I don't think picking and choosing is a bad thing! Every couple is different! It should be tailored to who we are as a couple and as individuals with individual strengths!
In my relationship, he pays for mostly everything because he has had more opportunities as a man and he has a better career. I also just think that men value what/who they invest money into and he feels a lot of pride from doing it.
He's working on buying us a house right now and I just know he's going to feel amazing about himself lol, as he should! It's super hard to buy a house these days!
I do enjoy cooking, but so does he, so I'll probably do most of it, but it's also an activity he really enjoys doing together, so we'll do that too. We are both really good cooks so feeding each other meals we made is a way we both show love.
He also likes to clean to relieve stress... so I can't do all the cleaning lol
I'll be working just under full-time for the foreseeable future so I won't have time to do all the domestic duties alone, once my debt is gone and I pay it off myself, most of my earnings will go into investments and retirement savings for our future. We also want to start businesses together so we can benefit from some tax write-offs.
We also don't want kids, or if we do we'd adopt one girl probably in our 40s when we have lots of money, since adopted kids tend to have trauma so we'd want her to have therapy and to never have to worry about money, even as an adult. Neither of our parents had tuition funds for us so we'd want our child to have her education covered. So I won't be a stay at home mom at least until then.
Our main goal is to be wealthy and travel a lot together and even if my career isn't as lucrative as his it would still really help us achieve our goals, including an early retirement. It's a harsh world financially so that's why our goal is to have dual incomes. I grew up poor and it was horrible, so I wouldn't feel comfortable not pulling in any money. Even if I do end up a stay at home wife I'd be running our business or businesses online for part of my day... after pilates and brunch of course!
I don't agree with predefined roles. I strongly believe people are born with unique traits and should enjoy them and not be forced to do things they don't enjoy.
if she is a great handyman, why shouldn't she repair stuff? If he likes to clean, why shouldn't he do it?
I'm for freedom of choice, communication and splitting any chores that have to be done.
People especially today often don't have the best view of gendered roles.. Mainly because they feel as if it was from a time that Mainly badly effected women.. "The Patriarchy".. But really they were roles to help us survive.. They played to men's and women's strengths and weaknesses to each other.. Today in the West, society is relatively safe, and so now people have the "freedom" to question gendered roles.. But let's be honest much hasn't really changed..
I wouldn't mind being the protector, and provider of sorts. And somewhat of a leader.. But, I'm not huge on traditionalism.. At least in the way the West nowadays thinks of it.
i don't believe man being the provider, if anything i see it as a feminine thing.
for woman i support the traditional role but i also don't support the idea of a man being the sole provider.
for me the ideal household is multiple bi girls and only one guy.
this way the pros will be maximized while cons will be minimized.
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I personally believe men and women exist to fulfill their own roles. Thats why we have 2 sex. And as data shows we are good at different things. But im not gonna play God and tell people how to live their life.
Either way.. I'm more traditional.. at least I would say.
u I've never bothered myself with archaic and prejudiced roles of any kind...
especially with a subjective one as "traditional"
the first mistake most people make is to think that there was only ONE tradition and nothing else out there, lol
Age has 0 bearing on the fact that a female has a feminine nature to fulfill as well as a male to fulfill his nature , biologically speaking. Social contructed roles are not of biological content. Social contruct is the artificial security blanket for those with an agenda otherwise or an insecurity to fill artificially to look as if strength were instead.
My husband and I are pretty traditional. I donβt think it was anything that we consciously planned, but we fell into our respective roles naturally.
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Whatever works for you.
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