How do I learn to be less judgmental?

[MCheetah]

I seriously hate a LOT about modern society. It seems like everyone is a shameless moron nowadays who wants applause just for wiping their ass and "meritocracy is a thing of the past, only promoted by bigots, racists, sexists, homophobes" according to the mainstream media.

Speaking of which, I absolutely f*cking LOATHE pseudo-lesbians (bisexuals) who use, exploit, and gaslight men when they openly admit to being gay and wanting to sleep with and marry women, and the fact that so-many of them exist pisses me off. I don't even care if someone is gay or trans, just leave us normal hetero people out of your world of cuckolding, dilation, pozzing, and abuse.

Everyone in America is trying to use the government to oppress and control each other, and the political left and right are two sides of the same idiot coin who thinks the cult of wokeness or the cult of Christianity gives them license to force vaccines or unwanted child-birth onto people, and no one has any compassion or respect left for each other. Everyone wants to control everyone else, while acting like a selfish POS and thinking it makes them morally righteous in doing so.

I'm far from perfect myself, and I lay equal amounts of judgment onto myself. But I hate so much f*cking sh*t about modern society and human beings. Everyone is a selfish, moronic degenerate, oppressive asshole nowadays and I despise it. I don't try to be a judgmental or negative person, but I just hate modern humanity. I've always been a misanthrope, but y'all are killing me nowadays with this "allow degenerates to teach gay and trans-sexuality to first graders" and "OnlyFans is legitimate respectable work" bullsh*t.

HOW DO I LEARN TO BE LESS JUDGMENTAL?

@Mia-Wallace
@OlderAndWiser
@DizzyDesii

[globetrotter22]

“Don’t get mad. Get even.” - D-day from Animal House.

Anyway I found that guys like us often complain and get angry. Maybe we change a few minds here and there. But are we really changing anything? Well work on what you CAN change:

- Do more research about politics and make sure to VOTE in not just general elections but local elections as well. Get involved with campaigning.

- Pick your fights wisely. You can’t fix stupid but you when it’s time to stand your ground. I think for too long guys have taken too much crap.

- Carefully think through your written words and when you are ready make them públic. Publish articles, videos and books about your beliefs.

- Grow a thick skin to cheap shots. For example modern feminists will always throw cheap shots i. e. they will call you an “incel” as method to poison the well despite how cogent, accurate snd rational your criticism may be. You also got to deal with white knights. However lots of men maybe are often thinking the same thing. We will support you if your brave. But again speak to logic with your criticisms and offer resolution methods.

[MCheetah]

Thanks.

[nitsuj86]

I have the same issue. But I think it's been getting better. I care less as I get older.

I think something that has helped me is learning how to let go. You spend so much time thinking about this stuff you don't like, that doesn't really affect your day-to-day life at all. You don't need to participate and put that stress into your own life.

For what? Does it really matter? What do you gain? Those people are going to do what they want, regardless of what you think or say. So why waste the energy?

You could use that energy to improve your own life. Find someone that doesn't piss you off to be around, and stick with them. That's what I did.

Sometimes being the smartest person in the room can be a curse, but it can also be a blessing if you use it the right way. You see the world for what it is. Use that to go after what you want, while everyone else is wasting time worrying about all this other stupid shit.

[nitsuj86]

Also, I still judge. Everyone does. But the difference is I don't feel the need to defend my reasoning to anyone. I feel the way I feel. If you don't like it, well you can either deal with it or fuck off. We don't have to agree to respect each other, or even be friends.

I don't really like hippies, but I have been friends with a few. Do I respect the way they live, not really, but that doesn't need to get in the way of us interacting with each other, unless I let it.

If you are sitting there yelling at others for not living how you think they should live, well you are just as bad as all of those people you are complaining about. Feel how you feel and move on. Not everyone needs to know or care about how you think they should be living.

Judge sure, but mind your own fucking business essentially, unless someone asks you. No one wants your unsolicited opinions.

[DizzyDesii]

Im judgmental af. However i’m more optimistic than pessimistic. I judge more so when asked and call out shit. Its okay for you to do that in my opinion. Just stay pessimistic and have good intentions when judging... kinda like in a constructive criticism type way rather than straight badmouthing

[DizzyDesii]

I dislike stuff but i dont really “hate”. Your hatred is a burning anger that you need to let go. Call shit out but dont hate it. Dont let hate control you

[DizzyDesii]

*stay optimistic not pessimistic lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mho

[LovingLoverReturned]

Betterhelp is an online therapy institution. Maybe you won't like Kelly lol but she also admitted to needing therapy.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Edb99uCqOZ4

[MCheetah]

I know about BetterHelp. They didn't help me better.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Hmmm How long did you take therapy for? It usually doesn't work for a short time.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Oh nevermind saw your comment elsewhere

[LovingLoverReturned]

Maybe by making friends with people you assume you will dislike, according to your instincts, before you know them. Lol... like imunnotherapy

[OlderAndWiser]

It is okay to form judgments but keep them to yourself. The trouble starts when you begin expressing your judgments to others.

[MCheetah]

But how would anything change if no one speaks out against bad or obscene behavior?

[OlderAndWiser]

You change behavior by being a good role model and giving others a reason to want to emulate you.

[MCheetah]

I thought that would actually be the case when I was younger Up until maybe age 26 or so. All I learned was being a good person in an environment surrounded by bad people only makes you a target at best, a victim worse, and dead at the worst.

You are right, though. Most people don't care about being better, even when you say it to them out loud. I'm not going to change hearts and minds.

[TrueConfection]

I'm not sure, but being on GaG certainly doesn't help.

[SJ1984]

"It seems like everyone is a shameless moron nowadays who wants applause just for wiping their ass..."
Yep, that sums up the modern world perfectly! :D

[Guy__]

Start believing that the more you judge, the more there is for you to judge. Which is somewhat true.

[msc545]

You need to do something about your anger. Get professional help, not an "anger-management" class which is worthless.

[Fuentes]

Not everything needs an emotion or a emotional response.

[_deeznuts]

this is the best question you have ever posted.

[UnknownGagsUser]

Talk to a therapist 😀

[MCheetah]

I saw a psychologist for twelve years before she retired and I moved to South Korea. From age 18 to 30; from 2004 to 2016. And while the psychologist did help me improve a lot, more work was needed. There are no English speaking psychologists that I know of in South Korea.

[UnknownGagsUser]

Really? South korea is a big country im sure there are therapists in English or maybe try online therapist?