Why do men who were raised by single mothers have more problems in life with crime and addiction?

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it?

[ohsheeT]

It could be many reasons,
No male figue in his life as a role model,
So no that could discipline and respect, being inforced. I have friends in bike clubs I have friends that were raised this way I was raised this way until I was 16 and moved out.

But most these guys are women haters because the the way that their mother raised him the way that their mother had men in and out of their life

Every week a new boyfriend and trying to discipline. And probably was a bad role model anyway it's just lack of life really of good moral values and ethics

I can see where a single mother is struggling doesn't put time and effort into the child it also depends on who she is.

You can blame the mother you can blame the father but you got to blame the kid too when I was 16 years old I moved out the first night that I was out my brain started clicking and I realized I didn't know a freaking thing and at the same time I knew everything because I had to learn it fast

No matter what I was doing I was questioning myself

We all know wrong from right and it's called a choice

I know many guys that are exactly like your question says and they have said to me I wish when I was young I didn't do this or do that

And we're good enough friends I can just look at them and start laughing and I say b******* because you're still doing it you still treat people the same way you still have anger and hate and you really could give a care less
I don't care who you are in this world today right now this moment you are exactly who you want to be that's the truth because if it wasn't you would be changing it you would be doing something else you would be that person that you want to be

[Anonymous]

Because women try to raise boys according to what their idea of a man is. That’s like a man trying to raise a girl to be what a “real” woman is. Also it isn’t that all men are just deadbeat dads as someone pointed out, some of these women are deadbeat moms. I know a few men who can’t even see their kids because the mother won’t let them. Because she’s mad about whatever so she’s going to “punish” him by not letting him see his son when she’s really damaging the son. After a while kids aren’t scared of mom, especially the boys. Sure when I was younger my brothers and I would get a whooping if we messed up. After a while we knew it was just a butt whooping by mom, no big deal. We never felt that way w our dad. Plus, if a boy doesn’t have a manly figure in his life he doesn’t know how he’s supposed to act, what he’s supposed to do. Mother maybe has different men coming in and out of the house, more instability emotionally as women tend to be more emotional. Seems as though a lot of women these days are on psych meds or depression meds. Teaching their sons to be feminine. Supposedly kids in a single parent home do better being raised by a single father than a single mother.

[WiccanLady2023]

Because statistically single mothers are high school dropouts on welfare often with drug or alcohol addiction issues and usually do NOT hang around "good" individuals.

You put a child - any child - in such a situation and they are gonna be screwed up.

Boys turn to violence because they:
a) had bad role models as men / or mum herself / growing up in a BAD household
b) they were bullied & abused (inability to manage emotions properly) or
c) repressed anger - essentially they couldn't change their childhood so won't let themselves be victims in adulthood (and sadly often make themselves victims).

Girls can turn violent but usually become very promicious:
a) bad role model (in mom) and having a new man in the house each month
b) sexual abuse by "mom's friend" - sexually abused girls are quite prone to becoming promicious
c) they turn to drugs & violence themselves because they grew up around it

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There are exceptions - husband's death, divorce - but when you consider websites like Spotlight on Poverty which defines a lot of related stats to poverty.

And high teen birth rate goes hand in hand with high single parent households in numerous states on that above website... it doesn't take a genius to realize 2 + 2 = 4.

[HelpfulWoman]

Lack of positive male figures in their lives perhaps.
Most broken families will have parents acting like children one way or another. Those toxic dynamics don't end with well rounded children.

[GreenLanternI0I]

Because we have nobody to talk to. Male friends are replaceable and temporary, so you cannot trust or rely on them. Mothers are females and even the best mothers in the world (literally) cannot help their sons out because sons are males and only another male knows how to help another male. That is a Very basic answer. No leader in a house, no rock to lay on when you want to and just open your heart to.

[Luckycharms12]

I was raised by single mom from age of 11 because my dad past away I've never got in to crime and don't suffer with an addiction problem. Loads people are raised by single parents and are perfectly fine. Loads people come from 2 parents homes get in to crime or suffer with addiction. Company you keep is important.

[grega239]

I heard an argumenz about it and it went something like this:

When boys raised by single moms hit puberty, they realize theyre stronger than their mother who was up until that point, the figure of authority.

Hard to stop bad behaviour if you can't use the potential threat of physical force to impose your authority.

2. Women coddle their kids.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Their fathers are usually the same way - low IQ, impulsive, irresponsible - that’s why they aren’t there anymore. They have his genes.

[purplepoppy]

I'm sure you'd love them to stay with their abusive wife beating husbands to satisfy your political views.

[Asker]

I am an American democrat, what do you know about the party even?

[Apple1996]

It's not because of the single moms. It's because they had a deadbeat dad that wasn't their to teach them how to be a mam.

[WiccanLady2023]

And then again many women should increase their standards from the gutter.

[Avicenna]

It defies reason to think that none of these single moms are themselves deficient as parents. Many of them are messed up, after all.

[grega239]

Wonder how many of tgese single moms dumped the dad and had the court forbid him from visitations?

[WiccanLady2023]

@Avicenna Yes. Which is why I have always felt you should have to pass a licensing to have children in the USA. Yes, yes people have "rights" to have children --- sure, the right to damn them to a screwed up life.

[Apple1996]

@WiccanLady2023 nobody can predict what type of parent they will turn into. Doesn't matter how much education they have the stress of having a child changes a person. Some people cam manage that stress others cannot and then they turn into bad parents

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna some of the moms are bad as well. No doubt about that

[WiccanLady2023]

@Apple1996 - Where did I say education? I said licensing. Entirely different. Do you need a Masters to drive a car where you live?

The idea is simple - if someone can't look after a dog or a cat or a pet rock for a year then they can't have children... it's that simple.

Ps. Yeah you can easily predict how someone will grow up. If they came from a fucked up household statistically they'll have a fucked up household as adults.

[Apple1996]

@WiccanLady2023 so this license is gonna be given without a test? Lol then anyone could easily get it.

I meant predict the type of parent a person will be. And also that too kids can all be raised the same way and turn out different. It's easy to see that with big families. Most aren't the same person

[WiccanLady2023]

@Apple1996 - what part of "if someone can't look after a dog or a cat or a pet rock for a year then they can't have children" wasn't clear?

That IS the test. If you can't look after an animal which is in many ways far, far simplier than child care then you are NOT licensed & thus NO children.

ROFL. Yes you're not a clone of your siblings but even the LARGEST families has the SAME HABITS which are LEARNT when you ARE A CHILD.

[Friendlybro79]

If your citing some kind of statistic that you found did it attempt to address your question? If you have stats that back this up share it. I'd be interested to read it and better answer you from there.

[exitseven]

They are more likely to be raised in poverty and live in an inner city with failing schools. They do not have a male role model and cannot earn a decent paycheck without resorting to crime

[BCA6010]

Lack of a male role model (father figure), plus kids generally learn their morals and discipline from fathers, not mothers.

[Avicenna]

It could be due to 1) the absence of a father and 2) single moms being more likely to be dysfunctional themselves

[inhua]

because they are raised to be feminine by the mother instead of masculine

[EaterPeter]

Daddy issues. No same sex role model. Problem with authority. Mama's boy. Their mom will be their to intervein every where. Not like dad who may or may not teach you to fight back. The point is it is important to have both parents and good ones.

[Anonymous]

Single parents need to work twice as hard to raise a child, typically are on lower income.

There are certain truths that a boy can only learn from a male parent.

Outcomes for single parent raised children are poorer

[Anonymous]

Cause there was no one to be strict with them and make them scared of being caught doing bad things

More guys won't be afraid of their moms, but a dad can do that , for good

[Anonymous]

That’s subjective. My grandmother was a single mother and my dad turned out just fine. He had a great career (30 years, now retired) and has never been in legal trouble.

[Kelly6]

This statement is not true. Amazon founder was raised by single mom.

and where is he

[Asker]

Cuban American and hard work is a big value in the Hispanic community.

[DextroShade]

Because single mothers rarely discipline their children and they lack a positive male role model.

[Anonymous]

Because the vast majority of single mothers are incapable of raising a boy to be a good man.

[LazerBean]

Bad genetics and inferior upbringing.

[OddBeMe]

Shooting from the hip…poverty?

[KrakenAttackin]

Because a woman can't teach a boy how to be a man.

[Anonymous]

The same sex parent is especially important.