Letting my husband have my vote?

Question

Since I got engaged, I have vowed to myself to only vote how my fiancée (husband) votes. I will not argue with him, I'll discuss it with him and go with his choices.

This is because he bears a lot more burden for whatever needs to happen to fix the world, and I only bear a burden for him.

I know you'll all think I'm nuts, but for me, this is a massive act of love.

I'm not turning off my brain, I'm just supporting him in the greatest degree possible. I chose him. Me has to support that.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Both sound crazy and I didn’t think you were actually a lady who was brainwashed. I’ll unfortunately have to unfollow cause that just wild. You and the other women I seen on here who seemed to have similar traits. Men have led this world for hundreds of years.

look at each ancient empire- they failed. Nearly every country was once enslaved and taken by another.

look at the dominion aspect- nearly every small country talks about colonization as if normal and part of their languages being English or French. They think it’s normal and it’s SAD.

Look at how wars really helped us all- you seen the films you seen the stories how many didn’t want to go to war and those who could heal and help any way they could would help both sides.

Soldiers and kamikaze became that because of their fathers and didn’t want that but learned to love wanting another man’s approval and only getting disapproval and having to unalive themselves because of failure to accomplish certain acts and tasks.

Wars created destruction, death, and hurt finances.

It probably aided in causing more pollution, nuclear waste, and physical damage to humans. Cancer and all sorts. Issues with lungs and ptsd.

it caused amounts of civil hate.

now nearly every country young men talk about how to make a living and get a job anywhere, and others get paid crumbs to survive while killing themselves in that work. In other places boys forced to become men like in Palestine seeing family die, and not comprehending. Lost men without proper tools or care becoming rebels and bringing out the worst in themselves and others.

Hurting the planet, hurting themselves, hurting others far and wide.

And you want to follow in nearly every way to match your husband as if your life has no purpose cause now essentially you belong to him in the name of “love.”

A lot of things seem to have gone to waste and I simply refuse to name them.

This is probably your final decision in many things so I give my farewell to whoever you once were.

Such a sad thing to behold.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly there HAS to be something very wrong with your upbringing if this is the way you think. I think you are the perfect fit for a narcissistic husband who he can dominate, control, use , abuse. And the only reason why I think this way is because you dont think your voice or opinion matters. You have no respect for yourself or your views. You dont think you're entitled to a man who respects you or your wishes.

Im gonna also warn you that if you continue in such a way of thinking in a marriage for many years to come, you will lose who you are. If your husband ever leaves you, you will be entirely lost. I have seen this a lot in divorcees.

Keep your identity, keep your opinions, your voice. Otherwise you will lose it.

TonyMetal___86 · Accepted Answer

You're a lovely lady who truly loves her husband because you have so much respect for him, anyways you must know that when it comes to house, family and being a wife, you surely follow your husband's lead if he truly loves you the way you do for him but when it comes to matters which are outside the family and doesn't effect your family, you're allowed to have a free mind, you don't have to vote for the same person that your husband is voting for, if you're not convinced, you're a human being too and have the right to have your own vote from your personal choice!

A wife would vote for her husbans if she likes his politics or not because he is her husband but this person ain't your husband to accept his politics just because your husband is voting for him!

If you were my wife, i'd tell you to vote for any person whom you're convinced with, i never like to make someone vote for a person that i support just because they like me!

In the end, politics is something and a family is something else! Nothing can reach the same level with family!

Charliefretz329 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if you married the kind of man you respect and agree with, I don’t see any issues with this mindset. I would expect him to be open to discussion on topics with you though

MzAsh · Answer

If the genders are flipped, every man in the world would say it’s flat out simp behavior. Why would you give your fiancé a courtesy he likely wouldn’t give you?

Unit1 · Answer

I have no words after seeing how the GAG pinks responded, making you feel like you're making a huge mistake and somehow "betrayed" women. The audacity to express that tells more about them than it tells about you. What actually happened to supporting each other?

This cute pink haired AI Girlfriend understands the concept.

This is something, that Andrew Tate has raised and it gained him even more popularity. In his words "women ought to respect and serve their man" and in my perspective both parties involved have that very same obligation.

y'all GAG pinks need therapy.

Anonymous · Answer

This logic is quite silly. The women who cancel out their husband's vote do it because they disagree. If they agreed with their husbands, they'd vote the same way because that's how they want their vote counted. Where does submitting to him end? When you go a restaurant, is he going to order what he wants you to have and you'll take whatever he decides? Should he choose your clothes for you every day? Will it reach a point where you can't do anything without asking his permission? Luckily it's ultra rare one vote decides anything, so odds are none of this will ever change an outcome but it's a stretch to say his vote contributes to changing the world. Above all though, it's a slap in the face to the women who lived their whole lives unable to vote for themselves and all the ones who fought to reverse that injustice for you to give it away to a man to be "submissive".

EmmaMary · Answer

@sugarsugarplum

Whilst I applaud your sentiments, I quite simply cannot possibly agree with this ridiculous decision of yours.

You will never be your own person, you will never be allowed to make decisions for yourself... But above all else, he will slowly but surely become a total controlling individual.

I cannot stress how strongly I plead with you to reconsider your thoughts and actions.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

I'm not sure if this is supposed to be a question about what we think, or a MyTake on what you've already decided to do and the reasons why. Do you want opinions or do you want be heard and validated? What are you looking for here? Not criticizing, just trying to get a better picture of what your looking for here. :)

hahahmm · Answer

I don't think you're nuts. You're traditional and that is rare today. My home is very traditional. But we can agree that there's areas where my wife is in charge too. It just happens that it will never be an area traditionally run by men. Nope.

AviatorTom · Answer

Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. It's important to have meaningful discussions, which sometimes means disagreements. What does your fiance think about this?

Please reconsider your decision. You're cutting yourself and your future husband short.

DishLady · Answer

I'm sure you think it's an act of love even if it doesn't make sense to just blindly follow another person that way.

Lliam · Answer

This reminds me of women the past whose attitude was "Golly, I'm just a li'l ol' girl. (batting eyelashes) I don't know about all those complicated boy things like runnin' the world and stuff."

You are surrendering your brain to your (gush) fiancee (gush 😍😍😍).

HawkPerception · Answer

I respect it. You're free to have different views from your husband too, but what makes a strong relationship/marriage is a similarity in views. If you're not fighting with his views and you're okay following his lead, then all the power to you.

I agree that if there are women out there just voting the opposite of their partners for the hell of it, then that's extremely immature and childish.

meepmeeperton · Answer

As far as I’m concerned that’s just being a good wife.

I never heard of the voting against husband thing but that is very nasty and spiteful.

It’s good that you want to support your husband to the fullest extent. He will be a good man for you in return.

avery58 · Answer

Is that even legal? Each person is only allowed one vote, technically though you're voting by your own choice you're only doing so to back his vote in particular, so you're making his vote count for two.

Agape93 · Answer

So you'd vote against your own rights and interests, if that's what he chose to do? Or am I mistaken?

FunkyMonkee · Answer

So, if your hubby votes that you should both jump into a wood chipper, that's okay with you?

dreamstar72 · Answer

Voting how you wish is an easy task, telling your husband how voted is simple task also. Just say you agree with him and vote for whom ever you like the best. It not like you are holding each other hand when voting. Politics works the best this way, “don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t listen to hate, but most of all discuss politics in person with each other. Unless you agree with each other.
by the way most all of us vote on hearsay.

MicahRaine · Answer

Honestly, that is a very sweet gesture that I am sure he very much appreciates.

Also yes, @your update and how woman vote for the purpose of canceling out their husband's vote, that's crazy. But I still see value in voting for yourself if you have an opposing viewpoint.

Booklover_90 · Answer

That’s good, but remember, you’re not his doormat. 😊

Anonymous · Answer

I think that it’s your marriage so you choose what you do…. That’s between your husband and yourself. What’s right for you maybe isn’t right for someone else. They’re not marrying you so why should they care.

On the other hand…. If it’s a MAJOR moral issue. Such as if hypothetically you’re pro life and your husband voted for the pro choice… That could be a conflict of interest morally and spiritually.

delsworld · Answer

That's perfectly fine. The whole point of feminism is to have the choice. You made and is happy with your choice - that's all that really matters.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I honestly think a vote should only apply to people who have skin in the game. Own property, have a family, registered for the draft/active duty, etc. we have a lot of people voting just to get free stuff and ruin our cities that barely have a job.

Taylor_C · Answer

Voting is not about love. It’s about democracy. One person, one vote. That’s one of the fundamentals of democracy. You’re being irresponsible letting someone vote for you.

Aditiiii · Answer

why are you telling us? i mean you have made the decision and you are sticking to it.. so what is the question here? you are against people who do not agree to you that means you don't even want suggestions to it so what is this.. just a declaration post?

Anonymous · Answer

"ME has to support that"

lmao get the hell out of here. no woman thinks like this. and if they do, they are severely damaged. in the brain. there is more to life than just being a wife or being married. seriously.

abc3643 · Answer

Would you support your husband if he was a murderer?  Who he votes for matters. If he votes for somebody equivalent to a murderer, you ought not to vote for it that same person.

Juxtapose · Answer

What the heck is it with you women and wanting to submit so badly? What turns you off so much about being an equal?

SotiCoto · Answer

The votes won't change anything nor make any difference whatsoever... so you giving your husband your vote doesn't cost you anything significant. It isn't a big deal. You're just feeling smug about a worthless gesture.

loveslongnails · Answer

You might "think" it's a massive act of love, but what if you really disagreed with him? What if he were voting for a neo-Nazi, would that be ok for you? In my opinion, that's not love nor is it submission, it's mindlessness.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Lmao, why not sign over your human rights, while you're at it? 🤣 Girlie there ain't nothing good with being chattel for your boy.

DrPepper12 · Answer

you're INSANE!! YOU have agency and values and a future to direct as well!!!

WhitneySnow · Answer

I wouldn’t do that but that’s 100% your right if that’s what you want to do

Anonymous · Answer

Way to stab in the back all the hard work woman put in to giving you the ability to make that vote. Your choice though.

turnpost · Answer

is this like a voting fetish lol. For the most part your vote probably won't even matter. so idc

KatherineJ · Answer

There are other ways to show your love and devotion than giving up your voice.

msc545 · Answer

If you are unable or unwilling to think for yourself, you might as well just let him vote for you I guess.

Saretta · Answer

l'importante è che ti informi su chi voterai, non votare ad occhi chiusi, sarebbe un attentato alla libertà

smd_5545 · Answer

Along with that you shouldn't miss your opinion too

Apple1996 · Answer

Your husband must be controlling af

LazerBean · Answer

Okay. What is your question?

gorydetails · Answer

Sounds good.

eagle1951 · Answer

sorry for this , but that's dumb.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty sure that's legally questionable

Dongie · Answer

That's nice. I hope he's smart.

Anonymous · Answer

That would be a huge turn off for me.

DextroShade · Answer

This is the way 👏👏👏

NathanDavis · Answer

that's cringe

MrGSpotHer · Answer

It doesn't surprise me you would do this actually

HelpfulWoman · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Yes Vote TRUMP!!!

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