecure about my looks. I grew up very pale, I had dark hair and dark eyes. I grew up in a small village where my mother and I were the only non-full whites. I gained many racist comments about eye shape, my body... everything really even my vagina. The worst was a girl talking trash about my mother (which she likely heard from her own parents). There were 6 other girls in my school, all of which were blonde with blue eyes, and I was so envious, my dad had gorgeous green eyes and mine turned out hazel, sometimes I was feeling very ashamed of being half Chinese.
When I started senior school, and I was 11-14 I got even more insecure because it was a new school in a bigger city, still with zero Asians (only me) and I felt like shit because no boy ever liked me. To be honest, it was unreasonable since they shouldn't have to like me, but all the other girls had guys liking them etc. I've heard a few guys saying they're 'just not attracted to Asian girls' which is honestly alright, I took these kinds of comments much harder than I should have.
In the end, I guess you kind of have to grow up a bit and realise that a world where a girl needs confirmation of her beauty from other men is a very sad place, and I realised that I don't need it. Being pretty is not all it's made out to be either. Lucky for me, I didn't turn out so bad and I started to get prettier when I was 15, I started getting nicknamed snow white by all these guys. People would call me exotic instead of Asian, and I started getting invited to parties and dates and this kind of thing. I have proclivity to older guys, since I always felt mistreated by people my own age, and I have a boyfriend now, he's great.
In the end of the day, a pretty Asian girl is an exception, everyone else is a foreigner, and I say this because the day people started to realise I was not ugly, was the day all racism stopped.
When I was 15 I felt like shit because no girl ever liked me. And I'm "white" growing up in mostly "white" places.
Honestly, before I was 16 I was way too shy to express interest towards a girl. [Had I been your age and living in your town...] I could have known you and had a huge crush on you but been just to awkward and shy to express it.
Now, saying that of course I understand that most humans are most attracted towards other humans who look a lot like them. So if I had grown up in some small village in China, I would have probably had a similar experience.
Oh, and ain't nothing wrong with having the most beautiful of all eye colors 😉
@BobSansMal Thank you for your sweet comments. I suppose I'm lucky to have grown up to be pretty, with no lack of male attention. I suppose despite the racism it was more about growing up and learning than about my actual race.
It still hurts sometimes though. People I knew from that village don't talk to me anymore, and I know people treat me differently because of how I look. But racism is not as bad, other than the occasional backhanded compliment. 'You're so pretty for an Asian girl' I get quite a lot, which is annoying and I also get questions about how tight my vagina is a lot. But I've grown a lot and it doesn't bother me much anymore.
I don't know which culture you lives in, but in my country Norway they're considered both exotic and sexy. Especially if it's women. Wealthy Nordic men tends to travel abroad for vacation and sometimes they tends to get a wife. The wife likes wealth and the wealthy likes beauty, so it's basically a win-win situation. If they were considered ugly, why would so many wealthy men - both regular young ones and the old fat ones - travel abroad and marry some? Many travels to Thailand, Vietnam, Singapore etc.
While the majority of the Nordics are proud of being blonde and Nordic, they're also many times admiring Asian beauty. They admires their slim bodies, youthful appearance and dark features. Some even envy them for having dark eye lashes, a tan and usually not gaining weight as easily. Many finds black people attractive as well, but doesn't want to admit it because of being black is associated with immigration and not everyone wants to sound like a pro-immigrant.
I think it mostly stems from racism and hatred and ignorance and intolerance
But you are not ugly at all. I mean I have noticed the physical differences between other races, but so fucking what? I couldn't fucking care less if you're skin is yellow or your eyes are small and monolid or you have dark irises.
I'm white, but I've never felt the urge to judge the physical differences of other races, I just accept them as is they are. Personally, I've always found Asian women very attractive because of their physical differences and mannerisms. Sometimes different is good and can draw others closer better than similarities or compatibility.
Just remember you are beautiful no matter what others may have to think or say. You got the right idea, society isn't always right, just being yourself should be unique enough.
You sound like someone I would love to become friends with! I love your way of thinking! If only the whole world saw other races as you did. This was very motivating and sweet. Thank you.
That’s subjective. No one says alll East Asians are considered ugly. However there are ugly ass people everywhere from every race.
From Asia the better looking ones tend to be South Korean and Japanese... the eyes are not ugly in the contrary, look kind of cute.
Chinese and North Korea tend to be ugliest!
And people make fun of the eyes cause they looked pulled but some look cute really. And also just cause someone makes fun of something doesn’t mean they think it’s ugly, it’s just easy to pull your eyes and look similar creating fun to others but I personally would love to have a boyfriend with those eyes and have little kids with those eyes they’ are so cute to me but then there are those that are soooooo pulled it lols closed and then it doesn’t look so cute anymore.
Tall Asian guys are so hot ❤️ But I could say that about any race, short guys are not so attractive regardless of their race.
But from all the tall guys of every race, the Asians tall guy tends to call my attention the most!
They are? I disagree. You just went to the wrong school. I think Asian girls are very cute and sweet. Best alternative to modern American girls. However, there is one thing that creeps me out about Asian girls. There are a lot of "Before and After" videos of makeup on Asian girls. And OMG. Some of the girls look like a completely different person. And that scares me. I might go to bed with one girl and wake up thinking I slept with another girl because she looks totally different. "Did I get drunk and cheat? I don't remember that happening".
I know what you're talking about. This is a very popular trend in China. But don't worry, it's also the power of very heavy filter. I doubt girls would look that enormously different with and without makeup. Personally, I wouldn't let that get to your head. It's very unlikely that scenario would happen.
Personally (as a Causcasian) I think they're the most exotically attractive of any other non-Caucasian group. I think some of the stereotype comes from: applying Caucasian physical standards of beauty on other groups, personal preference and experiences, and perhaps some racism. I don't think much of the American societal negativity towards Japanese, Vietnamese, or others due to war is prevalent. That said there may be some distrust directed at Chinese because of the geopolitical friction. Growing up I'd actually been very interested in girls who were east Asian.
Ah, it makes since racism still exists in this world. Thank you for your thoughtful input. Maybe since America's standard of beauty gravitated towards Caucasian features, and since Asians have many differing aspects, that some people may perceive Asians as 'ugly'.
I think we're much more multicultural than we've ever been. Beauty has a much more varied definition. I'd be curious to think what east Asians think of Caucasians. Exotic? Ugly? Or just foreign?
Well, I don't represent all Asians, but I will my best to give my input ^-^: Their features tend to be sharp, unlike Asians. And this in its own way gives them a mature beauty. I wouldn't describe the features as exotic as Caucasians are prominent in media everywhere. But if one were to move into Asia, they would be considered a foreign beauty. In summary, beautiful/handsome in their own way.
If the girl is picture below is east Asian then I think she's gorgeous. I personally think a lot of Korean men and women are beautiful the way they look. Plus almond shaped eyes are very common among a lot of people who aren't even Asian so it kinda odd how people can mock that type of eye shape. I also tend to think brown eyes are beautiful too. But I totally understand how you feel, a lot people experience this a lot in the black community as well. It's the lack of positive promotion that hurts a lot of other races of people and only seeing one image in the media that constantly telling us this is what beautiful and everything else isn't hurts a lot of people's self esteem.
First, East Asian women are not ugly, so get that out of your head. Second, the reason some people say things that sound racist of uncomplimentary might be to get under your skin and see how you react. Those kind of people may be racist idiots or it might all in fun, or it could be some insecure person's attempt attempt at flirting and getting your attention.
People notice differences. It's like somebody calling a read head "carrot top" or calling a person with freckles "freckle face" or calling someone who is tall and slender "bean pole" or calling a short person a Munchkin.
Are you insane! East Asian women are the cutest women on earth! I dont think anyone considers them "Ugly" but they certainly get picked on in grade school in the USA. When you are that one Asian kid it can be hard. People often mimic accents and slant their eyes with their fingers. Its rude and distasteful.
East Asian women have their own unique beauty. I find them to be irresistible. My last 2 girlfriends were Chinese. And tbh, I find Korean women to be gorgeous. Not only that but East Asians have the best fashion sense, are decent, moral, principled, they are great people.
I'm glad you're aware of the racist jokes that are commonly made. As a child, I even made fun of my own race myself, seeing as this was common. I thought if I did so, I would be more accepted. Thank you for your insightful reply. And thank you for the compliments.
I never thought east Asians were ugly they are cute to be honest i do wish that i could be as skinny as east Asians because that’s awesome these are some examples of beautiful east Asians with small eyes.
I really like monolid eyes. I'd rather someone have monolids eyes then have eye surgery. Lately I started realizing I really like broad noses on Asian men.
It is all about past hierarchy nothing more. Whites on top and everyone else below which is strange because historically Asia and the Middle East intellectually were far ahead of European areas for thousands of years. I didn't say European people were less intelligent but that Asians/Middle Eastern people were pursuing more intellectual studies before people in the European areas. (I'm white)
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With Asian women to many times they have to deal with fetishes. For some men they just think Asian women are attractive and with some it is a fetish. It is starting to happen to Asian men but only with select groups of women I think.
TROLL ALERT! I'm not going to take this question seriously as it's obviously an attempt to troll me and poster is clearly a sock puppet account.
But saying that Asians, in particular Asian women are the most desirable women on earth. We possess the perfect combination of beauty, intelligence and class. All men, (especially whites) drool at our feet and white women are jealous/envious because their own men want us not them.
That's all I'm going to type, but the evidence is there..
Absolutely not! East and Southeast Asian women are VERY beautiful! And I want to emphasize that. They're the most feminine, they tend to stay fit compared to other women, and have the highest average IQs of all races of women. What's not to like? I consider them, along with European women, to be the most beautiful. What you've experienced stems from ignorance and nothing more! So don't think too much of it. According to various dating studies, they're either the most desired or among the most desirable. But remember still, not every single Asian woman is attractive, I just think most are.
I don’t think East Asians are considered ugly. I think they are considered like every other race. Some are some aren’t.
But if you grew up in America in schools that were mostly white and black people you probably got picked on a lot simply because you’re different No big deal it happens to everyone that’s different a bit because people and kids in particular are assholes.
I always thought east Asians were some of the most attractive personally, in fact, when I visualize my type, it is a beautiful east Asian woman (in other words, east Asian is ideal to me.)
I think some people only are that way because of the whole thing about world war 2 and what the japanese did back then, as well as the vietnamese back in the vietnam war, kind of like how some americans still seem to have a sort of resentment for russians.
Thank you for the input. I considered this as well. I can see this idea when my mother speaks of Japan... She and my other relatives don't think of the country fondly because Japan did many messed up things with South Korea. So perhaps it's a subconscious resentment that might be a cause for some to think as such.
I guess I'm a weirdo then, cause I think they can look sexy. Heck, I'll admit to following a few Asian models on instagram. (For research purposes only.)
There are guys who like and guys who don't. The same can be said the other way around.
"Life is not black and white, its full of gray areas."
Girl, DON’T listen to haters! Haters gonna hate! Don’t listen to what they have to say! They are behind for a reason! Also remember this: Inner beauty is worth more than an appearance. The people who cares about appearance is living backwards!!! Seriously, NO ONE is ever born ugly! EVERY HUMAN BEING IS UNIQUE and BEAUTIFUL!!!
Honestly I have always grown up wishing to look like you because I have just always loved it. Maybe it is because I have Japanese in me and I have always wanted to be connected but I am so white people don't believe me when I tell them My grandma was japanese ! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! and thousands millions billions will agree!
I see nothing about being Korean to be ugly. I love the way Asian eyes are kinda squinted and long. sometimes it makes me jealous because of their eyes the women get rlly pretty. And I have met and seen some pretty hot Asian guys. Im native American so I don't like the way my upper eye lids bag. Not in a disgusting way but in a way that it hides a fourth of my work on my eyeliner.
I don't know what media you consumed that said you were ugly, but in Canada I've never seen such media.
I'm a white person dating an Asian man who has virtually all of the traits you mentioned, and know many men who idealize or fetishize Asian women (not a compliment, obviously).
However, there is still this toxic idea that white women are the "ideal" so I don't at all doubt people were harsh to you.
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It’s because North Americans and Europeans generally consider people who look “different” to be much less attractive than white people. East Asians, South Asians, Africans... we’re all thrown into that category.
All I can tell you is to say, “Screw you!” to the haters and to embrace your differences, because give us power by allowing us to stand out from the crowd :)
Well ugly because of an ugly personality always had Asian girls who are soo aggressive, sexist anything she does wrong is ok but the one thing a guy does Hell freezes over. On top of that there's no physical attraction even if there was I couldn't kiss her because i'm not a fan of eating insects raw food spiders or squid no human would.
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