Why do guys' emotions flip like a light switch in a matter of days or hours?

[Anonymous]

He loved me. An undeniable love and desire. He professed it every second for 2 months. He asked me to move in and marry him. I don't oblige and say I need him to prove to me I can trust him again before we get back together. We make plans to see each other. He tells me he can blow off his other plans to see me all weekend since I'm worth it. He tells me how happy he is I'm giving him a second chance a few days ago.

Then... He starts texting less this week but blames it on work and depression. He starts avoiding me and being irritable when I ask simple questions. I beg him to explain what's going on and why he's not returning my messages. I get all sorts of excuses why he can't talk. He makes excuses why we won't work out (real reasons but he always knew they existed). I eventually ask if he wants space, he says yea, at least a day. This was last night and haven't heard from him. I told him I was done 2x because I can't take him going back and forth. Besides my intense reactions to him blowing me off for days, I did nothing and he changed. He stopped telling me how much he loves and misses me and says I should just move on and that he just wants to be happy again (he's been depressed for months over the mistakes he made with us)

Why? What am I missing or is this guy crazy?

[anon543]

kinda sounds likem he might be a bit unstable... bipolar maybe?

[Asker]

Glad you said this, I've been questioning that lately and others have said that might be the cause.

[anon543]

yeah that's not normal... as far as unstable emotions sometimes I'll wake up and have a pissy day, but its like once every few months, and I jsut crave solace when I do it and pretend I don't exist for a day cause I Know I'll be an *ss.

[Asker]

That's normal, and he does tend to "hide" when he's going through something. He admits he just needs to be alone and with his family or whatever. But to completely treat me like that and ignore my crying phone calls is mean. He knows I have anxiety so it's like he's purposely trying to hurt me for rejecting him. It's hard to tell though when he's going through a rough day and when he's completely done with me.