Do you treat others how you want to be treated or do you treat others how they treat you? Or do you have a different rule that you live by? Personally I match peoples energy and treat them how they treat me.
@petitedollbabee you live by the Golden rule then... You just simply play the submissive role interactions. They control you, instead of you controlling them.
Basically you let the outside world control you. The Golden rule is more than just people. There is the (Personal Golden Rule) and the (Impersonal Golden Rule). The first one is the only one that the general public knows. However, in secret societies they teach you about the other one. The Golden rule is founded on the Law of cause and effect. But the first golden rule only looks at the world of form.
Anyway unless you are the dominant force in the equation you will always be dependent on someone or something outside of yourself to make you happy and you'll never make anyone else happy unless you are just giving them what they rightly deserve by law. For if you really understood the golden rule there is no way you would not want to obey it. Even if you found it hard to obey which we all do. Only a fool would not want to obey it. I obey it a lot but in the comment I am not obeying it and I know that.
No one is not living by the golden rule. The difference is you are either controlling what you receive or you are bending to the will of others and circumstances. The whole Bible is founded upon Newtons law. It's not about fucking morals lol. God is amoral anyhow. It is a selfish act to treat mean people nice... I didn't mistype. If you dont understand that then you dont understand the rule.
@mandyfire98 @petitedollbabee I don't think 99% of the people on the planet understand it. And even less obey it 99% of the time. It's not about morals. Morals are great but that's not the biggest reason you should obey it.
u I do have my "own rule" which is to be (for the most part, most cases) just kind and respectful and considerate towards others... that's how I start with everyone and from that point onwards they can only lose that from me, and only if they're shitty people
although, even when they start to be shitty... I do not use their bad actions to justify my bad responding or acting towards them, but it does not mean I will allow it... I will just put a stop to it and that is usually done right away
now, special circumstances that will vary in details... those are managed case by case scenario
if you greet someone with a warm happy smile and high energy, there is a good chance they will respond to you the same way.
if you never talk to anyone, there is a good chance nobody will ever talk to you.
if you are social, outgoing, and talk to everyone, people will naturally gravitate towards you.
this is just my observation from what I've seen over the years.
if everyone seems unfriendly around you, you might be unfriendly yourself. they might be unfriendly towards you because you never greet or smile at them. the energy you give out is the same energy you will receive.
I think I set out to follow the golden rule but I probably also match their energy and end up treating them how they treat me
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Good question. I'd like to follow the Golden Rule, but that takes real courage. I tend to be more reactive. I think the optimal thing is to start with the Golden Rule, but then gage people's responses and adjust yours accordingly.
If you're nice to someone and they don't return the favor, don't keep being nice, adapt.
My version of the golden rule is that if people treat you badly, that's how they want to be treated. That takes some experience of how they're treating you, and I leave a lot of leeway before I respond.
How people treat me is how I treat them, if they want to abuse me verbally I just move on.
I’m kind until disrespected. Then I may bite these days.
Golden rule, and steadfastly years ago. Nowadays it can morph fairly soon as I figure if you treat others certain ways then you must not mind being treated that way yourself. Not always true... rarely in fact
My Golden Rule, economy class:
Treat the deserving ones correctly; ignore the others.
The Golden Rule? You mean, "Whoever has the gold makes the rules?" :P
I start out treating others how I want them to treat me, but if they mess up I start treating them how they deserve to be treated. (Which is worse)
I treat everyone well unless they give me a reason not to. That way I always know in my own mind that I did the right thing no matter what happens to the relationship and don't have to second guess myself.
I treat people the way I want to be treated until they mistreat me, then I give it to them with both barrels
If I have to interact with someone I always treat the as I wish people would treat me even if I know they won't treat me in the same way.
I just am who I am. I treat everyone about the same. I don't change who I am just to talk differently or treat someone differently. I haven't paid close attention if I treat them how they treat me.
I do both, I try people how I want to be treated and also I treat them the way they treat me
I do, I'm nice to everyone until they cross the line then I simply ignore them. takes too much to hate a person.
I do the same, treat them as they treat me, but is always good
I live by the golden rule and if someone wrongs me I cut all contact and let karma do the rest
Depends on the person.. I usually give everyone the benefit of the doubt at first...
I treat people how I want to be treated if they act like an ass I be over the top nice to hopefully make them realize what an ass they are being.
Treat me nice, I’ll treat you better.
I keep to myself now. Being nice gets you nothing in return and its too much effort 🤷♀️
I love people to respect me and my beliefs so I respect others and their beliefs, but many seem to dislike being respectful to, so they be nasty with me.
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