As I've mentioned on here before my first job out of my first stint at college when I was 19, was in an office that was all women. The boss of the company was a 50 year old divorced woman, from day one she was quite inappropriate towards me and encouraged the other women in the office to harass me too. I made the stupid mistake of telling her something about some bad people I owed money to at that time, and she used it to blackmail me into sexual acts, on threat of firing me if i didn't comply. I couldn't risk being fired or leaving the job because I'd have my legs broken if I didn't keep the payments up to the loan sharks and findimg another job at time was difficult. It took me 6 months to find a new job so I could get out of that job and not default on the payments to the loan sharks. I'd moved out of home at 18 and turned my back on my family so I couldn't go to them for help, not that I would have anyway, and that was one of the reasons I'd borrowed from the loan sharks in the first place. Bad mess, and a big life lesson.
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I don't believe in "objectification." That's just called lust, and people have the right to find someone attractive or only think of them as a good sex partner without wanting to marry them.
But to answer the question (kind of), no, I've never had a woman make comments about finding me sexually attractive before. Although I've had gay men propose to me before. I didn't like it very much, but it didn't "offend" me or anything.
Man, I wish I had that "Tall Privilege." Women can "sexually harass" me all day long! Then I'll make bank by turning them into simps and telling them on the last day that I don't respect them and that they're just an ATM to me. I'll Amourath those suckers.
I dont mind being objectified long as theyre honest about seeing me as nothing more. The problem is, a lot of people are not honest about their intentions. Also, i dont mind being catcalled. The only thing i dont like is if guys don’t understand “no” or “leave me alone”. And i also dont like if men old enough to be my dad or grandpa hit on me. It makes me feel uncomfortable. But i dont see verbal words as sexual harassment unless its coming from someone too old. Sexual harassment to me is more of a physical thing and only if i didn't want it. In HS, if guys hit our butt, we’d playfully hit away. We were flattered. Now if i tell a guy “never do that again” and he does it again, then thats sexual harassment.
If a girl says no then something is seriously screwed up. I have with people talking about my ass, unsnapping my bra in public, it isn't just men sexually objectifying either. Sometimes a girl will harass a girl by saying "look at her wearing that top to show off her boobs like a total slut" causing me to cross my arms to hide them. Leading to body shaming and worrying about how others will see you. In my case, my dad was very sexually assaultive in saying dirty things or grabbing my hips to a point I can't stand being touched at all. It can happen to anyone but I am sorry you had to go through this
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I've had similar things happen to me as well. From when I was 13 to now. When I told people about what was happening I was basically laughed at and told that I probably enjoyed it. When I was 13 girls would unbutton my shirts and touch my chest and stomach. Sad thing is that most girls/women really don't care. Including the principal at my school she would just laugh at me. Never got taken seriously 😒
Yeah I had it happen in the office today.
It was awful. Being stared at all day and flirted with in such a way that if I did it to a woman, I'd have been sacked in a day.
I've had women grab my ass in the past like the OP as well.
I've also had women in everything from club nights to my ex karate sensei think it's ok to rub or caress me in public, my permission be damned.
What bugs me is the negative reaction you get from guys as well, whether so called civilized colleagues in the office or dude bros in a club. They will ridicule and hate you out of jealousy or assume you are the one looking at the women and think you inappropriate.Yes, I still do. It is so normal that I would be surprised if it didn't happen.
Usually it is larger crowds though, went dancing the other night and could feel guys brushing my butt, people groping and stuff.
It isn't usually that direct though, no one directly grabs something for fear of getting caught. They like to do it, like it was an accident.
The times I have been directly grabbed or groped is rare but has happened.Yup. The fun part? All the boys that made my life hell in 8th grade with the bullying were the same ones that wanted to cop a feel when no one else was around.
Leaving a club with my sister when I was 21 and had been drinking heavily, a group of men approached my sister about “buying me” from her. Makes me sick thinking about it.
I didn't know of any girls grabbing guys privates in HS. They would have been the talk of the town! Were you at an inner city school?
I’ve been catcalled before by passing women (often drunk, lmao), and when I was a bouncer some girls would kind of sweat me a little. It was all in good fun though, it’s easy as a dude, these chicks aren’t going to rape me. Getting objectified by women is what a also refer to as “a lucky day.”😂 I don’t do well with nipple twisters though, glad that wasn’t part of the deal, lmao.
Not to my face. Not recently.
Only time I recall that might count was in middle school. A group of girls did a cat call to me. I thought it was just a bunch of punks trying to be funny for each other.Yes I have. It’s been that way since 5th grade. Yes I was sexually objectified in 5th grade
I have experienced the same kind of thing in adulthood, while in the military and while working oddly enough in law enforcement. Frankly it didn’t bother me. Nobody but my ex wife of current wife told me they wanted to have my baby. I would have been a little freaked out about that.
I’m reading your question and looking at the profile pic and I’m confused.
Working in the restaurant industry as a young man, I’ve been groped and sexually assaulted several times. One older woman actually felt up my package 0_0 I was 17 or 18 at the time
Maybe just a little bit for me. Nothing like what you describe
You are so ugly I don't believe any girl did anything to you
yep i have several times
Yeap. 99% of women have at least once.
Oh yeah, countless times.
Yes by faggots
Yeah I have
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