Why are darkskin women treated so disrespectfully in our society?

Question

Why do darkskin women get treated so disrespectfully in our society? In dating, workplace or even in general in our society more than every other woman of another race or even more than black men? Why that?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because of negative connotations and stereotypes created towards us by society (be they true or not). It has always been this way for black women; yet other races deny it.

I'm not saying this is the case for all black women, but typically we do face more backlash.
Let's start with relationships and dating. Even most of own men don't like or want to date most of us because supposedly: we're loud, obnoxious, overweight, or they're not attracted to us. Even most of the black men on here openly admit that. Sad, but that's reality. I've accepted that years ago, as I now tend to date outside my race, and love it! :)

In the workplace/careers, we deal with nonsense. For example, I have a college degree- which is clearly on my resume and I note it when I apply for any job. Yet HR and people look at me in shock when I tell them this! Why?
Because apparently people assume black women don't have college degrees: we're too busy raising kids, or we dropped out of school 🤦
Yet I watched women of other races with no degree make more money than I do, or get promoted with minimal to no effort, while I have to work twice as hard to prove myself.

These are a few of many examples. I could go on, but I already know someone's going to come on here and try to refute my opinions with, "That's not true!" or, "Everyone has an equal opportunity in life!" Yes, but not always.

These are real issues that people deny because guess what- they don't experience it. I guarantee if other races experienced half the racism or stereotypes we did in life, things would be so much different.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I assume you mean in western, ie white dominated countries. In my opinion the reason is not skin colour but culture. I have no prejudice against black people but in my personal experience, black women tend to be:

- Loud and obnoxious in public
- Very opinionated and aggressive
- Use way too much perfume and their hair product also have a strong smell
- Also, black people in general have a distinct odour that might bother others when it comes to dating. No point getting offended, I heard we smell to you too. But some people might not be into that because it's pretty strong.
- Some people might simply not be physically attracted, in general men prefer women with slightly lighter skin than their own (in any race, including black)

Of course I met black girls who are not like that but guess what... they'd rather hang out with us than other black people. And when they do stay with other black people, they suddenly become more loud and aggressive. I prefer subtlety, so do most of my friends. Acting the way black people, but especially women often do is strange to us.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because of racial stereotypes. To quote someone else who wrote this;

“ I am an old southern white boy. (If you are already assuming that you can predict something about my attitudes based on that sentence, then that is an example of PREJUDICE: judging someone's character on the basis of stereotypes.)

I have friends and acquaintances who are members of different races and ethnic groups. But I have a strong dislike for ghetto culture. If you want to claim that ghetto culture does not exist, post your own question or myTake on that topic. For me, and for many, many people, it's real, it's counterproductive, it exalts ignorance, and it perpetuates itself. And I dislike anybody who embraces or tries to advance ghetto culture.

Ghetto culture does not belong exclusively to one race or ethnic group, just as Section 8 housing and housing projects are not occupier exclusively by one race or ethnic group. In fact, less than 50% of all households in federally subsidized housing are black.

It occurs to me that my rejection of ghetto culture might lead some people to assume that I am a racist (and that fuels their need to get their SJW fix.) What do you think? Is disapproval of ghetto culture the same thing as racism?”

VanillaSalt · Accepted Answer

Don’t downvote or report because I tell you the truth.

Black women around here are very… aggressive. Their not soft like a woman “should be.” Never mind the stereotypes the actual women are like this. Expecting it here 9/10 times will end with you being right. Besides this blacks generally come with certain undesirable traits like stiff hair. God do I hate stiff hair and attitude. These women are my opposites in attraction. Mind you that’s why I don’t date them but other than the aggressive attitude ide never treat them different other than being uninterested. Now if she starts up with any aggressive body language or tones which are common here that’s a different story.

It’s common for them to talk with their hands and pointing and shit here… that’s so disrespectful and annoying. And if I think you got a fucking attitude with me ima put you in your fucking place. But that’s nothing special to black women that’s for everyone. The white man that does it will end up on the floor reconsidering his life choices that led him to that point. Maybe a woman won’t get put down but I’m not gonna be quite either and under the right circumstances I got absolutely no issue laying even a beautiful woman out for being rude and aggressive.

doopayo · Answer

Because of colorism and many other factors, funny thing is. Dark skin women are literally the blueprint, they’re the definition of beauty.  Melanin is where it’s at 🤝

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

I know you probably don't want to hear this because I saw you mention it to another person here. But the Angry black woman stereotype does exist for a reason.
Maybe you are not angry.
Maybe you are as sweet as Cadet Hooks.😄

But I have heard from many black men how so many black women are aggressive, loud and often masculine. Obesity and single motherhood is extremely high among black women. And I have also noticed that when you find a black woman who is really attractive it is almost guaranteed that she is going to a horrible gold digger with an entitled attitude.
I know you don't want to hear this but you asked. And if you want to blame someone for this stereotype take a look at the black women from previous generations.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

What do you mean? Black women are treated better than black men when it comes to law enforcement and the court system. Like other women, they're able to get hired to white collar jobs far easier than men and other "privileged" groups due to affirmative action. And when it comes to societal and government assistance programs, black women will get it faster and way more than black men. More black men are in jail compared to the amount of black women who get lighter sentencing too. The amount and severity of negative stereotypes for black men are greater than for black women.

BeMuse · Answer

You just had the BLM attack old ladies in the street 20 to one, beat up people that were hospitalized, shoot children in the face while they were playing on the sidewalk, burn down cities, loot businesses, yell racist slurs at people, burn down churches, etc. and 9 out of 10 Black people polled said they supported that sort of thing. Quite frankly you’re fucked for like two generations now even if you’re on your best behavior. If most Black people came out against the BLM early on and said fuck that shit and fought back against them, they would have earned a lot of respect.

rc321 · Answer

I think while it's true generally the tone of someone's skin does effect how one is treated the reason why differs culturally. Places like Asia it generally means that someone is of a different class, tanner in skin tone, they tend to work in more manual labor such as farming. While people that have fair skin are seen as someone who doesn't need to work with there hands and may be of a higher social class. In the west because of slavery and etc it can mean inferiority, adding the combination of gender roles and skin it's highlighted even more.

thotmas97 · Answer

I think generally people see black women (and black people in general) as a collective, and so they treat individual black women as being dumb or less serious, particularly if they exhibit any physical or internal traits that are associated with black culture. Black people get treated differently for example when they’re upset; white people generally see an upset black person as being either dangerous or irrational. There’s an implicit idea that they can’t think for themselves, because people generally have much more difficulty with empathy outside of their own racial community. This goes both ways, but in our society (I assume western society) white people are the ones who control nearly all facets, something that is implicitly understood and acknowledged if not stated directly.

ohshee · Answer

The sad part about it is it doesn't matter what color you are there's so many people treating other people bad nowadays it's just all fucked up far as I'm concerned I look at the picture in your post and I see very very beautiful woman is a very beautiful smile her eyes tell me that she has a very beautiful heart I don't understand people nowadays they're rude they think it's all about them and they're usually the people that suck not the people that they're putting down we need to change this world what's going to change whether we like it or not but I know one thing you better all come together and we all better come together right now because all kinds of crap is going to start going downhill very soon and we need to be prepared for it I don't care what color you are we need to be prepared for it we need Tubi

ONE WITH ONE AS 1

DharanS · Answer

Mostly because black as a colour is considered not pure or you can say it is associated with bad things. As per Hindu scriptures, rakshash (devil) is always dark skinned and dev (gods) are always light skinned. The devil sometimes wears black clothes. Black in most other religions or cultures, is considered a bad omen. The grim reaper wears black cloths as shown in most images.

You said black men and women are also treated impartially. Well it is a men's world and women are most of the time looked upon. It may not be because of the clour of skin.

Society is changing and it will for the better so hang on.

Namaste.

soulbabe · Answer

Can't say I would know I tend to admire some black women because I think they look pretty. Ps I'm straight. And I have worked with some black women with good work ethic it's the same as anyone else some take care of themselves and work hard while others I'm convinced came from hell to torturous same as any race of people. Pps I'm not racist I hate all people equally. I don't care if you're white black Asian indie native American Hispanic Arabic or whatever I don't trust nobody everybody's sketchy as s***

Sweetener_ · Answer

I believe that dark-skinned women are treated disrespectfully mainly by people of their own race. Colorism is very high in the black community.

Colorism affects all black people. But especially the dark skin women the most.
There's this narrative that light skin women “look better” and dark skin women are “ugly” or "too dark". And these comments do not only come from black women but from black men particularly. And this is what is causing conflict in the black community.

ToastyOats · Answer

People are largely shallow. They treat other based on their shallow criteria. Thats great if your the average, shallow minded nitwit. But if you are below average, Or even above average!, you get the shaft, metaphorically of course, no one actually wants to give you the shaft. Ironically the highest intelligence white men are the most likely to date African women, because they are actively shunned by white women. Strange, because those are exactly the kind of men we need most to fix the horrendously F'd up society we live in. I would date an African woman if I could find one that could respect me for my mind instead of just being with md because they are desperate to fulfill more materialistic goals that African men simply are not motivated to do. Once you see it its hard to not see it!

Jonny59 · Answer

in my country here we don't have black people and I managed to be a friend with a black girl but people around me were so disrespectfully that they said "black shouldn't exist"
that's hurting even for me as a white guy when I met her all in my mind was ''wow exotic I want to be a friend with her''

because we don't have black people in our country like probably max 1,000 at most no clue which is like 0.50% of our country anyway people werecriticizing us because we were friends no relationship no couples just friends hanging out and we walk we hear disgusting things and honestly I just despise them
why people care what color is someone even I met a Asian guy in college which is even more rare people there were mocking him bullying him
fcking hell

420Rachel · Answer

I think the lady in the image is GORGEOUS! And I think that black women are disrespected more than other women because of the stereotypes that have been placed on them. "Loud", "obnoxious", "rude", etc. I've interacted with many people in my life and many black women I've met have been nothing but the sweetest people ever. Just don't be rude and generally people will not be rude back to you, no matter gender or race. How is that hard to understand?

MikeSanitation · Answer

I don't know, but ask the black community. The lightskins vs darkskins has been going on longer than any black vs white beef. So stop playing dumb by asking your question in a broad manner like everyone is just out here waiting to shit on the darkest skinned woman they can find. No one buys that shit anymore, only the dumb white guilty folks and they're sub human individuals so they barely count. It's the 21st century, people tend to think alittle more even if that doesn't seem to be the narrative.

Anonymous · Answer

It's so typical for people to think dark skin= black woman.
Because Eurocentric beauty standards. White was and is treated with high status and beauty. Women suffer more for this
Anyway you just have to accept it. I know i am inferior due to my dark skin and might bleach in the future

SphynxUK · Answer

Black is Black, regardless of the tone, and I don’t see why anyone would be treated worse because of this, but I know it still happens.
I personally haven’t seen other women treating dark skinned ladies bad, but I do see it from men. I also see them prefer to date lighter skinned women. Why? I have no idea.

Somegirl408 · Answer

im a lighter skinned mixed woman and trust me i still get treated disrespectfully sometimes, people are ruder to me. i asked a question on why guys are ruder to black girls than white girls because i just feel this. obviously there are nice people that are nice to everyone regardless. but its like other races just assume we have attitude so they act ruder to us.

Jlegacy · Answer

Personally I loved white women from the womb but when I met my ebony Queen, I was blacked for eternity. Black women are treated like gold in Africa where I currently am. Elsewhere you simply have to prove yourself and rise up and take your seat at the table.

Anonymous · Answer

Balck people are treated like crap everywhere... It's because of white supremacy, and slavery. Don't listen to all these white people saying they're not treated worst because they definitely are. They simply don't know how it feels to be oppressed by something you can't control.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I have no idea, I’ve dated dark skinned black women in the past and they’re gorgeous just like anyone else.

Anonymous · Answer

This is the same as asking, why do lots of black women and men treat others badly in society and workplaces. I actually have come across many who were totally unprofessional in workplaces. And in public or social settings rude, ignorant, and awkward. So to answer your question, many set a bad example and then you are caught up in it. You think it's only you who gets treated like this? No.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't think they are. Some people don't prefer them as partners that's all. It's not about respect or disrespect. Everything else comes down to their behavior not their looks. And that would be the same independent of the color.

ManWithThePlan123 · Answer

I should probably ask which society, and are you talking about black girls in general or colorism. Many conflicting things in this post.

Nikki6t6 · Answer

I don’t know where you live but I’m from California - where I live… it’s the opposite. Dark skinned women are 🔥

NightHawk99 · Answer

White girls are stupid. Black girls are crazy. White guys are mental. Black guys are dangerous. The four American stereotypes. There's your answer.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll adress you points on by one.

They are treated disrepectfully in dating, becasue they are not as attractive on avarge then other women.
They are treated disrepectfully in the workplace, because they lack education and skills assasioted with the job. Due to afermative action they get into schools based on race and companies based on race so they will not be as qualifed as other people.

Genrally black women are fat angry and racist to white people so i don't like them as much

BlckGrl · Answer

Because... American beauty standards dark skin, big noses, big lips esp. On black is not deemed as beautiful

SunnyFlorida · Answer

A dark skinned woman is Vice President of the United States... dark skinned women are not treated disrespectfully.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Didn't know it was the case even in the "more advanced " western society. This sounds so typically Indian to me I wonder why they make fun of Indians then. Your thinking process is the same as an average Indian 😂

humanearth · Answer

Hell I dont see it. I think you media brainwashed. Why dont you stop paying attenion to and open your freaking eyes.

Anonymous · Answer

If you want respect you need to earn it. Just act civilized. A lot of black women I've met have been very rude and agressive.  There's a reason the only "developed" nations are White and Asian ones.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

It fully depends on how you act in public. If you act uncivilized you'll be treated as such; if you act in a respectable way, you will be treated as such. Race doesn't factor in.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I don't think so. But im white, i dont see any difference. But tbh i find dark skin women far more sexually attractive than light skin black women. I've dated a few black girls and they were all very dark.

Luminair3 · Answer

Mistreating someone for their skin color is horrible.

Anonymous · Answer

Correction, it’s not all darkskin women, it’s particularly darkskin African women.

And the reason is because many African features are seen as unattractive in Western society. Not just skin colour but also some facial features that some black women inherited from being indigenous to Africa.
It’s also partly because of the negative stereotypes of how black women behave (not saying they are true)

musicloverr8 · Answer

i dont think they do I mean times are certainly changing and a person's personality is way more important than skin color

m33lad · Answer

To stop racism stop racing. -Bob Marley. The more people like you keep promoting this divorce is going to get.  Every time you black and white groups you make Things worse.

DWornock · Answer

Like girls of other races how they are treated is based on their character.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

That’s not true. A lot of men simply don’t find dark skin to be very attractive. People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. You can’t change that. The phony victim narratives are really getting old. Seriously.

SwedishTwizz · Answer

Where? I didn't even know about that.

Anonymous · Answer

Women were treated as second class in most races throughout history unfortunately, being dark skinned seems to make it worse, if you remember history, even black men could vote before women of any race, so it’s just society

Amur8711 · Answer

One of my crushes is dark skinned and I think of her respectfully. Even though she ignores me 90% of the time. Except for when she wants something lol.

CantGetItUp · Answer

They’re treated how they want to be treated. American black women have attitude and weight problems. This is why they think there’s a color bias. Black men don’t want obese women with bad attitudes.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I don't know where you live, but we don't have that in my country...

Dream_vacation · Answer

Stop trying to draw attention to your race typical black person tactic.

rcljr · Answer

I believe you will find that these women are treated this way by persons of their own ethnicity.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Because the western beauty standard is a pale faced, blue eyed, blonde hair, size zero white girl

Dargil · Answer

I don't see that at all. She's gorgeous, by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

"Boohoohoo I'm a victim leave all your problems and notice me."

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

I really don’t know, but it’s awful how it is that way.

Anonymous · Answer

That is sad they should be treated with respect just like everyone else.

Anonymous · Answer

Bc black women experience racism and sexism thats why they get disrespected and black men still do have male privilege even if they experience racism.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No by me their not I love them and there absolutely beautiful

zagor · Answer

Examples, please? Michelle Obama seems to be doing OK.

LinkxPeach · Answer

I don’t know. Why are people disrespecting dark-skinned women?

grega239 · Answer

I've only seen 3 black women in my country. No one cares. People have better things to do

anylolone · Answer

Same reason anyone is treated disrespectfully in our society.

liam741 · Answer

Because most people are stupid and just go along with everyone else not taking the time to see who they are

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

I come from a place with very few dark girls, men seem to be attracted by them.

dragoblack · Answer

Historic old tradition from old people supported my rich white old people in political power

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