Why are so many married people miserable?

[Anonymous]

I’m a single mom and actually happy with my life and where everything is going. I’m thankful and blessed. But it seems that every married person I come across are in fact miserable and I noticed being married and having a good job doesn’t change that.

[AmandaYVR]

Married people aren't less content than single people. People complain, regardless of their relationship status. But singles complain about different things, different people in their lives. Because they don't see a spouse every single day/night, and have constant interactions, and have to make constant adjustments and compromises to share a life together. I hear friends out walking at night, when I am out walking with my husband or by myself, and everyone's talking about people, they're just different people, different types of relationships. It'll be friends, co-workers, family, gfs, bfs, etc. I think it's just the nature of people to talk about friction and problems.

Married people live longer.

We're in a loneliness epidemic, and stress can eventually kill. Having a partner helps with health, in times of sickness.

Those are stats, not opinions.

Governments like people partnering up because it adds stability.

But yeah, there are always going to be arguments and disagreements to reconcile.

[AsaKyo]

People marry the wrong people that they're not really compatible with, that's why

[lightbulb27]

Some are happy and som aren't. We are doing well as are my married family members. Some are "surviving".

One thing is getting comfortable and bored. As well, I do think it can be harder when people aren't working together well and especially not communicating or emotionally supporting one another. That's like two people rowing in a boat the wrong directions... they go nowhere or backwards. This is when single is easier... you just deal with yourself.

Single would get hard when you cannot handle the kids, job loss, all the stresses upon you in life or some unexpected event comes along when you need help, not just want.

[abc3643]

Because they are married.

Frankly, when you get married, you give up this...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLCEUpIg8rE

Well, many people - both young and old - miss that in their lives because it made them happier... happier, they realize, than being married which took it all way.

[Sixgunsound]

Because once the contract is signed, one side has all the advantages and no incentive to put any effort in anymore, and the other side can either choose to suck it up and deal with it or forfeit everything they’ve worked their entire life to earn. Leverage and extortion are not particularly romantic.

[TroyDT2]

They are miserable because they do not actually love their spouses. They might have "feelings" for the spouse, but they do not truly seek the best for the other. If they did, they would not have enough self-focus to be miserable.

The exception is if the spouse is suffering or terminally ill. Then empathetically it makes sense to grieve over someone truly loved.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

When you get married especially when living with someone that person places expections on the other person which creates pressure.

Dealing with another person needs and desires on a daily plus their constant bitching and moaning can become draining over time.

The key is not place expections on people, give people plenty of room and freedom and don't harass them lest they became sick of you.

[DoctorSex]

Because the idea of a nuclear families day to day operations has never been a topic taught in schools. Neither is finance or taxes and a similar effect can be found there as well.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[boggboss]

Many people stay together out of comfort although there is no 1 size fix all to happiness as plenty of single parents are lonely also

[Asker]

I can’t relate I’m alone but not lonely which are two different things. And I’m single by choice, I find that being in relationships actually are draining for me.

[boggboss]

Which I'm happy what u do makes u happy 👍🏽

[LazerBean]

Because most people let their genitals pick who they marry rather than their brain.

[jshm2]

... yet you're a single mom.

Don't assume happiness with blessing.

You seem too stupid and illiterate to know better than you do.

[Berethor]

I doubt that they are more miserable than a single mom.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because everyone is selfish and people don't know how to get along with each other. The art of love has been lost completely.

[JohnK123]

Oh damn how old is ur kid?

yeah well married people I’m assuming get tired more since like there’s more people to take care of or do different activities lol

[OddBeMe]

I’d correct that to ‘married people with kids’. Which is the reason theyre stuck together and miserable.

[Luckycharms12]

Loads of people that are married are very happy. Some people aren't that's life

[Avatar74]

Because they probably realise they married the wrong person

[Anonymous]

Generally they married for all the wrong reasons.

[Kuroz090]

Many single parents are miserable too. In higher proportions. People just are like that in gen.

[Anonymous]

Married to young or married the wrong person too quick there’s so many reasons

[dustybiker]

They waited to have sex?

[historectomy]

i think people rush marriage too often

[Anonymous]

Internal marriage issues?