I'm changing my name and pronouns soon, any tips to help others adjust?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to write/design the name on a shirt or hat or something to remind people and help that stick, but I don't want to put pronouns on myself visibly or everyone will know I'm trans.

I already dress stereotypically like my gender so I can't really change that to make it any more obvious. I guess I could get explicitly gendered t-shirts like the ones with lame stereotype slogans on them, but that's not at all my style and I don't want to spend money on clothes I'll only wear for like a month.

Any suggestions to help visibly remind friends/family of pronouns without also outing myself to acquaintances and strangers?

[SnowedIn]

I really, really, really wouldn't do the shirt. Seriously. Here's why: the people who are going to accept your chosen pronouns will, when you ask them politely, going to use them. The rest won't. BUT... there's a group who, if you wear that shirt, won't see it as helpful, they'll see it as yelling at them and they'll switch from wanting to use your pronouns to NOT using them because the shirt yelled at them.

[Asker]

I'm not going to put the pronouns on a shirt, just the name. It's not very strange to have a shirt with your name on it, I don't think it would be taken as yelling. If it were pronouns then I can see how that would come across more like yelling though, yes.

[SnowedIn]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Sorry... I mis-interpreted. The name is actually an interesting idea. Might start conversations. Cool!

[Jessica405]

You will just have to accept that people will use whatever matches your appearance. If you look like a guy, you will hear he, him, his. If you look female, it will be she, her, hers. Don't expect people to break the rules of grammar and use the words they, them and their. Those are plural and apply to multiple people.

[Asker]

I'm not expecting people who don't know to change, they mostly already use the right pronouns with me anyway. Hence why I worry wearing those pronouns visibly could change how strangers interact with me in a negative way.

I'm just trying to make it easier for people who I'm close to and who are willing to change what they call me, to remember the change and make it smoother and not as much memory work.

[Jessica405]

I don't think you will have much to worry about. Most people, at least in my home town and where
I live for work, are very tolerant annd understanding. Even total strangers.

[Guy13]

Good luck with the Sales on your venture.

[Asker]

I'm not selling anything right now, it would just be a personal craft.