How much do you like the opposite sex?

[OddBeMe]

Seriously enjoy their company. Honestly. I don’t think enough opposing genders or cultures befriend each other. We’re so segregated.

I spend a lot of time with the opposite sex.

Not that much. Just lovin.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I seem to get along much better with women rather than men, which is both a blessing and a curse.

I like being around women, but I need more men friends and not simple associates, and this becoming more and more an issue. I do my best to be though and masculine, but still I can't manage to hang onto male friends.

It's a literal pussyfest here and not in a good way.

[Paulalove98]

I admire men and their hard work and personalities unlike some people in this generation but I’m somewhat a shy girl who’s more introverted that I don’t have many male friends just for the fact I don’t go out a lot besides work or to the store, the mall now and then but I met a couple guy friends from work and they definitely are super sweet and mature guys, more than ones I’ve met online but I like hanging with them for sure whenever we’re not busy.

[EmmaMary]

Well naturally I love my husband, our little boy, my father, my father in law and my two brothers in law and not forgetting my five nephews!

I also have several close male work colleagues and friends who I like, and that's pretty much it.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Massageman]

Depends on the individual (s) involved. I know plenty of females (AND males) I would just like to avoid for any number of reasons. Also, I know females (AND males) with whom I could chat and be friends until the end of time. Depends on the individual, not the sex.

[Nikki1989]

I love my husband, but that is where it ends for me.

[OddBeMe]

You’re prob better off. Lol

[serious]

@nikki1989

Very good. keep it up.

It means you are a very loving, loyal and devoted wife and to you he is the only man who matters. Excellent.

[OddBeMe]

@serious she can have male friends if she wants.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

Perhaps yes.

[OddBeMe]

@serious not perhaps. this ain’t Saudi Arabia.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

What?

I don't understand your sentence? Don't tell me how I should reply.

[OddBeMe]

@serious “perhaps” means you’re thinking about letting women do shit.

[OddBeMe]

Oh wait you’re the celibate guy? Never mind, we’re cool.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

It does not matter what observation you are making here. This is ridiculous. Whatever it is please keep it to yourself.

[OddBeMe]

@serious lol

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Oh wait you’re the celibate guy? Never mind, we’re cool."

Celibate? Your terminology is all wrong but never mind it.

[OddBeMe]

@serious why isn’t celibate the right word for what you described?

[serious]

@OddBeMe

Well there is a difference between being a celibate and being an asexual. I will tell you in brief.

Celibate means a person who has normal sexual desires but they have refrained themselves from doing anything sexual and even from getting into any type of exclusive relationships, for eg marriage.

However, these are done for some religious purpose (mostly). However, in some cases it can also be personal (less often).

Hence a celibate person won't engage in sex, sexual activities and might refrain from marriage also.

On the other hand

Asexuality means a person who is devoid of any and all types of sexual desires. It is entirely absent in them. Again there are different types of asexual people. As asexual finds sex and sexual activities as disgusting, cheap and they are outright repulsed by that.

A person is either naturally asexual or they are not. Asexuality is not a choice.

Celibacy on the other hand is a choice, a decision a person has taken for either religious reasons or even otherwise.

[OddBeMe]

@serious Yes, I see the slight difference… you added a lot at the end there that seems deeply personal. Why is sex so disgusting? That’s usually from abused people that get reminded of their abusers. Anything?

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"you added a lot at the end there that seems deeply personal"

No, nothing like that. Nothing personal here. I just did my research and I shared my observations and understanding from that in brief.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Why is sex so disgusting?"

Yes it is. I will not get into the details of it but I will only tell you this much that to me sex and all types of sexual activities are outright disgusting to me because to me it is like as if a woman is being used, exploited in some way. To me that is not love. Not pure love.

Pure love is always non-sexual in nature. As per my thought process pure love is always soft, delicate and protective and has no connection with sex.

There are plenty of ways to show physical love, affection even in pure non-sexual ways as well.

I don't care if the world glorifies "sex" and stuff like that. I don't care if people think and act otherwise but my thinking related to this will never change.

This is my subjective thinking irrespective to what the world says.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"That’s usually from abused people that get reminded of their abusers. Anything?"

No, you are clearly overthinking and you are forming your inference from that. I have already made that clear this has nothing to do with what you have mentioned above.

[OddBeMe]

@serious mkay…but no asexual is just not feeling sexual. You put a lot of extra feeling in there…as you just did again. And I do hope you find intimacy with someone, as we discussed, not sexual per se. But loving.

Sex is gross and exploitive. There’s bodily fluids and lots of emotions and weird urges to touch parts of bodies. I’d say you’re hurting yourself more by ignoring that, than I am by embracing it.

But we’re both finding our happiness with our choices. :)

[OddBeMe]

@serious I definitely am inferring on that front. Just wanted ask. It’s ok to feel a used or betrayed or something. Again, I just find so much happiness within intimate partnerships.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"I definitely am inferring on that front. Just wanted ask. It’s ok to feel a used or betrayed or something"

Yes and you are overthinking. Just because it happened with some people you cannot come to the conclusion that it is the only reason.

Anyways I have explained myself and that it. Nothing more to say on that.

[OddBeMe]

@serious fair enough. I really hope you’re happy.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Again, I just find so much happiness within intimate partnerships."

I understand and that is good Good for you.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"but no asexual is just not feeling sexual. You put a lot of extra feeling in there…as you just did again. "

Okay, I think you clearly have a problem understanding things, at least certain things. I will make it clear once again and for the last time.

There are no feelings here. I never waste my time on emotions, feelings and sentiments. For me logic and rationale is all that matters.

I suppose you will not understand this. Never mind that.

I am not going to say anything more on that.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

" And I do hope you find intimacy with someone, as we discussed, not sexual per se. But loving."

No I don't want that either.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Sex is gross and exploitive. There’s bodily fluids and lots of emotions and weird urges to touch parts of bodies."

I know that already, I have knowledge and you don't have to tell me or explain that to me.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

". I’d say you’re hurting yourself more by ignoring that, than I am by embracing it."

Again, your sentence clearly shows that you are not understanding things. Even after what I have said.

Never mind that.

This is my life and it is my choice. You don't have to care and it should not bother you (logically).

[OddBeMe]

@serious wasn’t trying to be irritant, apologies. But I feel some people, mostly religious, don’t know your beliefs…feel sex is a sin and so disgusting because of that.

I just don’t understand why people turn away from sex because of that.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"But we’re both finding our happiness with our choices"

Yes I am happy with who I am, with what I am and with how I am. I am happy with my decisions and my thought process.

I never compare myself with anyone and I don't care about what the world says either.

This is the only good sentence you have said in the whole conversation.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

It is good you are happy in your life.

I have nothing more to say and I am not to reply either. This is the last one.

Have a nice day.

[OddBeMe]

I definitely am a huge fan of ration and logic, both of which tell me humans are full of dirty disgusting emotions. And scientific studies on those with your particularities do show sometimes prior bad acts have occurred.

[OddBeMe]

Again, we’re just talking. Obviously I’m judging, which I hate. Again, I do hope you have found happiness.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

Although I said I won't reply again but my last reply maybe I was just a bit harsh. Apology from my end also.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"I definitely am a huge fan of ration and logic,"

That is good but the way you were talking did not seem like that.

[OddBeMe]

@serious no apology needed. I joke too much and judge too much…and drink too much. Have a good one! Talk again soon!

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Again, we’re just talking. Obviously I’m judging, which I hate."

Talking and genuinely curiosity I always appreciate that but the way you were saying seemed like as if you were coming to conclusions based on your own experiences rather than trying to understand what I am trying to say.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

" I do hope you have found happiness."

Yes I am happy.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"wasn’t trying to be irritant, apologies."

It is okay.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"
But I feel some people, mostly religious, don’t know your beliefs…feel sex is a sin and so disgusting because of that.
I just don’t understand why people turn away from sex because of that."

Different people have different beliefs. Belief is subjective and it may or may not have anything to do with religion.

[AsaKyo]

If they'd stop treating me like shit, I might love them a whole lot more

[OddBeMe]

Well…but…I..
(Falls silent)

[serious]

Well, in real life I hardly ever interact with the opposite gender. Almost never.

Online yes there are some interactions but never had any friends as such. I think I can get along reasonably well for the most part.

[OddBeMe]

I would disagree, but that’s a life choice. Just think, you’re blocking 51% of the worlds population.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

You can disagree and it does not matter. I know myself very well. Yes friendships are not meant for me. I have understood this by experience, even though it is a limited experience I have.

Yes you can say I am blocking it, I have standards and stuff like that and whatever it is that is how it is going to be. You can say I am blocking it by choice but that is for the better and this at least nobody else gets hurt.

[OddBeMe]

As an introvert, I can understand. But you aren’t in need of intimacy? Not just sex, but intimate moments with a person?

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"As an introvert, I can understand"

That is good then. I am an introvert too.

[OddBeMe]

But I still vastly enjoy intimate moments with the wife. Again not just sex.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

I will give you some explanation based on what you said.

"But you aren’t in need of intimacy? Not just sex"

Well, I am asexual. I find sex and anything and everything related to that as outright disgusting, cheap and I am completely repulsed by that.

Yes, that means I never need that.

I have no problem with intimacy but then my version of love and intimacy is non-sexual, my thinking is such that it is very pure. My thinking related to love, intimacy, cuddles, hugs everything is
non-sexual and pure. The purest form one can imagine.

I am a man and my version of love will be pure, non-sexual, soft and delicate. This is the ONLY type of love I can give and that too forever. Nothing more.

I know for a fact that no woman will ever like the fact that a man can and forever will only give this form of love and that too forever, for lifetime. Sooner or later a woman will get sick and tired of this.

This is also one of the reason as to why I wish to remain single for life. I have always been single anyways

Hence with all this being said, the answer to your question will be NO.

Hope you understood what I said.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

" but intimate moments with a person?"

I have given the reason in the previous reply. Given what I told you, given my thought process and my version of love.

The answer is NO.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"But I still vastly enjoy intimate moments with the wife. Again not just sex."

I do understand what you say and I am happy for you. Things are going great.

[OddBeMe]

Well…can’t say that’d be the easiest dating profile.

May I ask…were you hurt, abused or something? I mean no judgement or pushing you. But human behavior has been studied to deteriorate quickly without some type human interaction.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"Well…can’t say that’d be the easiest dating profile."

Yes I know that already. I never wish to date anyways.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

"May I ask…were you hurt, abused or something?"

No, my decision to remain alone and single is not based on experience. As I said I have always been single. No I have not been abused in any way.

I will only tell you one thing, over the years I have introspected on myself. I have read a lot of articles, read lot of information from websites and have understood things as to what is expected as a man and given my thought process, given the way I take my decisions I am best left alone. Best to remain alone for lifetime.

Hence I decided to remain alone, even without trying or making any attempt. Hence this decision was not taken based on any past experience because I never had any experience.

Decisions are not taken based on experience alone.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

As for the opposite gender. No, I certainly don't hate them and I don't dislike them. However, for friendship I have had some limited experiences and based on that I know that even friendship cannot last for me and yes the reason is because of me. Given how I think and act, how I take my decisions.

I take responsibility for this. I take ownership for my decisions and actions and it is okay.

[serious]

@OddBeMe

It is okay. You were not being pushy or judgmental.

[OddBeMe]

I mean monks and nuns do it. Just checking lol

[serious]

@OddBeMe

I am not sure what you meant by your last sentence.

[Sour-rose]

Meh. Men ain't that special to me. Great gentlemen in the world and I love them for that buuuut... well on second thought, it's nice to have another sex than just a woman in the world. So maybe not special to me but appreciative they're here.

[exitseven]

I abstained because I really don't hang out with people anymore. Most of my friends are either dead or moved away. Before I got married I hung out with mostly guys

[Leopard23]

Generally with women I only have time for my wife and female family members

[OddBeMe]

tis true, marriage takes up a lot of time. But can you carry a convo with women? I find a lot of guys don’t have that skill and wonder why they’re single…

[Leopard23]

No problem talking to women. I've still got a few female friends too but generally I treat women just as I would any other man. A lot of guts are single because they put the pussy on a pedestal

[OddBeMe]

Right? 40 yr old virgin was a fckin bible.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I don't have many friends in general and have been close with only a few women during my life. I get along as well with women as with men, usually kept at an arms length. I can count the close friendships I now have on one hand.

[Jamie05rhs]

They're okay. They don't interest me that much, though. I wouldn't really be motivated to hang out with a girl unless I eventually get to have sex with her.

[OddBeMe]

I think that’s a problem. We need to desegregate with the gals.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OddBeMe What's the point, though? They're annoying.

[OddBeMe]

1. They’re 51% of all humans. So all of them can’t be “annoying” unless being woman is annoying to you.
2. I think you build better relationships by being friends and lovers. Gotta know how to talk to women, etc. I go on Reddit and talk to a lot of incels cuz I’m bored. And no one ever tries to talk to women. Just fck them. That’s a problem.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OddBeMe Okay. Fair enough. You have some good points.

[OddBeMe]

And I have the privileged position of organically gaining female friends somehow. Still don’t know how. If I had to walk up to a woman at a bar today…I’d prob puke.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OddBeMe Aw. Well, if you see a girl you like at the bar, just make friends with her. Approach it like any normal interaction. Don't put extra pressure on yourself.

[OddBeMe]

Believe me, now I’m married I’m 10x more attractive. Because the pressures off.

I try to talk to incels sometimes on 4chan or other dark places and tell them befriend chicks and take the pressure off. Then think about dating.

[Juxtapose]

Most of my closest friends are female and being bisexual, I see less of a need to form a distinction between the sexes.

I also grew up mostly around women and people find me generally easy to get along with.

[captain_voidwalker]

Honestly I just tend to view women with suspicion these days. I know not every woman warrants this but a statistically not insignificant portion of them do so better safe than sorry from my perspective.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm too old to care, but i know i don't like them

[Bergy37]

In real life, they give us guys a different perspective. Even if you're just working as partners or whatever, they help give you new ideas & ways to look at things.

[OddBeMe]

Precisely. Know thy enemy. Joke but it’s related lol

[Anonymous]

Well, the bear behaves better than most third wordlers.

[OddBeMe]

And first worlders.

[douride2]

I get along with the opposite gender great.

[JamesRandiDebates]

I see no point in any interaction with females unless it leads to my balls being drained.

[OddBeMe]

Know thy enemy.

[SnowedIn]

I spend a lot of time and enjoy them.

[Dargil]

Some are worth risking your life for.

[OddBeMe]

Go right for the extreme. I was just talking friendship mate. Not John Wick.

[Dargil]

"He killed my dog".

[Jerre]

I enjoy sex so spend a lot of time with girls

[msc545]

Not much at all actually.

[jimmy2]

Kick that bear out hi honey

[annabananna]

Yea I love men

[serious]

@annabananna

Very good

[OddBeMe]

You can love men and still not enjoy their company. Do you like men as friends?

[annabananna]

Yea I do and for me if I love someone I will enjoy their company

[serious]

@annabananna

Once again, well said.

[OddBeMe]

@serious easy prudence this ain’t J-Date.