***As We Get Older, We Get Smarter. xxoo
In NOV 23', I meet a lady on a popular dating website. We met three times, I was a gentleman, only hugged. I wasn't demanding and things were on her terms. I visited her home in another state; stayed in the guest room. I purchased groceries for her and cooked. We didn't even kiss - honest - no hanky-panky. Said another way, she trusted me enough to invite me into her home - a BIG trust issue.
Due to her not thinking ahead, she ran out of her bipolar medication. This subsequent action had the unfortunate sidebar of her losing her primary source of income. That's when things got bad for her.
Backstory - I am a veteran and have lost friends and family to suicide. The Holidays are particularly the worst. Punctuate this with public service announcements from Solomon Thomas regarding suicide and helping 'friends' over the holidays.
Over the Christmas 2023/New Years 2024 season; I telephoned daily to check on her. I helped her with getting foodstamps in her state online, and helped her find a mental health outlet near her. All of this was accomplishedfrom afar, not in person. On the daily calls - she was dealing with her demons. It seemed to me she was wearing a gasoline soaked suit and running through hell. I talked her off of a proverbial ledge many, many times. I don't think this can be faked, but hey I wasn't there.
Once she obtained one of her two medications, I started to resemble the person I had met, but she was not quite all there though. We resumed conversing about how we met on a dating website. Through conversation she passed on that 'some days I can't even stand the loving that my dogs (try too) give me". I then asked the most obvious question for the first time - "Then why do you have a dating profile in which you state that you are looking for the last love of your life?" She hemmed, she hawwed.
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When I was married, I basically took care of everything, she never made enough money to take care of herself and to this day she doesn’t and has someone else take care of her
When I was in college for the first time. There was a girl who pretended to be my friend so I could write all the papers for her. I didn't realize that she was using me because my self esteem was really low and I was desperate to make friends.
One of my exes used me as a piggy bank. I was somehow his sugar mama. Only lasted 3 months till I put all the pieces together and told him to get lost
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I have been president of my congregation for four years. I have been president of my alumni association for six years. I have been the alumnus advisor to my fraternity's local chapter for seven years. I have volunteered time to our local Legal Aid and I have handled some cases free for indigent clients.
I have been a good friend to my best friend for 53 years. My fiancée has lived with me for three years and I support her financially. Since she doesn't understand American weddings, I have done most of the wedding planning and paid for most of the expenses. At work, I have a colleague who had major surgery three years ago and he has slowed down significantly since then, so I have picked up some of his work load as well as my own.
I feel good about what I have done for others.
A woman was trying to hang herself with a bedsheet and I was able to cut her down before she lost consciousness. I took her to the hospital and six months later ran into her in an unrelated call. She was doing well and working for a local church.
So I hate phrases like this. There's similar ones about doing good deeds. Of course, everyone expects reciprocity when being nice. It's natural human interaction. To act like it's some malicious or devious thing is just stupid pretending to be insightful.
When I was in college, my brother-in-law was the activities director at a senior citizen home. At the time, I could juggle, tell jokes and play the piano, and I often was the free weekly entertainment at the home.
This one time I answered your question on gag. What a hero moment that was :)
as in bringing someone back from almost being dead, as in an overdose, no pulse, agonal breathing, or back from a heart attack, no pulse but you get them back?
Then it was last week, or I just helped a buddy keep from losing his house on Monday.Wait, wait wait. Is this the first time a boyfriend ever called you by a pet name or have previous boyfriend's done it & it came across genuine? I need more to go on, here.
That can be interpreted positively or negatively. You should be nice when it will benefit yourself. You should also have the foresight to see that helping others to help themselves will benefit you in the long run.
When my sister was homeless after college I let her stay with me for a year rent free until she could find a job and get on her feet.
I tracked down the people that killed a guy's family in Afghanistan. He was pretty thankful.
After my father past away my mother would call me whenever she was in need. For some reason out of 7 of us she thought I had all kinds of free time.
Officer in the Jaycees (before they went kaput).
Continually help older neighbors/singles/widows do yard chores, repairs.
Help in weekly church Food Pantry, and in Library.
Gave money to a stranger because their family apparently couldn't afford basic necessities.
When I got a guy some water who was swinging back and forth on the pole he was holding on to.
I wrote a piece of software for someone without any expectation of payment or reward.
My kids only come around when they need me to fix something for them.
last year in middle school
had a girl copy all my homework n even my test answersThroughout most of the 80's. Pretty much forfeited my social life to care for someone I love very much.
When I pulled a drowning man out of the Mediterranean
I try to be as helpful to customers as I can and I have a soft heart so yeah.
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