Girls, what can guys do to help make the world a better place for women?

[Anonymous]

[menina]

Thank you for asking this question.

Men can start taking women seriously, respect us, listen to us. If a woman was raped, then she shouldn't be blamed for it. Stopping judging a woman because she enjoys sex or had a lot of sexual partners.

Men who say that feminism is about giving privileges to women, should try to learn what real feminism is.

Stopping judging a woman because of her looks and weight. Helping women with house chores and kids, instead of saying that's our responsibility only. Stopping judging a woman because of the way she dresses.

[msmissydc]

Be a decent human being. Call out problematic people. If you do see the those circlejerks that just ask men for agreement (mostly on this site here) show them reality. That goes for both 'sides'. Bassically help show extremists that they are extremists and dont let them share their opinion as if it is generally accepted.

[Asker]

Please give at least 1 example of problematic people/behavior. I don't know what you mean by "circlejerks that just ask men for agreement".

[msmissydc]

Example for problematic people: there is this guy here that comes up every few days with bassically the same 'question' saying he hates all women, the existence of findom and all of femdom as a kink is proof we live in a matriarchy while ignoring everything else in porn and not wanting to understand kinks. Blaming femdom on feminists and speaks of manipulation. Wanting to ban femdom because its keeps men from being masculin.
I chose that example, because it incorporates a lof of stuff and maybe it's a troll but it's an example.
Bassically: cherry picking, kink shaming, forcing people to not have free will, playing the blame game (on the wrong people in addition). He is far from the only one but there he is bassically everything at once. The main problem is that he is not the only one, just a good choice for an example.

If you see a self proclaimed feminist that calls stupid things and is just a mysandrist in disguise, @ a real feminist so it shows that their opinion is not wildly accepted and we don't consider them a feminist.

Circlejerking: is asking a question but only wanting approval for a statement in that question. Only asking the people that probably agree with them.
Most of the time: 'why do ALL women... ' and only asking men while inviting his incel friends to the question. Often accompanied with deleting every negative response.
Yes this is specific for this site here or the internet but its a start.
Also I think one thing you as a guy can do that no women can do is talk with incels. Share your experience, and get them out of their fantasy world and information bubble.

[msmissydc]

Of course there are so many more, less specific things, but I can't tell you everything here and a lot should be obvious anyway. Important, build yourself opinions and talk with both sides. Having information from only one side creates these problems in the first place.

That all is a lof of work and far from supposed to be your job. Its also a reason I started with 'Be a decent human being'. No need to be on a confrontation course with these people if you can just be a good example in contrast to all of that. Everything else is a bonus.

[Asker]

Please provide a link to one of the problematic questions you are referring to, so readers like myself can check it out.

You say, 'Be a decent human being'. Do you think most guys are not decent human beings?

[msmissydc]

Oh I do think most guys are decent human beings. They are also part of the silent majority, compared to the loud minority.
I won't do that as I am not sure about links. Especially connected to user names which this probably would be. I know user names are not allowed if you talk about them in a negativ context. If you can't find them on this site though, I would give you the tipp of looking around with open eyes. There are a lot of them here.

[MzAsh]

Be cooperative to women’s asks

[Asker]

Please give a scenario/situation to illustrate your point.

[laraWM]

Working to convince other guys

[Asker]

What do you specifically want? Convince about what?

[laraWM]

That they should make the world a better place for women because many guys are against that

[Asker]

What should be done to make the world a better place?

[laraWM]

Behave the same with men and women for example

[Asker]

Can you elaborate? I have seen guys being pretty mean to each other. You are saying you want that too?

[laraWM]

I don't think it'd make the world a better place for men either