What was your age when you acknowledged you will die single?

[Unit1]

Me? 15.

I start to believe in fate as ridiculous as it seems. Doesn't mean I won't combat fate. It has been 13 years and I can't say I'm surprised I was right for so long (hardly surprising considering I was put on survival mode). I doubt anything will change at this point excluding myself.

It's been so long. Why should a miracle happen tomorrow? Or next year? Or like at all ever?

[Anonymous]

Dude you’re 28! You have a full other 10 or so years to find someone that is worth your time. Just don’t waste time doing nothing.. don’t waste time on the wrong ones. Have hobbies and a good steady job. You don’t need to be rich just have a secure income that’s what women look for because it’s not about gold digging, women have children in mind, all of us want to be mothers and children are expensive.

They don’t need to have very luxury but just a place where a home can be built without too many hardships. The woman should have just as much as you or more even, but at least a steady job as well with secure income so both will benefit from a better life together..

if it’s only her, then she might over look you if you don’t look like a reliable man to build a family with. Look for serious women too not just any girl who just wants to mess around here and there.

you will find someone you get out of this mindset that it will never happen. Just work for a better you, a better future and it will come. Don’t close your doors your way young!
I wish I knew this at your age. I was crying up and down thinking my time was over.
just don’t let the time fly because it does. Do stuff to better yourself always and save as much as you can now if you’re able to.

[alice55]

24 cause when i was 14 i was like oh I got time no need to hurry but 10 years later I never put myself out there searching for a guy. I know I should but I never do cause I'm afraid of ending up on a bad one.

Dude are pretty crazy where I live so jealous and possessive and when women leave them they end up being killed or harassed during months it's scary.

[Unit1]

Yeah, that is a terrible situation to be in. That is why we have police.

[KostasKouvalis]

Jesus!😳
No offense, but as much as I love French people, a lot of them do seem crazy and unstable.

And I was basically the same. When I was a kid though, I thought I would be married at 16, because 16 seemed so old😂 But as I got older, I lways putting things off because I felt I had all the time in the world, and now I'm regretting it.
It's not like I didn't have girls that were interested in me, I'm just very picky and didn't want that kind of commitment. Also, I'm incredibly socially awkward and am also scared of being judged for my views and behavior, because it's happened before from girls who claimed to like me. The girls I actually wanted to date never liked me back. Not since elementary school. The only girl in high school who liked me that I actually would've dated was in a relationship at the time. But if she hit on me today, I wouldn't give two shits what her boyfriend thought.

And now I feel I'm too old to find a girlfriend. Most people my age are already settled down. The only girls who are single in my area are too young for me.
I'm a late bloomer. I have a very young mental age I only started wanting children recently. Sometimes I get to the point where I just don't care anymore. But I would at the very least like to experience physical touch, kissing and sex. And it's getting so bad, I have to stop myself from lunging at my co-worker😂

[alice55]

Nope, police is worthless and don't do shit, they're actually friends with those small drug dealer cause they got connection to bigger crime "lord" and help them get bigger criminal arrested (as long as the drug dealer help them get information on bigger criminal they let them do everything that they want). Some years ago my family called the police for help cause druggies where fighting in front of our house with knife and broken bootle and they didn't came, they ignored us and said it wasn't their job to deal with such small things that they had more important stuff to do, same things with the couple who live in front of my house, the couple are abuser who abuse each other and one of their neighours tried to call the police same responses... It depend on which area you live,, if you live in a poor area knowing to be shitty with drug dealer, drugies and prostitute they're not gonna come, they let those area rote.

If you're interested you can check the "Quartier nord to marseille" one of the worst area of France where police are afraid to go. There's also quarter with druggies getting drugged in front of elementary school and truck with prostitute in it working in front of a football field for children,.

Drugs situation is so bad the French police said it was just like the drugs Cartel of Mexico and South America.
Police don't do shit here, they're useless.

[Unit1]

Stories like these are common. Doesn't mean most police are useless. Sucks to be under the bad or corrupted law enforcement. It is much less common in Germany.

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis They really are though, one guy in my village killed his step father cause he told him to stop playing game, he shoot him then use a ax on his body to decapite him...

Another guy decided to kill and torture his best friend because he was in love with her and she rejected him.
Another one killed his wife cause she wanted to divorce and get out of the house (he had multiple children with her who were still very young)
multiple kill their ex wife / ex girlfriend and their new boyfriend cause they're jealous.
Even a very well know French rugby player abused his wife and multiple football player.

The abuse of spouse / girlfriend is very high here one of the highest of Europe and we have no ways to protect people here since the government police don't think it matter, crazy things is that in France people consider Spain to be a macho countries while France is much more macho and backward when it come to spouse abuse.
And this is not talking about the text / call harassment that nearly everyone does (even women) they would create fake account to follow you and talk to you when blocked (and mostly used to either cry asking the person to comeback or to scream and threathing their ex).
Guess this is our latin roots but it can get nasty and violent easily when passion get too much.

Too in the US men seem to like feminine women here it's the reverse, bright lipstick and anything others than pants are seen in a bad light (especially in 100 degree F women need to wear pants if not their boyfriend would become crazy, not all but most guys are this ways).
Any girl wearing skirt, crop top or wearing too much make up is considered as a whore.

You're never too old, at least in France you wouldn't be considered too old people marry so late here XD

Seem wild XD

[alice55]

Most are useless, every time we call them for help they don't do anything.
a guy raped his 4 years old sister and he was free, he was outside so he raped another girl, tortured her and nearly killed her...
If police were doing something they would have shot him or at least put him in prison.

Everything is corrupted in France, they use local tax to pay their alcohol and make it pass as elementary children food (I know cause I worked in a townhall as an accountant), they divert any money to pay alcohol and to go in five star restaurant and put everything on the budget of school or association, etc...
And we do have people that are supposed to verify but every single of them are corrupted.
So police or any other one when it come to France it's better to do everything alone.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's actually not uncommon in Europe, which is why a lot of places actually have more crime then the official numbers

JESUS!😲
Yeah, someone on my dad's side killed a family member or something. And there's one guy in the village, everyone calls him "The Knifer", 'cuz he would always stab people in fights.
I didn't know your village was THAT dangerous! I don't wanna visit anymore. French villages are supposed to be beautiful and romantic😂

Yeah, a lot police in Europe ignore domestic violence and family matters. That's so crazy though because in America France has a reputation for being a very romantic country.
I've had something similar happened with the stalking and fake profile.

WTF?😲

LOL. You don't know how wild I could get😏

by the way, I just watched Ne te retourne pas. It was very strange.

[Unit1]

How sad. And I had a much better image of France in my mind before you told me about the corrupt law enforcement in France. So much of France's pride undermined by just that alone.

[KostasKouvalis]

JESUS!
I would have expected that from British police with Muslim rapists, but FRENCH?

I know it's not funny but I had to laugh at the alcohol thing. I didn't know France was like this. Sounds more corrupt then America. I don't know if I wanna live there anymore. Certainly not on YOUR village.

[lightbulb27]

14 or 15 I made an oath to never marry or have kids after hearing about a man whose wife and kids were wiped out in a traffic accident. I felt that pain, loss and developed fear. I didn't want that pain of separation. I had no religious training nor did I talk to my parents, which would have been useless, so I was blindsided by those feelings and thoughts.

There were other precursors to that which helped setup that pattern. That established Id be alone and I continued following that pattern most of my life. It is easy to cause damage to a young persons developing mind!

I don't know how or where I will die, so I try to live now and not concern it so much. I more try to focus on... what should I be doing while alive... that's enough work. I just don't want to suffer or worse, make other people suffer around me. Id rather die without troubling the loved ones around me.

You can also learn to think differently, I did. It's a choice.

[inhua]

the vast majority of males throughout human history never reproduced and there was no birth control pack then

ever since feminism clashed with the sexual revolution, there's been a regression into degeneracy and eventually polygamy

not only is the wealth gap getting bigger but so his the status gap and attractiveness gap as more and more men can't fit certain criteria, not that women can fit these same criteria themselves

[midnightmoon05]

I know I will die alone. I came to this world alone.
single…I was there…the single mother that no man wants…I had to make the changes … those who did not take me are their lost. As I am a quality woman single mom or not.

[lightbulb27]

I be there on this side or the other waiting. You've built a loving family.

[Sonorous]

I don't know if I will ever be able to determine that. I guess it really depends on if I make the decision to be single forever. No Idea what the future holds though.

[Anonymous]

Unless you get into a car wreck with you SO or unless you're planning a murder-suicide, we all die alone typically my man.

[Unit1]

Very valid point. Dying alone is the default. People commonly made it so that they will feel like they won't die alone by forming relationships (good or bad).

My course takes the pure vanilla default route.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm very zen about being single. And anytime I give my opion women take it personal as though I'm taking a swipe at them and I'm not. I'm just calling a spade a spade.
I see not utility in being in a relationship just to say, "I'm in a relationship". So I see no point of being in a relationship unless the woman is question loves me at least as much as she loves herself. Since that never happens I choose to remain single. An I'm totally fine with that fact. Wouldn't you be?

[Unit1]

I'm right with you there. A relationship with a woman, that loves me only because I bought her (food or whatever) is not a relationship founded on love but on benefits and utility. That is just masking prostitution and if I want a prostitute or 2, I'd go where it's honest and down to business to a brothel or to Pattaya and simply pay upfront for it. No need to blah-blah-blah for hours and flirt and be smooth or even make any effort and I can look like Homer Simpson with pimples and glasses.

Seems however, that women's genuine love for men (love for love, not monetized love) is getting as rare as seeing Ferraris with your own eyes.

[Anonymous]

19, after my relationships were over and online dating didn't work