Am I a loser? I was called a loser?

[Anonymous]

I’m doing a four year law degree, taking a year out due to mental health issues, going to work out 5 times a week + Pilates three times week, applying full time jobs so I can save £££ for driving lessons, going to therapy, doing shadow work, reading books, saving for travelling and doing internships to gain experience… the thing is I don’t have friends (keep making shitty ones so I stopped), resitting second year of law school, is fat, has potential but I was a lost soul. I was called a loser last year because of my circumstances and was judged for my appearance. I bought makeup but I feel like a loser..

[TheRealPepperPotts]

You are very busy, girl. It's OK to slow down if you need to. You aren't a loser, even if you only did half of what you say you are doing. What do you actually want to do with your life, though? What you shared seems like a lot to cope with, and even though you are doing lots of good things, are you doing anything you really enjoy? Are you making time for rest? Do you have a support system? People you can call to encourage you while you work through all of these things?

I am going to say this again: You are not a loser. People who say things like that are... well, not people who you need to pay attention to. They are focused on their own issues and you may just seem like a threat to them, so they want to make you feel like you're less.

One day at a time, you can do this!

[Asker]

I don’t have a support system, I am making time for rest but I don’t know what I want to do with my life. The person who called me a loser harmed me and turns out he’s abusive to his own wife..

[TheRealPepperPotts]

First, just know there's no shame in seeking help. Make sure you are seeing a licensed therapist and not just a church counselor or something. Look into the MeetUp app to find activities and groups in your area to connect with. I don't know if you are a person of faith or not, but you could try and locate a young adult study group to connect with as well.

What do you mean by "he harmed you and is abusive toward his wife"? If he is abusive, call the police and tell them you feel unsafe and tell them about this guy. He won't know who reported him, because he has probably left a trail.

[exitseven]

okay- you are in a slump. Instead of quitting you are making a plan to achieve your goal. That makes you the opposite of a loser. If you were here right now I would pin a medal on you.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[JCIrons]

You're not a loser. I wish I would have done half of all that when I was young instead of fighting in bars and working in grimy factories.

[slatyb]

Get counseling if you can. Ignore the haters.

[Iron_Man]

No, of course not but finish your Goal soon

[butterly248]

You aren't a lover

[butterly248]

Loser *