I’m a 30F and I’ve never had a close guy friend. I only have like 2 guys outside of my family that I barely talk to, and that’s commenting on our insta stories. They both are platonic and live pretty far away.
In high school and college, I only had girlfriends. Guys weren’t really friendly with me, and if I were to get paired with them as a lab partner or something, they would only stick to the assignment.. even if I tried to strike a friendly conversation -
I’m a little worried (or probably overthinking) that the fact I’ve never had a close guy friend would disrupt my dating life. My ex had a girl best friend, and I was okay with it at first. It wasn’t until he kept mentioning her in casual conversation, and they had “scheduled” hangouts in FaceTime. I brought up the fact that I was a little uncomfortable with how close they were, and I wanted to see his thoughts on setting boundaries.
I guess I didn’t frame it right, because he got defensive. He told me boundaries are controlling and he still wants to have the opportunity hang with her alone. He also called me a loser because I don’t understand their friendship and that I don’t have guy friends myself.
He’s an ex for a reason, but his words still get to me. Am I really a loser for not having guy friends? Would my situation be considered a red flag to someone?
TLDR: Worried about the fact that I’ve never hand a platonic relationship with a male makes me weird and considered a red flag
