What should someone do to relax and stop being so worried about life?

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Yes, this question is about me, but others it applies to, as well. I look at the world and I see nothing but negativity, selfishness, scamming and mistreating others, and even worse, the people who do this while claiming to want "acceptance and tolerance," aka Progressives and social justice warriors. This is a pretty negative world filled with selfishness and stupidity at every corner. How does one not get bothered or annoyed by it all?

Like, I legitimately want to be a better person. A calm, peaceful, relaxed person. But so many things daily humans do pisses me off. Whether it be scamming straight men out of money and resources, or just plain old ra pe and domestic abuse. Most people in the world seem like complete sh*tbags nowadays and I can't pretend like they aren't. How does one remain calm and level-headed in a world like this? I'm not good at it.

And yes guys, I saw the "Am I the only one who worships MCheetah?" post. Was going to respond with a "can't tell if trolling or serious" Fry from Futurama meme.

Dingsbums · Accepted Answer

Real calm comes from the inside and can’t be broken no matter what comes from the outside? In order to achieve this I can recommend training some martial art, zen meditation, qi gong, yoga or a combination of the things above. If u don’t like these things changing the point of view u have about the world with a new philosophy like stoicism can help. But u will find practical applications and need to train on ur awareness and not just think about it.

Thinking the world is mainly bad is also subjective and it depends on ur own observation and focus. Therefore changing the things u observe or focus on can help but philosophically speaking not labeling things as good or bad might even be the better approach. A lot of these people seem really mean and they might offend u or hate u but just observe these people and the way they live their life. It’s always their own problems and their own selfs they cannot deal with. Most of them live such horrible life’s it should make u feel compassionate. Or at least realize it’s their problem and nothing u did is really the reason for mean words etc.

also when it comes to ur own life nothing really to worry about. U come with nothing and u go with nothing. Then why r u so worried about the things u accumulate during the lifetime. Life is more similar to a dream than it is not so will u live it like one?

RealMarek · Accepted Answer

During the most difficult time of my life I posted the four stoic virtues on my mirror:

“Wisdom: Navigate complex and difficult situations in a logical, calm, and informed manner.

Temperance: Exercise self-restraint and moderation in all aspects of life.

Justice: Treat others with fairness even when the they have done wrong.

Courage: Face challenges with clarity and integrity. Come to terms with and accept your mortality.”

I found that internalizing these virtues kept me out of all sorts of trouble. It helped me forgive people who turned their backs on me at one point but thought better of it later on. Also, I find that trying to view others through a lens of compassion helps too. Most of the people we deal with are propagandized or incited by the elites. It makes more sense to be sad for them than it does to be angry with them. Finally, I worked to find beauty in nature and to gain contentment from that, so even if I ended up with absolutely nothing, I could find joy.

sunflower00 · Accepted Answer

1. Remove triggers. So if the news bothers you for example, or politics, or certain social medias or parts of the internet, STOP looking at it/listening. People often get sucked into a hole of looking at things they hate and get so riled up. My mum does this, she gets so mad about politics and Russia but all she does it watches PMQs and read books about Putin etc. and then she gets so mad and can’t sleep at night, don’t let it consume you.
2. Meditate or try guided meditation, helps me relax.
3. Practice gratitude & affirmations
4. Practice stopping yourself in a negative thought, and be more open-minded. I saw something about road rage, like when someone is going really slow in front of you instead of getting really mad imagine it’s a mum who is driving to her son’s birthday party with a cake in the back that she doesn’t want to damage. This made me less of an angry person, and I try to do this with everyone.
5. Try viewing things from other people’s perspective
6. Surround yourself with things that make you happy & people you genuinely like

watercolor_lions · Accepted Answer

"Be the change you wish to see in the world", is what I live by.

I don't think we are supposed to be totally at peace all the time with everything going on. Some of us are designed with a desire to take action. Maybe you're one. You could be a police officer or a volunteer.

It doesn't seem like much, but when you change one person's world, you change the whole world. Because that one person's life IS their whole world.

I think a lot of it is perspective. And if you are at peace with yourself, and what YOU are doing in the world.

You don't have to be the Savior of the world. You can't. But you can be at peace with yourself, knowing you are doing your part.

Personally, I find peace in my faith: I believe Jesus will come and wipe all the evil away before judgement day. I believe he died for my sins and I have eternal peace and an intense sense of justice that will occur eventually. I think he is waiting for the last Christian to be born, tbh. That is where my peace comes from.

MoniqueTLC · Answer

I strongly believe in The Law of Cause and Effect.

For every effect in your life, there's a cause. We can then use that with our thoughts and our conditions. Only we can can control our thoughts, and what he 'think' on a day to day basis will determine the quality of our life, our relationships, work etc.

Because I'm an absolute worrier about life and everything in general, I'm actively practising this, and trying to shift my mindset on what goes on around me, and how to not let it impact the quality of MY life.

The only thing you can control in this world is YOU. What you do, what you think, how you react to things.

I think I'm just rambling nonsense now, and haven't helped much, lol.

tony_baloney · Answer

I think the most important thing is healthy self talk and not allowing things to work us up to a certain degree using logic to calm ourselves. Everything we think about and everything we experience in our environment affects how we feel and process information. There's only two things you can do about that. Either change your environment or change how you view it. That's not to say that you would abandon the knowledge of negativity existing and live in denial. You just dont allow it to weigh you down and poison your inner peace by coming to terms with the fact there will always be assholes in the world and that no amount of emotional distress on your end is going to change that fact. It's not even worth the energy. That's not to say you shouldn't have an opinion or stand up for the marginalized, you just make the conscious choice to not put emotional stock in your own discomfort

HighValue · Answer

What I started doing is take at least two or three days per week where I stay away from the internet, don't watch any news on TV, and turn my phone off. Just play games, watch movies, and stuff like that to give your brain a rest. there is too much stress these days because society and people's morals are terrible.

You need to know what is going on to be prepared, but taking a few days off each week from any of that kind of stuff really helps mentally.

Do you have TV series that you could binge watch some days? Or games that you are into? Or maybe even a book series. Find something that can hold your interest so you aren't as tempted to check in with the world on those days off.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I always ask myself two questions, what can I change about it and is it really something I should be worrying about. If the answer is no, I can ignore it and go on with my day. I would try and focus on what's good in the world and not what's bad.

I've heard of a singer, I forgot her name, but she felt insecure in her singing after receiving a hate comment on her singing. She killed it though so obviously it has to be one negative comment that got to her and made her blind to the good comments she was receiving. She only looked at the negative comment and that brought her down. If she stood still and realized that it isn't something she should worry about, she wouldn't have.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

Sometimes I think it's fine to be pissed off, problem presents itself when you feel like there is nothing you can do about it, so you remain pissed off, I don't know man, but like if you ask me I'd rather be angry at the situation I'm in then be relaxed and basically lying to myself

NottaNatty · Answer

For one, Lower your expectations for everything around you and raise them for yourself instead. 2, mentality categorize the things you can and cannot change and stop trying to change what is beyond your control. 3, don't worry about adhereing to social norms and stereotypes this world is unfortunately to corrupt to become a follower. 4, assume everyone is stupid until proven otherwise (it just makes socializing easier in my opinion) 5, become attached to nothing yet connected to everything. And last just accept that you might see what the morally deaf dumb and blind do not, so don't waste your time And energy.✌️

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I have always been too stubborn to let other people control my emotions. That would be giving them too much power over me. I surround myself with good people and don't stress about things that are out of my control.

And what good is being angry 90% of the time going to do? You being pissed off and hating life isn't going to change anything. You're just letting the people you don't like live rent-free inside your head.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Realize that nothing you do or say will change the world. I find that most things I don’t like end up sorting out themselves without my direct intervention. I used to vociferously post about the things you mention on social media Guess what that accomplished? Fuck all, just arguing with strangers I’ve never met Pointless.

When things go bad I’ll sit back and eat popcorn. Besides as John Milton said, “Tis better to reign in Hell, then serve in Heaven.”

JosyJosy · Answer

With the screwed up things I've seen people do, I keep my expectations low. That way when something bad happens, you won't be disappointed and when something good happens, you'll be pleasantly surprised. I'm also 'selfish' when it comes to my mental health. If I know that making someone happy is going to make me sad or moody in any way, I'm usually not going to help you, you'll be on your own.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Well mine mainly comes from my faith. I'd like to recommend that. But to be honest it took me 20 years to attain this. I was a very angry person before 40. I looked at life as a dragon I had to slay. It's not that I don't have problems anymore. But I'm happy and I'm not trying to win the game anymore so to speak. I have faith that God will provide what I need I only ask of him to give me the strength to meet life's challenges.

Sixgunsound · Answer

You’re definitely on the right path embracing stoicism. It seems like a lot of guys younger than us have no idea what that means and wouldn’t know what it was if it smacked him in the face.

young_OG96 · Answer

Go to the gym, walk 10k steps a day, read, eat a 80% clean diet with the 20% Indulging in your favourite bad foods and get as much sunlight as possible

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Effective empowerment starts with acceptance. I have used the serenity prayer with great results in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think Stoicism is popular with the “words-are-violence” “we gotta have safe spaces”crowd.

Berethor · Answer

Accept things like they are, you likely not be able to change most of those things anyway.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Don’t expect so you don’t get disappointed.

exitseven · Answer

I stopped watching the news for a while and it seemed to help. I just can't keep my head buried in the sand anymore however.

Fuentes · Answer

Jist don't give a flying fuck & Can you send me the link to that post? I'll give them something to bitch about

AsaKyo · Answer

That's a very good question because I also don't know and would like the answer to this

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Think about goats and chickens. Are there any wild chickens that live around your area? There are a lot here and they’re so cute

msc545 · Answer

Nothing matters as much as you think it does

maximumpower · Answer

Soft jazz, dimly lit room, comfortable chair, vodka and grapefruit juice.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

I heard meditation helps out a lot

Lincoln33 · Answer

Work towards future cause thinking can't help you

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