Why do men get defensive whenever a woman says she suffered sexual assault?

[Anonymous]

I know not all men are rapists and misogynists but why do we have to be reminded of that from guys who have not committed sexual assault of that fact every time some famous guy like Donald Trump or Johny Depp is accused of having committed sexual assault and when discussions of sexism and misogyny is discussed.

[Anonymous]

I learned the hard way that when dating women that it seems to be a very common story that their ex was abusive or they were raped etc then you find out later that they were lying and maybe they accuse you as well. Usually there's a pattern for instance if there is a certain trend of media stories such as say women getting their drinks spiked in clubs. Had an ex claim her ex spiked her drink after they broke up then followed her home only her only her sister was there "and that was the last time she ever drank alcohol". Now I believed her at face value like why would a person lie but the real truth was that he was a fairly wealthy 26 year old guy left a farm and she was 20, they were engaged to get married but she cheated on him multiple times and even got pregnant but lost it and there was doubt who was the father so he dumped her. She had gone out got drunk at a club and saw him there chatting up another woman and got aggressive, he made sure she got home safe and left a letter on her car window asking her to leave him alone and that he wasn't coming back. Women don't like to be dumped and when they discuss it they always tell everybody who listens that their ex was such a bad guy especially when they were the bad one, she told that story to everyone. Its part of today's culture perpetrated by the media where women feel they always have to have a sit story where they were the victim to get attention and validation. Women can be equally shitty as men but false allegations and manipulation is generally the weapons of women.

[Googlemyahoo]

In Highschool a girl accused my friend of raping her. Everyone turned on him and he switched schools. I got both sides of the story from the girl and him. Years later she acknowledged having made it up because she came onto him and he told her to fuck off.

[Anonymous]

On here it seems there are some men who have been falsely accused so they get offended when people automatically believes a woman, that's how they've explained it anyway.

[Asker]

@ArtemisSilver I agree with you to an extent but you said, "lots of women", no not lots of women only a few women do and I agree those who lie about it should be punished and I went through sexual assault from a woman and I don't make it public because I don't want some misogynist to use me as weapon against feminism because despite what I went through, I am a feminist.

[Asker]

@ArtemisSilver nope not lots of women, if you have proof and evidence then show it otherwise, it is another sexist stereotype of women and hatred against feminism.

[Asker]

@ArtemisSilver prove it or retract your comment.

[Asker]

@ArtemisSilver then I don't believe you went through a false accusation, most likely you did commit sexual assault and is bitter that you got caught and punished for it.

[Asker]

@ArtemisSilver you probably did commit the crime then.

[Anonymous]

False accusations hurt. It seems to be as common as rape itself. People don’t realize how destructive a lie can be. It’s almost as dangerous as the truth.

[FilmGuy93]

I think the main reason is because famous men aren't the only ones that get lied about. Most men have personal life experience with a woman lying about them. And the fact that the lies don't usually result in legal trouble doesn't do much to change the crazy amount of damage the women do in other ways.

[voggetta]

I can only give my personal experience, I feel like every girl my age I have ever talked to says they've dealt with serious sexual assault. It makes it seem very incredulous to believe that so many girls are dealing with it, and I've seen girls explain what happened and it wasn't abuse it was just them not liking something. I'm by no means an objective viewer of all girls claims and I don't want you to see my opinion as me validating myself. Just saying my admittedly subjective opinion.

[Sixgunsound]

Because cis/het, especially but by no means exclusively white cis/het men lately are hunted like animals for crimes they did not commit, and like a dog that has been kicked to much have developed reflexive conditioned responses to certain stimuli.

[Anonymous]

A woman’s idea of being raped is a lot different from a man’s perspective of being raped, which is why a lot of innocent men are accused of rape when that never actually happened. A lot of women are just liars as well. Would you rather say you are a hoe or say you didn’t consent?

[Vegasrunner]

It's because of how easy it is to make up a false accusation and the damage it does to your reputation whether innocent or not and the fact that there is still no repercussions for the person making the false allegation.

[Rockstarrrrr]

They're trash... They condone these stuff but they're afraid to talk about it openly so they keep it low key

[Asker]

yeah because they don't want other women to find out they are horrible people who condone rape and sexual assault.

[Anonymous]

I don't don't see men becoming defensive just because a woman is opening up about her sexual assault. It's the wording when speaking in general about rape/sexual assault that many men have an issue with.

[Asker]

so in other words, it is about making men comfortable, in other words sexism.

[Opinion Owner]

It's about taking two the two seconds it would take to say "some men" instead of "men need to stop doing this..."

[Asker]

well if the majority of men would speak out against it then there wouldn't be a need to say it.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you implying that the majority of men are pro-rape?

Realistically, what can we do to stop evil people from doing evil things? I'm all ears. Should I speak up and make some ticktock videos? Is that the answer to stop rape? Scold the rapist out of someone?

Seems like you just want us to put on a cape and kill every rapist. There are only so many men who aren't part of the problem can do.

What men try to do for women is giving them advice, "don't walk alone at night" "don't leave drinks unattended"... And that gets called "victim blaming"

[Opinion Owner]

There's only so much that men who aren't part of the problem can do*

[Asker]

you ever heard of a thing called rape culture, apparently you must think that since this is the USA, that it doesn't happen here and only in backward and Thirdworld countries like India or Mexico, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Rape culture? Do you mean women getting raped and then not reporting it? ... And I'm also guessing that you aren't aware of the fact that men rape men more than they rape women.

And you're becoming emotional and are seeing imaginary words because not once did I say rape isn't an issue. But unless victims come forward and report it, (men and women) not much you or myself can do about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Anyways... You didn't answer my question. How can we stop a rapist from raping? You're just saying what everyone knows, "rape is bad" but not actually coming up with any real solutions.

[Asker]

the only way it will stop is if the majority decide it is socially unacceptable like it is with being a racist.

[Opinion Owner]

But the majority of people do think that rape is unacceptable. Try again. One of your many mistakes is expecting irrational people (barely human rapists) to listen to a rational argument.

[Opinion Owner]

Victims have do provide proof and report them. That's the only way.

[Asker]

so in other words, you don't believe rape accusations; what if it was your female relatives or God forbid a little boy in your family who was raped, since they can't prove it you wouldn't believe them at all?

[Asker]

apparently it is not because you still get cases of sexual assault almost every day.

[Opinion Owner]

When someone makes an accusation, I don't say that the accused is or isn't guilty. I have no grounds to deny or believe the accusation. I wasn't there.

You're becoming boring so this will my last reply before muting you. Just a quick recap...

Rape is bad. Both women and men can be victims. The minority of men are rapists. Sadly many victims don't report or aren't able to provide proof. Men wouldn't say "not all men" if women and simps like yourself weren't saying all men are a rapist or are "pro-rape" (this is called baiting. You word things with intent to be offensive so naturally, people become offended)

oh, and I hope that you're a fake blue account. Because if you're actually a dude... Yikes.

[Agagagagaga]

Dude stop being such a white knight. I’m embarrassed for you.

[Asker]

@Agagagagaga stop playing stupid and admit you really don't understand something.

[OddBeMe]

I guess its more “i dont want to say anything wrong”. I’m not very emotionally tuned in.

My firends wife died and I was with him at the hospital. He ended up comforting me, lol

[FunkyMonkee]

Because she's a fellow human being and I tend to care about others.

[maximumpower]

Maybe bc nearly all of us know someone who's been falsely accused.

[Asker]

or you refuse to admit that person might actually be an evil rapist.

[maximumpower]

Of the >100 accused that I have known, I only considered one guilty.
Everyone else's life was negatively impacted by it.

[Asker]

yeah sure, the people who didn't get caught.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps they are guilty of it?

[Asker]

yup.