Why is it people think I'm stupid?

Question

I've studied a business degree, travelled the world solo and worked in another country but yet people talk down at me despite they have done fuck all with their life

anonChineseMale · Accepted Answer

Hahaha, yeah... its called misogyny... or it might be the cause of potentially gloating depending on where you are plus your social economic status will dictate how you will be viewed. I don't know where you are... or who you are however, you can move and find a place and community that respects you more. I know a lot of people move to find a place where they can be more themselves or around a community that uplifts each other rather than knock each other down. I'm glad you got to travel the world and get a business degree however, most people have not... and it may sound like you are gloating around them. So its not always great to bring up that you have traveled the world as people can be filled with envy... and not the good kind. Now in regards to how people talk down to you... that I can't say from here. But I'll take your word for it. The world is mostly patriarchal and misogynistic. My time in Japan has shown me that through their government system and language. It is somewhat built in their language to have a hierarchy. It's weird however it's not the only language that has that such as the Korean Language. Spanish has male and female verbs.

My point here is that whether it is through history, society, culture, or language women are usually seen as inferior or a "support" role. And if we are talking about corporate culture... then man you are going to have a hard time (Looking at your business degree). I have seen people abuse their power and heard stories from co-workers. I have experienced women in leadership or management position and... sometimes I feel like they have to act more... aggressive or stern to show face and maintain power (dominance). Which I can understand because I have seen guys try to walk over female leads. I remember a time that I probably come off as the guy trying to one up a director (and female at the time) even with the best of intentions... that shit creates so much tension... its almost not worth talking about my ideas or feed back... because people don't like critiques or criticisms or feedback about their ideas especially when its against their position/idea. And that is regardless of gender. No one want's to be made a fool out of.

And if anything... maybe there is some truth to what others say? I can't imagine random people outright saying that you sound stupid. So who said it? what was the conversation? what did you say? and how was it said? My major is in communication studies and although my writing is... poor I love the major I took because it opened my views to the broader picture of the world that I feel like life constrains us to.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

1. Most people ARE stupid. Especially the ones who constantly judge others. (No, this doesn't apply to me. I said "constantly"!)

2. Having a business degree (or ANY university degree) means f*ck-all when it comes to actual intelligence. Knowledge does not equal "smarts."

3. A business degree isn't even one of the so-called "smart" degrees anyway. (Some of the dumbest people out there went to business schools or have business degrees. Look at Mark Cuban. He's borderline retarded.)

4. As another pointed out, your grammar and spelling is terrible, and that's sometimes a sign of stupidity (it applies to both smart and dumb people, but far more often with dummies).

5. I'll give you props for not going straight to "misogyny" or "sexism." Otherwise, you would've proven everyone else they're right.

6. I gave you valid points, but I'll suggest something else: You should do what I do and take advantage of people's misconceptions of you. I am probably, literally, the smartest human being I've ever known (not to say I'm a super-genius; I've just never met anyone on my intellectual level). Yet most people think they're smarter than me because I'm overweight; the "Homer Simpson" effect. So I take advantage of that. I'll sometimes manipulate people if they're just being short-sighted, to gaslighting them (not in a cruel way) if they're being jerks. It's fun. If people think you're stupid, and you actually ARE intelligent (I can't tell), then use that to your advantage. Especially since, as I said, MOST human beings are stupid.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

I am in school for a college degree, and personally I don’t think having a college degree makes you smart in every aspect of life. I think people are personally being rude to you, but a college degree is only meaningful towards a career choice.

GingerCatLover · Accepted Answer

Well if English is your first language, and I apologize if not, that could be a reason why people think you're stupid.  I mean you responded to @boggboss with "I dont feel like I dont tho".

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes first impressions can be telling.

I often get it for my accent and one of my managers is very posh English, people automatically assume I’m just some comedy act.

I then have to politely remind people I am in charge lol.

think about how you interact with people.

and yes as someone that’s travelled loads, experiences etc I understand where you are coming from

NathanDavis · Answer

I can be stupid for some things, and if this was the first impression I give to someone, well... that's why it could be.

For example, if you saw me wearing a mask at Walmart and you started to berate me about it and tell me about Bill Gates, microchips, the mark of the devil, sterilization, Biden and what not... well, I would not have the best impression about you.

Xyglo27 · Answer

Well firstly you're a woman so naturally you're more likely to be considered stupid because lets face it, most women are stupid.

Second, you may have a stupid looking face. Now what do I mean by this?
Well we all judge people by how they look. Some people look kind, some look mean, some look gangsta, some look nerdy & some look stupid.

We cannot control this. We have the face that we were born with & there's really nothing we can do about it.

Miristheiss · Answer

My wife has a Master's degree. She still says really ditsy stuff from time to time. She knows her stuff... that pertains to her degree but there are other times some basic stuff seems to confuse her.

Maybe you have a ditsy side of you and people are teasing you for that. Hopefully just for fun.

Levin · Answer

Dunno. Feel more context is needed and what you feel going on. I suppose as a general rule people are judgmental and sneering, especially if you have unusual or challenging views.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Just trying to make themselves feel better about their own lives.

boggboss · Answer

Maybe u carry yourself in a way that gives off that impression

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It doesn't matter what degree you have, if you say something stupid like "gasoline does a better job putting out fires than water does", people are going to think you're stupid.

jahaims · Answer

Intelligence isn't scaler. Just because you have traveled or gained a degree doesn't mean you aren't stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

How should we know? We don't know you.  But I will say, any idiot can travel these days, and any idiot can get a college degree

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps it's in your body language and demeanor. Do you come across as confident and inciteful?

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Lol... can't figure out till I can personally talk to u

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Dunno, maybe they are stupid.

devilish-cutie · Answer

they probably just cover their own incompetence

Cowboy6666 · Answer

may be those people are jealous with you

anylolone · Answer

Because people do that sort of things.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Jealousy, or you must be too pretty

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

street smart?

Anonymous · Answer

do you have kids?/

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