How did you learn to truly quit caring what other people think and quit comparing yourself to others?

[Anonymous]

What are the best tips for achieving this, especially as a young person who feels under a lot of pressure? I'm thinking the first step is deleting social media.

[genericname85]

why would anyone "learn" that? learning to me implies that you progress in the right direction. this is isn't progressing. this is how you become a stubborn, ignorant edge lord. it is impossible to live without caring about what others think and comparing yourself with others. what you have to do is care about what the right people think and compare youself adequately.

what i'm saying is: why care about what people think who don't want your best? and why not care about what people think who genuinely want you to thrive?

you need to compare yourself with others in order to set marks for your personal progression in your individual life. of course it's bullshit to compare yourself with elon musk or with some hobo. choose who you compare yourself with wisely and this is a powerfull tool for personal growth.

now granted i believe not comparing yourself or caring about the thoughts of others at all is still better than doing it wrong... but it's definitely not the correct solution.

[genericname85]

there's nothing wrong with having a good sense of self worth and inner peace that can not be troubled too much by the outside world. but not caring at all is pretty damn bad.

[Chris8586]

That's getting to be a difficult thing to do these days. You're right, social media has really put a lot of pressure on people to fit in and compete.
Unfortunately it's at the point now where deleting your social media won't even completely fix the issue. Everyone else is still online. They'll still judge you by extreme standards. Getting rid of social media can help battle depression to a degree though. Most of what people say on these different platforms can be very negative, and constant exposure to negativity is definitely a problem.

[Debbie14217]

You need to start caring about yourself and happy about what you got
I was a size D cup at age 12 ugh

[DaveToo]

I guess I was in grade school and looked around at what everyone else was doing. Just trying to get through this day is at the top of my list, even now. I do what I must do, just as I've always done and I don't worry about others.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Hell no don't run away from problem it's not a solution... first start loving yourself. Build confidence. Talk with confidence. Self confidence is the magic.

[SolitarySolace]

When I gave up on women