New study identifies an increasing disinterest in fatherhood among childless men in the United States?

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over one third of American men have no children, prompting the question of why What causes men to not want kids anymore?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Observing their friends’ bad experiences
Men used their observations of their friends’ negative experiences to justify their decisions to be childfree, naming consequences such as the loss of a sex life and dealing with poorly behaved kids. None of the men named any positive observations of their friends’ experiences with raising children.

Losing their freedom or finances
Many of the men saw children as a threat to their freedom and to their financial security, sometimes describing their own desires as “selfish.” even though it is a court system that is biased against them. Some stated that they were not financially prepared for children. Yet, they contributed to society in other ways, such as “making a difference in the community or they have invested into their nieces/nephews.

Having distant/none existent fathers
Having distant/none existent parents, particularly fathers, was a common theme. The men contrasted their fathers’ distant parenting approaches to what they felt would be ideal, such as, “being the guy who can change a nappy and hold the baby and be there.” They believed that if they became fathers, they must be emotionally available, unlike their own fathers, hence making the decision to have children a rather big one. They never had a father due to being from a single mother household, so they never has a consistent father figure/male role model in their lives.

mattdzz · Accepted Answer

I think the first part about it is not having a woman who you can love and respect. Women simply aren't respectable or submissive anymore; so, a guy has a choice of entering into a nonstop battle

You also don't have the level of control over kids that you once had- you can't even smack em a bit when they go nuts.

Anonymous · Answer

The first cause is genetics. Most animal species have a mating strategy based on what’s most advantageous. Each one lies somewhere on the r/K spectrum.

r-selected animals are sex focused. They have sex with many different partners, don’t invest in their offspring, just have enough that hopefully some will survive. Rabbits, turtles, insects etc.

K-selected animals are parent focused. Usually more monogamous or polygamous, they tend to stay with their partners and invest in the offspring. Wolves, apes etc.

Unlike most animals humans don’t have one strategy. Different people sit on different levels of the r/K spectrum.

R-selected people are those who are either into casual sex or serial monogamy. Constantly changing partners, never settling down for the long-term. A lot of those guys are r-selected, genetically. But also because they’re humans and we have birth control, they do their best to avoid having kids because that would get in the way of them being free to fuck around. They just can’t imagine why anybody would want to be responsible for a child and make the time/money sacrifices required to raise them. If they have kids it’s usually accidental.

Because it’s genetic, there’s nothing that could convince them otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

I would like to have kids. But I have yet to meet a woman in my life who I trust, feel attracted to, is independent AND would make a good mother.

There was one girl I dated years ago who at the time would fill most check marks. However I never thought about her being a mother because I was much younger and didn’t think about being a father. However she went from moderate liberal (back when they existed) to far far left radical after we broke up just because she wanted to make more “friends”. She got into all the bs BLM protesting and getting involved with Marxist groups. She’s probably had a few abortions by now.

So you can blame men all you want. But men are changing in RESPONSE to women changing. Feminism started all this bullshit.

CloudMassacre · Answer

1. There’s more people than ever before in human history…(One Mississippi)… now there’s like 200 more.
2. I’m mentally ill and poor.
3. I don’t think the world will be a better place in 50 years.
4. I don’t want to be responsible for a protoperson and guide along their growth and psychology for 18+ years, it’s just too much responsibility and I value human lives too much to willy nilly create new people.
5. Even if I change my mind, there’s no shortage of premade orphan people to buy rather than create a new one.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

This is due to the demographic-economic paradox, the United States is a rich country, its mortality rate is low and its cost of living is high, even so, the birth rate is very low, this is because abortion is legal. in many states.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Income_and_fertility

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not against having kids (and at this point that door is pretty well closing). But when I look at the overall quality of women out there. NO Way would I want to do that to a kid. A child deserves a real mother. One that will actually love it.

exitseven · Answer

People have protracted adolescences and by the time they are well into their 30s they are so set in their ways that they don't want to have kids because they like their current lifestyle.

normalice · Answer

They are expensive and require an enormous amount of responsibility. But there is no benefit to having them.

msc545 · Answer

What causes men to not want kids anymore? Women, child support, biased Judges, family law courts, false accusations, Metoo.

Anonymous · Answer

Fathers simply aren’t needed anymore. All you need to do is add a government program to solve the problem.

BJP21 · Answer

The problem Im running into is girls also just as equally disinterested in wanting a family due to the same exact issues.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it’s some natural form of population control.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I like time, energy, and money.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Offspring are overrated

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