I was once talking to a much younger female friend who was in simultaneous sexual relationships with two men, without condoms and seemed surprised when she got pregnant.
I said “You’re a perfectly healthy 20-year-old woman, you had unprotected sex, and you got pregnant. What part of this surprised you? If we were having sex and I got pregnant, that would have been a surprise!”
She said she was allergic to latex and didn’t make men use condoms. She was an absolutely gorgeous blonde. Every man I ever shown her picture to said she would have been worth a $5 sheep skin condom!
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Lmao, while I agree with this and think it's hilarious, it also unfortunately ignores the realities of rape and men lying to women about sex (and vice versa).
There's also the unfortunate reality that some women will poke holes in condoms or lie about the pill (or, in even more horrifying cases, MILs do this to their DILs to force grandkids) in order to baby trap a guy.
And it also ignores the fact that, at least in America, there's a lot of people who aren't ever taught anything about reproductive health or safe sex outside of "don't do it".
You end up with people thinking if you wash your pussy or pull out you won't get pregnant. Or that you can't get pregnant on your first time, or shit like that. Hop on one foot clockwise under the full moon to avoid pregnancy or some bullshit.
But generally, assuming we're talking about consenting adults with sex ed somewhere in their background, this. 100% this.
Meh. It’s just one persons opinion, worded in a manipulative way but trying to come off as persuasive. Not buying it the way they put it.
A baby is one possible outcome of sex, but it’s not a guaranteed consequence.
it does display how ignorant some people can be...
to think that a condom is going to be safe 100% is just stupid an stupid assumption, lol
it might be surprising indeed for some, but condoms and most of the contraceptive options are not 100% safe, especially when they are not applied correctly and to think that just because you had sex safe you cannot get pregnant is indeed a mistake, lol
also, you can have sex without condoms and still end up NOT pregnant for various and many reasons
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I just say this..
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/jul/03/ohio-indiana-abortion-rape-victim
https://metro.co.uk/2022/07/03/us-rape-victim-10-denied-abortion-in-ohio-after-supreme-court-ruling-16933422/
i have a feeling she was not expecting a tv nor the sex or pregnancy.One thing I’ve come to realize about the human race…universal personal responsibility is just never going to happen. It’s be great if everyone did the right things all the time. But most people are idiots. So rather than forcing anyone’s hand or pettily rooting for them to “learn the hard way” (which doesn’t even solve anything, the damage is already done), I think we just have to understand that the average human is heavily, HEAVILY flawed, we can expect very little of anyone behaviorally, and we just need to play into that wind rather than piss into it and hoping it’ll die down as our pant legs get soaked, lmao. You just can’t have expectations of humans, unfortunately, we’re an extremely dumb animal.
... Except when the condom is defective, or the morning after pill doesn't work, or when you had a vasectomy but still got someone pregnant anyway, or the literal thousands of times it is...
Also, whoever wrote this pro-life headline: It's none of your f*cking business what people choose to do with their sex lives, and you aren't helping them to be parents or positively affecting their lives in any way, so who gives a f*ck what you consider a surprise or what their choices are about abortion?It's true and that's reality.
Some people say that safety can fail, well then don't rely on just a condom or just pills to prevent pregnancy.
Never in my life have I met or spoke to anyone who knows a girl that has an intrauterine device, used birth control and condoms and still got pregnant.
People don't understand that you can never be "too safe" when it comes to this kind of stuff. There are so many things you can do to prevent pregnancy and nullify the risk.The oldest woman I have gotten pregnant was 44. I didn’t think she’d get pregnant at that age, but she did, and it was unprotected sex. It probably would have been prevented if we had used condoms and she’d been on BC. That’s on us. And that’s usually the case with unexpected pregnancies.
It's bullshit. I had sex with my future ex-fiance several times a week with no condom or other form of BC for a few YEARS before she got pregnant! We weren't planning it! It WAS a surprise!! So was her finding out that the baby could kill her if she went full term!!
I absolutely agree to it.
Sexual liberation was a mistake. And that applies both for men and women. I'm from Asia where we only kiss a girl if she is our girlfriend or only have sex with her if we want to marry her, not for recreation. There are other ways to get sexual pleasure without risking pregnancy.I mean if both people agree to have unprotected sex with each other then there is always a chance of pregnancy even if he doesn't dump his full load inside her. because while it might be very rare it's possible to get pregnant from just pre cum alone if the right conditions are meet.
Surprised when that guy dragged her in an alley?
Surprised when you woke up in a strange hotel room after your diet coke was drugged?
Surprise visit from the neighbor in your bed when you were 11?Yes. If you had sex without a condom, pregnancy shouldn’t be that much of a surprise. If you did use condoms, or some other contraceptive, then it’s very reasonable to be surprised by an unexpected pregnancy.
Someone doesn't think some happen by accident either a defective condom or someone raping another person.
I would spray paint after expect.
"Expect to be Raped" then tell me how you feel.
If you do something that might result in pregnancy it’s not a surprise if it does. One of the things that differentiates humans from lower order thinking animal species is the ability to predict future consequences.
Anyone saying that obviously hasn't experienced a unexpected pregnancy. Go through it and they'd for sure feel differently
Probably a quote by a bitter man.
It does make sense though. Reproduction is why sex exists in the first place! If you wanna have it recreational — be on a pill or put a rubber on it! #noglovenolove
Not very catchy or accurate. Unprotected sex will probably get you pregnant but every now and again, protected sex will too. Then maybe it is a surprise. And a mistake.
If you had sex during a time where you believed the woman was not fertile (i. e.-not near ovulation), it woudl be a surprise... legitimately... if she got pregnant.
Not true. If using the pill it is usually pretty safe to have raw sex. But it can fail under certain circumstances, as I found out. Condoms fail too so not like that's 100%.
I think Roe V Wade being over turned means women are going to somewhat get held to the standards men get held to. Or, at least a little closer.
And they can't stand it.
It's kind of stupid since condoms are only 98% effective if they are being used correctly every single time... which basically means that if you have sex with a condom that is being worn correctly 50 times chances are someone will end up pregnant...
It’s a hilarious way to express a truth that at least half the country doesn’t want to discuss. Ell oh ell!
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